im almost 17 years old and my boyfirned just turned 18, He is leaving for the marines right after he graduates which happens to be on sunday. Im not sure if im pregnant or just really nurvious but if i am and i find out after he leaves.. if i have no contact what should i do? idk if i shoud keep it or adoption or worse case abortion...
2007-05-31 02:15:32 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Before you start speculating, take a pregnancy test.
If you are pregnant, consider adoption because a baby needs a mother and father who are married. This does not apply to your situation.
Abortion is not an option. It may be a choice, but it's always a bad choice.
2007-05-31 02:20:26 · answer #1 · answered by Veritas 7 · 2⤊ 5⤋
You need to take a pregnancy test before you get all worked up. If you are pregnant then I suggest you tell him and your parents, they can help guide you in your decision, but ultimatly the decision is YOURS.
Although I believe it is your choice on whether or not you have an abortion I will ALWAYS advocate adoption before abortion. You may have the chance to bring joy into the lives of a couple who are unable to have children, at least consider it as an option. If you keep the baby you are looking at a long road, but it can be a wonderful one. You would not be the first young girl to have a child, just make sure you make the right choice for yourself.
But before you worry too much take a test.
2007-05-31 02:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do decide to keep the baby, I would deeply asses your situation (do you have a job? someone to help with the baby? can you afford daycare? have you graduated? do you have plans to go to college? how does your boyfriend feel about the situation?) and talk over your decision with a close friend or relative. If possible, talk to a counselor with experience in this area.
I would highly suggest adoption if you are pregnant and don't want to keep the baby!
Adoption is a very viable option as opposed to abortion. There are so very many loving couples looking for a baby (including my husband and I) that you would have no problem finding a good home (like ours!) for placement!
There were over 50,000 abortions performed last year in Michigan alone and only around 5,000 adoptions. There are many people on wating lists for years to adopt a newborn!
Please feel free to contact me offlist at monica@instantassistant.com!
I will keep you and your boyfriend in my prayers and hope you make a decision that is right for you (and your baby) in the long run!
Monica :-)
2007-05-31 02:31:39 · answer #3 · answered by Monica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hun, my boyfriend is 24 and im 19. hes in the army and left for iraq two months ago for an 18 month tour. im pregnant and we still keep in contact every day. theres no reason why the contact would end or why you would think of aborting the baby just because hes gone. no offense but if you knew he was leaving and had a thought in your mind that you wouldnt speak after he left, there is no reason why the heck you should have been sleeping with him.
2007-05-31 02:23:21 · answer #4 · answered by jeni b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does him going into the Marines have to do with keeping a baby or not? I don't see the connection there.
Have you talked to him about the possibility of being pregnant? Stress can delay your period. Try to calm down. See a doc before he leaves if possible. Or, wait till he leaves, doesn't really matter. You can wait to tell him, or write him a letter. There isn't ZERO contact in boot camp, it's just more limited. Best of luck.
2007-05-31 03:32:00 · answer #5 · answered by duckygrl21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a decision only you can make...you have to weigh out our options any talk with your boyfriend and your family. You can raise a baby on your own for awhile if he wants to be involved...look at all the other military wives and girlfriends who have gone through pregnancy, child birth, and raising their baby alone while their husbands/boyfriends were away. Adoption too is always an option, but you need to find out what your boyfriend feels as it is his child too. As far as abortion goes, I dont recommend that to anyone...the women I know that have had one regret it and are still emotionally scarred from it years later. Either way you go It is a big decision and one you need to take time for yourself to make.
Good luck
2007-05-31 02:22:57 · answer #6 · answered by JLee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your period is late, go take a test. What is happening with your relationship? Are you planning to keep in touch? I personally do not believe in abortion. I think that if you do not want the baby, you should have it anyway and give it up for adoption. If you are pregnant, he also deserves to know.
2007-05-31 02:21:36 · answer #7 · answered by Kellie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well don't panic yet. You might just be feeling that way because he is going away. Wait until you know for sure but I would suggest adoption. Your both a little young for a baby yet especially if you are not planning to marry. Give the baby to a childless couple and you will make them very happy. He has enough on his plate but do let him know if you test positive.
2007-05-31 02:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Tapestry6 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't abort, and talk to him before he leaves about the whole situation. I you think you are ready for a baby and your family is willing to help then keep it. If you are not ready for a baby don't think of all adoptions as never seeing your baby. They have a thing called Open-Adoptions where you can see your baby for holidays and its birthday. Plus you get to pick the family you want for your child.
2007-05-31 02:21:52 · answer #9 · answered by Trinidy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think of the Royal Marines have as many casualties with the aid of fact the Rifles, yet having stated that i'm basically going by potential of comments that come out of Afghanistan. i think of it may count on the section you're struggling with in and the variety of interest you're doing. conflict is a horrendous company and that i'm so very, very grateful to those who've regarded the negative aspects they're taking and settle for them.
2016-10-30 08:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you are and dont want it go for an adoption....you dont want to have kids later on down the road and really regret aborting that baby...good luck
2007-05-31 02:19:21 · answer #11 · answered by Renee 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋