How good are you at compromising??

Question

We all know that in order to maintain a healthy relationship, compromises need to be met by BOTH partners....but this can be easier said than done. How good are u at compromising? In what areas do u have the most trouble compromising? And at what point (if any) do u think compromising is over-done and becomes too much of a self-sacrifice?

Answer 1

I compromise, but I don't submit to the will of others. A really good relationship invests mutual power in both partners. If someone wants me to be a pushover in the relationship, I break up with them in a heartbeat.

Answer 2

I try very hard to be compromising on everything I possible can with my partner. But sometimes I feel that being compromising gets me taken advantage of... Which a statement like, "but you do it so much better than I do!" I think that's where I realize that I'm over compromising and put my foot down, then ask for help till I basically receive it, I'm stubborn :)

Answer 3

I compromise way too much....I HATE conflict usually and give in......don't confuse it with weak because that i'm not but sometimes I'm too nice for my own good and want to seem like or be the cool GF all the time -_- lol. I have the most trouble compromising with my views of politics or stances on things like abortion (pro-choice am I) , etc. and religion or lack thereof (i'm Atheist) stuff like that. The point where it becomes too much self-sacrifice I guess if you like really sit down and think about things between you and your significant other and things just seem way too one sided and/or you giving into the other person too much really starts to make you unhappy.

Answer 4

"Compromise, if not the spice of life, is its solidity. It is what makes nations great and marriages happy" Sometimes we have to compromise something for people close to our heart.....if its true love we wont feel that as compromise or sacrifice...... May be in the beginning, we will feel like we lost something...but we can and we will easily come up, definitely no loss of hope coz we did that only for our loved ones :-) "The happiness of our loved ones will become essential for us" All your questions are very good :-) Have a great weekend sweet sis :-)

Answer 5

The definitions of compromise and self-sacrifice are different: in a compromise, someone else is participating. In self-sacrifice, you're pretty much alone in it.

Answer 6

I am quite good at it, actually -- But as you said, it takes two 'halves' to make a harmonious whole and, the fractional parts must contribute one-hundred percent to one another.

A good question to always ask yourself is this: 'How important is it?' Before you put a lot of energy into fighting for your side of something, you might want to calm down and try to get a little better perspective.

The other thing to ask yourself is this: Am I allowing other people to be themselves, or am I trying to regulate or control the world?

If you find that you are having 'control issues' on certain day, you might want to just let it be, until you have a better grip on reality.

But don't feel bad -- everyone has days when they feel desperate and angry -- blame it on the Blue Moon -- a very rare sight to see, visible tonight -- if you need to put blame somewhere . . .

And always remember to stop and take a deep breath. You'll feel better and the world will be glad you did!

Answer 7

My wife and I both hate compromising and are more than willing to let the other one know it! But we're good about taking turns. Everyone says you "shouldn't keep score," but it works for us. Usually, whatever the issue is, one of us has a real good reason for her point of view (for instance, my wife doesn't like me to cook with hot peppers because her nose is *very* sensitive) or cares about it more than the other (like when I want to paint something in the house, which is fairly often because painting something cheers me up.)

Answer 8

Umm...I like to think I'm okay at it. But, I'm sure there are some things I could have done better compromising with. I haven't had any complaints about it, so I guess I'm doing all right.

Answer 9

I can't say as I can name specific areas where I'm best or worst at compromise as it really varies dependent upon the circumstances, the day, the time, the reason...etc.

But whatever we've been doing, it must be working because my partner and I have been together now for over ten years.

Answer 10

i think i compromise too much. but considering my personal situation, i dont have much of a choice. but even if i did, my partner would still probably always "guilt" me into compromising (or use some similiar tactic that would work). im a softie :)