Why did I get so screwed in life?

Question

I am a guy just turning 31 and I am getting incredibly depressed because I realized, because of a combination of poor choices and bad luck, my life is totally screwed up.

I received a masters degree in biology from a top school in 2000. Because of a poor economy and a non-technical degree I had a very hard time finding a job. Finally I found a job doing something I hated, I switched comapnies 3 times but nobody wanted to hire me for anything else.
Two years ago, I was finally able to make a career change to finance and consulting.
Now I'm losing my job, and nobody wants to even interview me because my career experience/degree are too mixed and specialized in unrelated fields.
The only interviews I am offered are for positions doing the original thing I hated.

I am also single. Over the years I have had several girlfriends and relationships but never fell in love. Now I am old, and I never met anyone who liked me that I even felt strongly about to continue seeing.

Answer 1

Don't worry, you are mixing up your life so that you can create a new recipe' and if you are unable to come out of the depression, consider treatment. There are several options, counselling, modern meds, alternative treatment options, just exercise, a break from routine etc.

Answer 2

I can speak from experience on this. I have a Master's Degree in Education and my most recent job was a truck driver. I have also worked as a health club manager, dog trainer, horse trainer, furniture salesman. I have also been married three times.

You are still young. The trick is not to loose your focus. I eventually found a position where all my experience came together in one job. I now teach basic skills to help underpriveledged kids to find and land a job. I have had so many jobs and have looked for jobs so often that now I am an expert.

I have been recently married and this women is the women of my dreams. I look back and ask myself why I married the other women and I find that is was never because of true love, there was always something else.

I am 43 and have been at this job for 2 months. I have been promoted twice and gotten a raise. Now I have been asked to move up in the company and relocate for much more money. My wife thinks the change will be great for us.

Focus and don't get discouraged. Just keep trying and doing what you have to until what you want happens.

Answer 3

What you really need to do at this point of time is to undergo,what is called as 'Mid course correction'.Take a break of 12 to 18 months and prepare for a career which you like and has a good market for it.You have to work out about the means to sustain yourself during this period and tighten your belt.31-32 yrs is not an advanced age but practically the right age at which most people do it.Forget the past and look for future.As per life-event cycle theory,your chances of success are more than 85 percent.Do not hesitate to take help or assistance from anybody.Life would provide ample chances to return these to the rightful people.Make your mind and JUST DO IT.Good luck.

Answer 4

Biology that you majored in obviously doesn't have too many career options, that might've been where you first went wrong, I'm really sorry that you can't get a good job that you like..you might have to go back to school to either study finance more or whatever and as for the relationships it maybe because your so distant from the worry about work and how much you hate it you know?

Answer 5

I fortuanatly never had to deal with this situation so I am speakin in terms of a positive mind. I dont know how young the child is but if the child is old enough to make some decisions I would just say stay in a positive mind, remember that the divorce had nothing to do with him or her. Stay in school and remember both parents love them even though their relationship didnt work. It will be hard for the child but as long as the child moves on and continues to make his or her life work and is strong willed it wont screw up his or her life. But it will be hard to deal with at firs to say the least esp if the parent he or she is with meets another partner.

Answer 6

I would fill out apps and resume's without the career changes in them.Don't put down those because of what you experianced.Women.You are not old I am 49 ,never looked very hard to get married or GFs.A lot of dry years.There are
many things you could do at this age there is still time .I hate my job,blue collar,very hard work,it pays the bills but,slow to gain savings.To late to do what I like.It takes $100,000.00.

Answer 7

Actually, you sound frustrated. But, quite normal. A lot of people go to College before they are positive about what they "truly want to do" with their lives, and what "it takes to get there."
If you really do have "a goal" in mind, of what you want to do. Focus on that!
*Get the crappy jobs for now that will help put the pieces together on where you want to be.
The "jobs" won't bother you as much, if they are helping you to reach your goal.
Yes, it may take more time and more money. But, you will still be reaching your goal, and that is a life worth living.
Don't settle for anything less!

Answer 8

You are screwed, yes,, you surely are,,because you are looking at the glass half empty,instead of half full,, and,, you should be loking forward to filling it up, not draining it a drop at a time. Look for a job, or career in doing something you like,even if it means rewriting a resume, to exclude a masters in Biology, unless you wish to have a fishfry!

Answer 9

your job thing will fall into place, it sucks to hate your job, but at least it is a job. There are some people out there without jobs. as for the girlfriend thing, don't look. you will be suprise what you will find when you are not looking. It also sounds like you need to like yourself first, if you don't you will never get anyone else like you. you need some self confidence.

Answer 10

You are too young to think that your life has been screwed. Someone will come along one day and you will know love. As far as your career, I think that you could keep persuing anything you would like and get it. Havent you always heard that if you want something bad enough you can get it.
Good Luck!