What would you say to a man that would tell you this?

Question

He said: If a married man cheated on his wife once and never did it again, she should not divorce him, she should forgive him and stay with him. If he cheats all the time though, then yes she has the right to divorce him."

Answer 1

sorry but if he cheated on me even once he would be out the door and his clothes would be on the lawn . this girl dont give second chances .

Answer 2

I feel that cheating is not acceptable whether its once or twice or several times after....How would you know if your partner or spouse cheats again after he or she did it once?? That means you have to stay within the relationship or marriage and wonder if it will ever happen again...Reguardless, of how many times it happened, once the trust is broken its really hard to mend it...Not everyone is perfect and we don't live in a perfect world neither but, I feel when you truly love the person your with there should be no reason to want to desire or to be with someone else....If that's the case then you should leave the person your with...Hurting the one you love is never okay...It's not right to have that person who has been loyal and committed to you to suffer for the choices and mistakes you make within the relationship or marrige.....
p.s what was your husband trying to say by his question?? maybe what you should do if it was him.....

Answer 3

I would say if a man cheats once why would a wife want to live the rest of her life wondering when he would do it again? I would let him know that if a man cheated on you in the marriage that would be a deal breaker and he would not get no second chance. Tell him in your eyes once a cheater always a cheater and if he ever thought to do that to you his butt is gone. So tell him you are very glad that he understands how you feel and if he ever thinks to make that mistake you'll never live with him to make another one. good luck sweetie.

Answer 4

I think he has a good point. If you love someone, you make exceptions. I am not at all saying it's the right thing, cheating, or course. But, you would make an exception if you loved him...and hopefully just the one.

But, I don't like the way you put "to a man'". That makes me think that you have already categorized him with pieces of crap from your past that you call a stereotypical "man". If you aren't sure he's cheated, don't start the wheelhouse with questions on here for answers about how you can retaliate against him.

Answer 5

Sounds like he is defending his own behavior. Besides that, I think that whether a women can forgive a man for cheating is up to her and depends on the circumstances of the situation. If it really was just once and she believes that and can forgive than why not stay. But staying is completely up to her and whether she can live with what he did or not.

Answer 6

I would say that this guy is grasping at straws.

If he would have kept his pants up in the first place, then he would not be in a position to have to make up these LAME excuses.

If she truly believes in him, and his is truly being honest when he says he will never cheat again, I guess it could work. But that means there is a LOT of work ahead of them in the relationship. They are going to need to rebuild the whole trust between them. Some people just aren't willing to do the repairs for the damage they cause...know what I mean?

Answer 7

I would tell him ''Yes,you are right, but just because he cheats doesn't mean that the wife should get a divorce right away. She should have more rights then that,and reason fairly. If she oes the things above,she has a real court matter.''

Answer 8

It's a reasonable statement. Most married couples have a lot invested in each other to toss it all away for one incident if the parties can forgive and move on. Some people can't; in which case divorce is the only answer.

Answer 9

I think u should see whats the problem and why he has cheated on u. Maybe there is problem with u in his mind. Any way i think if u forgive him this is very admirable for u :)
and if he repeat it again so sure divorce him.

Answer 10

There are different standards everywhere in matters sexual. Historically, divorce was introduced into England by a statute of 1857. A husband could divorce a wife for one act of adultery, but a wife had to prove it was persistent.

So there are people who think that in good faith, unless he is using this as a plan to get in your pants, in which case, lose him.

Answer 11

I would say honestly it isn't up to him. It is up to the wife that he cheated on. She may feel that she can stay with him and it won't change the relationship or she can deal with it. Or she may not feel that she can trust him or feelings change. Its not his decision . I know your friend who said this is entitled to his belief but the wife can do whatever she wants to do and it shouldn't be seen as wrong if she leaves him. If he has a belief like that- he is probably has cheated on his wife.