Staring at girls?

Question

I am newly married and every now and then I seem to be staring at girls unknowingly. How would I control this so that my wife does not feel disrespected?

I am getting better but still how do i control it

Answer 1

If you really want to banish this habit, you have to exercise some control from within yourself so that you don't err even involuntarily.

Answer 2

It's normal to look at the opposite sex, even if you are married! Do you think your wife doesn't notice if an attractive man walks by? Come on! Just because you NOTICE that someone is attracive doesn't mean that you act on every physical attraction. Oggling (tongue hanging out, making rude comments) is over the line, of course -- but trying to completely eliminate a normal human behavior is impossible, and you will only set yourself up for disappointment if you try.

If you are worried about disrespecting your wife, talk to her about it! Reassure her that it's okay for her to notice other people too, because we're only human. It's how we react to those situations that make us responsible, committed adults.

If I see a girl that I think my partner would find attractive, I'll usually comment after she's out of earshot, "Ooh, honey, she was pretty cute, don't you think?" He thinks it's great that I'll play along and not get upset -- since I know he's committed to me.

Communication is really the key, and the less big of a deal the two of you make about it, the easier it is to avoid staring all together. After all, if something isn't a taboo, it's usually not as tempting!! Good luck!

Answer 3

Maybe it isn't noticing beautiful people on the street that bothers women. I think it bothers women when they think that some guys are thinking of other women in a sexual way, being the type of guy that likes to check out every single woman who they could find even remotely sexually interesting, and frankly, we don't want guys like that. See, there's the difference.
I don't think you're the kind of guy that is "sexing up" all the "eye candy" on the street, so I wouldn't worry too much about noticing all people, beautiful or not. It wouldn't be natural or normal to be so unobservant that you never noticed that another woman was beautiful besides your wife.
You're obviously concerned about respecting your wife, which means that you DO respect her. She's a lucky woman.

Answer 4

Starring is a secondary issue. The primary issue is your interests. What is your interest in these girls? Yes, some are very attractive and will undoubtedly catch your eye, but ‘starring’ indicates an interest that shouldn’t exist for a married man. You need to change your level of interest in other girls and place it on your wife, and only your wife. Once your interest for looking (starring) at other girls decreases, your starring will go away as well.

Answer 5

At least you're doing it unknowingly. If you and your wife are together keep eye contact with her or anyone else that you are with. Try to not stare too far out of your group. Good luck

Answer 6

I mean you cant really help but look because that's just nature but just stop thinking about it I know you see pretty girls but if my boyfriend did that i would get pretty jealous but that's just me I'm sure your wife would feel bad to but everyone looks ever now and then but i give you credit because most guys would not care how it effects their wife or girlfriend so that's good just stop looking and concentrate on how beautiful your wife and how lucky you are but shes pretty lucky herself like i said most guys would not care

Answer 7

you are an A S S. seriously, if you don't STOP, you will get caught one day & find yourself in some serious stress with your wife. When she finds out, it will make her insecure & question herself whether she's good enough for you or not. You will make her lose trust in you & make her question your marriage. Why would you need to look at other women if you are married? If you really, truly love your wife, then you wouldn't be doing this.

Answer 8

some times it happens .but be make a control of it .if u wife noticies this she may think in a bad .if she takes that in a positive way thats fine if not you will be thrown into problems.one of my cousin she is noot spo pretty enough and in the early days of hey marriage her husband used to stare at evry girl she took that in a negative way and that became a serious problem and lead to divorce .you may be surprised of this but its true

Answer 9

I think it is human nature to be curious. Just always remind yourself of your wife's presence. Not encouraging you to look at girls when she's not around but if you must do so, then do it when she's not around. Try to put yourself in your wife's shoes if the situation is reverse. How would you feel if you wife can't keep her eyes of other men?

Answer 10

when you say "girls" I certainly hope you mean yound women over 18?! And if that is what you mean, than there should be no problem with looking at an attractive woman...you're married not dead...my husband looks but I know without a shadow of a doubt he would never stray...as long as your wife has that faith in you and your marriage what's the harm in looking at an attractive woman?

Answer 11

It is human nature to stare at things or people that are attractive. I laugh when my brother tells me, but when he is caught staring at a girl by his girlfriend he makes up something really quick like, "My god that girl is wearing way too much makeup." I would just try your best to pay enough attention to your wife that she doesn't feel threatened by innocent stares. I'm sure she does it too. Everyone does and if they say they don't they are lying.