I have an 11 month old who wants me to hold her and carry her around with me all the time, I wouldn't really mind except that I can't seem to get any house work done unless i put her down and let her cry which I hate and I can't carry her around because she weighs almost 30 lbs already. She probably wieghs so much because I'm sitting and nursing her all the time! lol
2007-05-31 05:17:46 · 19 answers · asked by Sidereality 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
When they start walking well they will not want you to hold them and they will get into everything you don't want them to. When you try to pick them up, they will want down. It is worse with boys. Girls like to be held a little more.
2007-05-31 05:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by kyeann 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know the answer to this! You need to strap her onto your back and get your housework done! Easier said than done, right? I have a Maya Wrap, but I've been wanting a mei tai for my growing kiddoes. If I position the baby just right on my hip, then my hips bear most of the weight and my shoulder and back are OK. I think a mei tai might be nicer for larger kids because you use both shoulders for more weight distribution. A wrap would work too. Good luck. Soon, she will be racing away at full speed and trying to wiggle out of your lap when you cuddle her. You're doing a great job; keep it up!
2007-05-31 07:15:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They grow out of it when you decide to let them cry. As long as you continually pick her up she will continue to want it. Instead you may try only holding her when you are sitting down, or take a few minutes every hour or so and show her how to play, get on the floor with her and explore her toys with her. Gradually give her a little room to explore and be on her own.
When you need to do work let her cry but soothingly let her know she is ok, this will make for a long day or two at first, but it will get better. And to tell the truth, some children are just naturally more independent than others, you may have a more natually clingy child.
I have three kids and my two older were fiercly independent while my last is more demanding of intimate time.
Good luck, your job as a mother is going to be the most challenging, and rewarding thing you will ever do!
2007-05-31 05:29:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
welcome to motherhood - mine is the same! don't stress - they get more clingy if you are stressed out. this phase won't last forever and it's lovely to give them cuddles! sounds silly but how about distracting her with some toys or buying her a mini version of what you're using and making it into a game - a bit more challenging if she's still crawling but workable....sometimes they just feel insecure and need reassurance. i also hate the idea of letting them cry seems so barbaric! i breastfed for a very very long time and when you're the food and the cuddles they are more clingy than bottlefed babies but the time goes so quickly i would say stuff the housework and enjoy her! once she's toddling she'll become 'little miss independent' and you may be asking her for cuddles instead! may you both have lots of hugs and giggles!
2007-05-31 05:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yeah shes still young and my son is the same way. what i have to do to get anything done is i put on his favorite songs and give him some things to occupy him. everyone tells me that tv isnt good at such a young age and to put him in a sling and carry him around with my while i do the housework. oh but no. i dont have the tv on all day just when i need to get somethings done. you can also do your house work while she is asleep. it might help. i hate to hear my son cry too so i know where your coming from
good luck
2007-05-31 07:20:57 · answer #5 · answered by pikzzi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some kids are just clingier than others. She'll probably grow out of it soon.
In the mean time why don't you try one of those baby slings. I've heard that you can use them until the baby is pretty big. It just kind of supports her sitting on your hip. Then at least you would have your hands more free so you can do stuff and it would give your arms a rest!
2007-05-31 05:30:32 · answer #6 · answered by -S.C.R.- 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I never grew out of it. I'm 25. 11 months is still okay. If she'd walking around and talking and still wants to be held, I'd have to say no most of the time. Unless she is sad.
2007-05-31 05:26:38 · answer #7 · answered by pvtpyro 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to get her out of that stage. If she knows you will pick her up then she will cry. If you show her that you will not hold her all the time then she will learn to adapt. It will be hard for you at first but it will get easier and later when you can get stuff done you will be glad you did. Good luck :)
2007-05-31 05:31:25 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ Nikkee D ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think when she'll grow out of that stage in a few months. There only in that stage for a short period of time.
2007-05-31 05:21:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
12 years old. lol You might want to let her just set her down with toys etc. if she cries then let her cry a little...you cant hold her all the time. After awhile she will know you wont pick her up even if she cries.
2007-05-31 05:21:20 · answer #10 · answered by Paige 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋