My boyfriend was my bestfriend for 2 years before we started dating. I met him at 13 we started dating at almost 16, we are now both 20. He used to love me so much i am sure of this. However lately he is so distant from me, we never talk on the phone except for 5 min. conversations. He always chooses his friends over me, we only hang out for 1-3 hours the times we do hang out *once a week or so *. he only works weekends so it's not that he is busy in work. i confront him and ask him if he wants to break up, he says no. But his attitude seems like he is not into me or our relationship. Do you think maybe he just does not want to be the one who breaks up the relationship, we are teenage sweethearts, and he was my first in everything. Should i dump him?
2007-05-30 18:14:40 · 11 answers · asked by Sam 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh honey...
You're growing apart. That's what happens when you try getting into serious relationships that young. You're both still growing up and learning little by little about the person that you truly are. (believe me, you don't know anything yet)
Let him go, it's obvious that he doesn't desire a relationship with you. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who will cherish you, not ignore you.
2007-05-30 19:17:08 · answer #1 · answered by MsLongBeach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you want to stay together or break up? If you want to stay together, then start hanging out with YOUR friends , be busy when he calls, act a little distant , wait for him to call you, etc. The last thing you want to be is available just whenever he finally is done with all his crap and decides to throw you a couple of hours. I guarantee he will( 98% chance!! ) change his tune and be the one to start wanting more of YOUR time! And on the off chance that he really just doesn't want to be together any more then that will get cleared up too. Give it a couple of weeks of you doing your own thing instead of waiting around for him and I bet you will be amazed!!!
2007-05-31 01:25:51 · answer #2 · answered by trixxxi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try reverse tactics on him. Ignore him like the plague. Don't call him, don't look for him, find something else to do, no matter how hard it is to do that. You will be amazed at how he will come around trying to find out what you are doing. It really does work. You see you are the needy one right now the cling on and that gives him all the power. Change that by ignoring him and you will gain the upper hand. It works like a charm. Give it a try.
2007-05-31 01:24:15 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please, please, please dump him. You have no relationship anymore. Don't hang on to something that isn't there. Move on to better things, otherwise you'll waste away and lose more self-esteem than you already have. Don't think having a man guarantees you unconditional happiness. You'll be fine. Make a list of characteristics you really want in a guy (not the one you're dumping) and go for that type. Not the type you're stuck with right now. Guys like him are worthless. Good luck.
2007-05-31 02:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by blue25tulip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like the two of you not only grew up but also grew apart, and maybe he takes you for granted because you've always been there. You might make yourself unavailable for him and maybe stay away for awhile to show him you can have a very exciting life without him. They say abscence makes the heart grow fonder, so why not try it. Good Luck.
2007-05-31 01:48:02 · answer #5 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit down with him and ask him why he doesn't try to make time for you and what in the relationship is making him want to stay with you and if his answer isn't suitable for you I think that you should break up with him in less you all can try to work it out since it is your teenage sweetheart. Best wishes.
2007-05-31 01:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by anonymous beauty 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sound's like I Don't want to hang out with you!
But I don't want you to Hang out with anybody else!
selfish and self centered is the term i would use.
Tell him your moving out see if he has a reality check or not?
2007-05-31 01:22:42 · answer #7 · answered by kiphyn b 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is because you are too young, you are frankly both still kids. You haven't had your time to be wild and grow - separately.
2007-05-31 06:13:02 · answer #8 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im in the same boat and im leaving him soon, he never has time for me never calls nor texts any more and lies and cheats so at least he hasnt cheated on you yet, get out before he does,
2007-05-31 02:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥**•.¸¸verbalkint♥**•.¸¸ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of just dumping him - why don't you talk to him...ask if he feels that the two of you have grown up and grown apart...and if you think you are better off ending things and being friends....
2007-05-31 01:27:12 · answer #10 · answered by allrightythen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋