His ex wife offered to spend the nite with him after he got out of the hospital. Do you think that is ok too?
She is married. Do you think we should mention that little tid bit to her husband who works nites?
What do you think of that? Still think it is an innocent friendship which is healthy?
I really think its not appropriate in lite of the fact she is married to a really nice guy who has no idea what kind of shinnanigans she is up to.
I am a nurse and she knows it. Should I offer to spend the nite with her husband?
2007-05-31 03:48:52 · 9 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His 29 yr old son lived at home and his 24 yr old daughter and 28 yr old son lived within 5 miles. Only 1 of them had a job and the ex wife is not there mother.
2007-05-31 05:36:54 · update #1
I get along with my ex husband, but I would not spend the nite with him . I think it is ridiculous for her to offer. I would ask someone to check in on him, or I would have the kids stay with him, but I would not stay in his house because I honor my husband. Its flakey and not appropriate.
2007-05-31 05:41:51 · update #2
Also. It does not take sex to be cheating. Look at all these people having internet affairs.
2007-05-31 05:43:13 · update #3
Hi. I went out and read some of your other questions about this woman - the ex. Because just judging by this question, I detected a lot of bitterness and resentment and wow, I was right. You must really hate her and now I see why. Well I can comiserate with you there. My husband's ex cheated on him too, married the man, wouldn't let my husband see the kids, then he (her new husband) beats her and takes her money and since my husband is happy now and she's not, she's trying to ruin things. For awhile it was working, I was arguing with my husband left and right. But then a Y Answerer answered one of my questions very sensibly and was like "why are you stressing, he married you". And it was so true. Yes, this woman is vile, yes she's trying to take over the family and keep you shut out and she may even be trying to take your man - but be better than her! DO NOT feed into it. Act as if. Walk up to her and say hello every time you see her (as the saying goes, keep your friends close but your enemies closer). Look, never let em' see you sweat. If she's being inappropriate, then tell your husband to handle it. He needs to put her in her place once and for all. You can't stop the family from inviting her, you can't stop her from seeing the children, all you can control here is you and how you react to the situation. Your husband/bf should tell her "thanks, but (Name) will take care of me". And that be that. Good luck.
2007-05-31 05:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he just got out of the hospital, was he in a good enough condition to even have sex? My brother and ex-sister in law went through this when my brother was in the hospital. Just because you go through a divorce doesn't mean that you just stop caring about the other person, it means you can't live together anymore.What is your relationship with these people? Are you the girlfriend? If you are a nurse, why didn't you offer to spend the night? Do you know if she already talked to her husband about taking care of her ex when he went home from the hospital? Maybe he's one of those men that is secure in his relationship and was not threatened? Simply ask him what's up with the ex then go from there, deal with it or leave.
2007-05-31 04:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by foodieNY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that all depends on whether she offered as a way to take some the load off of you. If she truly only offered it out of friendship then where is the deciet. Is it possible her husband already knows she offered. If he just left the hospital and needed someone to attend to him because of his health the chances of anything unsordid happening are kinda low. And yes, if my ex-wife needed help, i would offer, she is still the mother of my children.
2007-05-31 03:55:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It tickles me when everyone says they have no problem with an ex-spouse. It is easy to answer that way in this forum. But I would be willing to bet that if your spouse needed help and their ex offered to stay with them ... it would not be as comfortable as you all make it sound. Everyone should get along with their former spouses but there are some bounderies that should be in place. It is not a matter of distrust, it is a matter of..this is your relationship. This patient probably has a mom/dad, sister/brother, grandparents, etc that could help him recover while his current partner is at work. And if the patients ex is offering to help and not telling her current spouse, then she is doing something she feels guilty about. This generation has gotten so lax in our devotion to our marriages that prior marriages seems to remain involved. Other than taking care of children...former spouses should remain in the background...not front and center.
2007-05-31 04:34:58 · answer #4 · answered by jtcurry58 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First - I am assuming that this is your boyfriend or husband in which case, it is very innapropriate for her to offer unless you were going to be working and could not help care for him.
Secondly, where is the trust between you & him? It does not seem like there's much of any if you are concerned that simply because she offer's, he will take her up on it.
Third, if at all possible it is always in the best interests for people to divorce on a healthy level. Life is short and divorce is ugly because most people are unwilling to admit they did anything wrong. This is not referring to those that are abused.
2007-05-31 04:12:09 · answer #5 · answered by martiek7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe her current husband knows about her spending the night with him to care for him. If he had just gotten out of the hospital, I'll bet he was too ill to do anything illicit.
I think I don't make a judgement about someone based on about 50% of the facts.
2007-05-31 04:26:44 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO to wrongs don't make a right and this little afair she is having she should get over it because its defintly not just a freindship if your sleaping with your ex you should tell her husband whats going on. Because shes breaking the law!
2007-05-31 04:26:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! It's healthy to have a good relationship with your ex when you have kids. My ex & I don't have any kids so we don't even talk, nor would I want to.
2007-05-31 03:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by retropink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on the guy is sick and you woman are still worried who's going to get that banana
2007-05-31 03:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋