Do you feel that everyone is pretty much busy with their own life?

Question

I am divorced and currently live with my parents. I am looking to move out soon. My daughter is 15 and lives with her grandmother in another state. He Dad moved due to job reasons during the middle of the school year.

I am finding that being divorced can be lonely at times. Everyone is busy with their own life.

I e-mail my brother because we had a misunderstanding and he does not reply. He does talk to my daughter, but not me.

I call my cousin asking if we can get together some weekend (she lives about 6 hours away) and she does not reply.

Everyone is so busy with their own life and now my daughter does not want to talk to me also. She talks to my brother and mother, but not me.

Its like I am basically alone and have to find things to keep myself busy. When you are married and have a family, time takes care of itself. You are so busy with the house and children.

Its an adjustment and not easy to deal with.

Answer 1

As a guy who went through this some time ago, I can empathize. The trick is to get out, and meet people. Go into a store, and ask a question about an item. You don't have to buy it. Join a gym, and get into an exercise group. Start thinking about dating again. Take a good look at yourself, and then re-package yourself, in an attractive way. You are now getting ready to promote yourself, and get back into "the game".

Answer 2

Absolutely. My children are now grown, my husband died five years ago, my parents are gone as well, my favorite younger cousin died suddenly last year, and all of my friends live in other states.

I live in a city that I truly dislike (particularly in the summer), and hardly even know anyone here. I want to move, but the children who are in this town may need me--for instance, one has a court case coming up (as the defendant).

I have a brother in another state, but he and his wife both work--and overtime, and their son, my nephew, just got married and moved in with them--I rarely hear from any of them.

I am living on a widow's pension, my car is broken down, so I'm stuck in a city I dislike almost all of the time. The heat here is so bad that I can hardly get out and walk for health and exercise (and it's not safe to walk at night).

I know exactly where you're coming from, everyone is too busy to spend any time with me. The only thing that helps, when I can afford to do so, is to take classes at the community college. I take classes that I'm interested in--mostly in writing and the social sciences. There I meet people who have similar interests (even though I only know them for short periods of time). It does help, somewhat, and keeps me busy.

Answer 3

Maybe you could date someone or start new activities or sports?
I live alone with my 5 years old son, and it is true that le world is selfish ....
But keep smiling,life will show you some new friends.

Answer 4

Professor Fan No Longer Suffers from Depression

Written by a Dafa practitioner from Taiwan


(Clearwisdom.net) Professor Fan teaches at a technical institute in Taiwan. From the time when he was a student in college, he had suffered from painful bouts of depression. For the last twenty years, he was a student in a certain school of practice. For eight to nine years, he had accepted treatments from the body and mind section of that school and took medicine. When his illness came on strong, the most difficult thing to endure was a tight feeling on the left side of his face. The tightness caused pain that spread over his entire face and eventually enveloped his whole head in pain, causing him serious sleep loss and worsening his already low mood. At the most critical moment, when he was preparing to resign from the university faculty and was seriously contemplating suicide, Professor Fan was fortunate to encounter Falun Dafa.

On the third day of last Chinese New Year, Professor Fan's colleague recommended him to me and sought my assistance as a counselor. However, I knew well the limitations of counseling and mental healing. Even though he took the best medicine currently available in treating depression, combined with counseling, it was hard to say if that would completely cure his stubborn depression. However, I had witnessed many patients who were entangled by melancholia and manic depression for many years, who had been able to walk out of the valley of death and experience a rebirth because they began practicing Falun Dafa.

After talking for about one hour, two Dafa practitioners and I introduced Falun Dafa to Professor Fan. We invited him to attend the next nine-day seminar. A miraculous change began from this moment.

Two new Dafa practitioners, Professor Fan and Mrs. Fan, respectfully listened to Master Li Hongzhi's lectures. Prior to this, Professor Fan also disposed of several hundred volumes of books from other schools of practice.

When listening to Master Li's lectures, Professor Fan was anxious and it was difficult for him to be tranquil. At the end of the first lecture, two Dafa practitioners saw he was suffering, and so they decided to accompany the couple home.

After the Dafa practitioners sent forth righteous thoughts, Professor Fan suddenly calmed down and immediately told them of the strange scene he saw. He said, "In the front, there hangs layer upon layer of waterfalls. A middle-aged man sits on a big stone beside a brook. Two eyes are staring at him wickedly. The strange thing is that the left side of the man's mouth is bleeding." Professor Fan then said, "Dafa's Master appears and goes toward the man and mercifully holds his hand and seems to speak to him." After a while, Professor Fan added, "Later on, Master left and the picture disappeared!"

The wonder was that the tight feeling in Professor Fan's left cheek was wiped out at once. After one week of straight sleep loss, he had a calm and continuous sleep that evening. On the second day, he cheerfully drove his car with his wife to visit his grandmother. His sister-in-law witnessed this. It was very difficult for her to imagine how her brother-in-law, who had been weak and weary because of his illness the day before, had unexpectedly become like a new person after one night. Witnessing this miracle also helped to bring his elder sister-in-law, younger sister-in-law, and his wife's parents to practice Falun Dafa later on.

Professor Fan witnessed Dafa's wonder. At present, he continues to teach, and has enlightened that the man he saw bleeding from the left corner of the mouth had a direct relationship with the tightness he used to have in the left side of his own face.

February 13, 2007

http://www.clearwisdom.net/emh/31/