Hey, I need some advice. Church camp is right around the corner, in one month, and since I am not very social and tend to spend my spare time on the computer, I need some help to overcome my anti-socialness and have longer conversations. I'm going to be spending a week with other Christains. Another problem is I don't know what to talk about, because everything I do isn't very christain, like playing violent computer games and always arguing with my family or smokin it up with my brother. What can I do to stop being so anti-social and what kinds of things could I talk about? I sometimes get real nervous when I'm talking and stutter when someone puts me on the spot. HELP PLEASE!!!
2007-05-30 19:20:01 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well, i'm 16 and some of the people i will be talking to is adults and girls, i dont think girls wanna hear me talk about video games! lol
2007-05-30 19:28:17 · update #1
Be yourself. Sometimes we get nervous around other people because we are too concerned about making a good impression. You wanna be liked too much sometimes that you fail to be, YOU. Of course, if it's Church camp, I won't recommend talking about "smoking" and stuff lol. Try to listen to what they have to say too, and build on that. Be confident. You would be surprised to find out how other Christians can be hardcore gamers too (ahem). Nobody is perfect, be your cool self, and just have fun!! Goodluck!!
xxx
2007-05-30 19:29:12 · answer #1 · answered by Shaycoholic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the other campers are kids just like you. Don't be afraid to talk to people. The best fun I had as a kid was at church camp. The late night cabin raids and shaving cream wars in the woods! You will find you didn't even miss your stupid computer. Just go and talk. Open mouth, have fun and above all RELAX! I was a social inept kid too. I had no social skills what so ever-I am 39 and still talk to friends I made at church camp.
2007-05-30 19:26:03 · answer #2 · answered by Stefbear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit smokin up and go talk to God.
Don't worry the Christ will take care of you.
You've nothing to get nervous about brother, believe me if the women and men in the camp are Christians they aren't going to be bothered by your nervousness. With that you will feel confident enough to relax and leave the stutter behind.
Talk about aesthetics.
Talk about popsicle stands.
You can talk about the different birds about you, without knowing the species or whatever. If you don't know a chicka dee from a sparrow them make a game out of it and start calling them names you make up. Chances are most people wouldn't know a titmouse from a wren.
There are as many things to talk about as there are things you can see with your own two eyes.
God bless you and take care.
2007-05-30 19:40:08 · answer #3 · answered by the old dog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask people questions about themselves, other people always like to talk about themselves. Also, a lot of the other Christians also play video games and argue with their families, so no one is perfect. You can read books on how to get along better with others, like anything by Dale Carnegie. Lots of people have the same problem, especially at your age. You'll be okay, just know that others have the same worries you do!
2007-05-30 19:24:13 · answer #4 · answered by Katherine W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the first step to overcome shyness is to stop caring what people think about you. Let yourself be who you are and don't be afraid to show it. It sounds like you lack confidence and hide behind your computer.
Just put yourself out there. I'm sure you'll find you have a lot more in common with other kids than you think.
2007-05-30 19:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be sure and take a good supply of condoms. Many lose their virginity at church camp. Does your church have a gay minister?
ask him about it.
2007-05-30 20:15:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋