I used to just make up a fake name and email address and flirt with him through email, but he found out. Now I want to try it again but need a better more hidden way of doing it. I am willing to do anything to see if he would even THINK about cheating on me if a woman wanted to have sex with him. What should I do?
2007-05-30 17:53:13 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S. My best friend has told me that he has hinted to her he would like to have sex with her
2007-05-30 18:13:04 · update #1
If you're thinking of tricking your husband there is something wrong somewhere. What gives you reason to mistrust him? If you have a gut feeling that he might cheat then your instinct might be right. Has he shown you that he is capable of being a cheater?
If he hasn't given you any reason to doubt him then you are playing with fire. Leave it alone and work on trusting him.
2007-05-30 18:00:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
I think you have a serious problem. Why would you want to do that??? If you don't trust him then you should not have married him in the first place. Does he give you a reason to question his fidelity? Has there ever been any wrong doing of his part? If there has you chose to forgive him that is why you are still married so let it go, what happened is in the past. Now if he hasen't hten why go out looking for it. If it hasn't happened yet why do you think it will happen. Stop it, get a grip before he finds out what you are doing and you lose him for a very stupid reason. Get help if you have trust issues. Good luck
2007-05-30 18:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by hotmommylb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you don't trust your husband, and trust is the foundation of a good marriage. You are headed for trouble. And exactly what would you do if he were to respond to your little trick? He may not even be thinking about cheating but because you don't trust him, he may decide to go ahead and do it. A marriage can't survive without trust. I suggest you see a therapist to figure out why you are so distrustful and insecure.
Oh and BTW, that best friend of yours? She may be just a bit shady herself. How do you know she don't want you and your husband to break up. She may be jealous of you. You trust what your best friend says but not your husband...That's high school. Appreciate your husband before you drive him away and you can do without the BFF. That should be your husband anyway
2007-05-30 18:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by kgee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where do I begin to tell You just how politically IN-correct Your suggestion really is?
How is this for an idea: You get someone to send Him a copy of Your question (and the name of a good Divorce Lawyer) and see if He jumps into bed with the first decent Woman He meets. Tough call as to just how long that would take. My guess would be somewhere between reading Your question, and when He tells You to get out of His life!
Now You know what happened to all the decent Men: They came into contact with Women of Your ilk! If You don't want to be married, say so. If You don't think Your Husband is trustworthy, ask Yourself why that would be. Give a Man grounds for divorce and He will take them just to be rid of a wife like You.
2007-05-30 19:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by Ashleigh 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to do something like that?... Sounds to me like you don't trust him, or your hopeing to be hurt and or afraid hes going to hurt you. First of all when your man is on the computer you need to give him his space as well as you prob like yours when you on line. If you think your man would cheat on you, then you need to stand back and look at your life together to see if theres trust there. Most usally when a woman wants to find out if her man is cheating is because hes done it before or because they are feeling gulity because they've done it on line or in life. So what would your husband think about you tricking him into something like that, and what if the shoe were on the other foot? Stop and think why you two are together.I think if you went through with this that someones going to get hurt or looking to be hurt in the long run. Your choice you have to make it.
2007-05-30 18:04:28 · answer #5 · answered by angel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why play games? Have you been cheated on in the past? Perhaps seeing a counselor would help you a lot with trust issues. I'll take a stab in the dark and say that hubby is fed up with your paranoia too. I mean no offense at all. If you can help settle these issues of trust you will live a much happier life.
2007-05-30 17:59:49 · answer #6 · answered by sticky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, it would be fun to trick others and not be tricked in return. But you should keep in mind if you play with the fire you'll get burned .So make sure that you are in safe ground. If your husband lose track and decided to just let the fate take him over, will you be able to bear the damage.When you get burned the wound will get healed eventually yet the scar will remain and will haunt you always. So, think throughly before you act. I personally don't advice you on that mission or rather interlude.
2007-05-30 18:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by sharon 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must have no job, no morals, low self esteem and nothing else better to do with yourself. If your husband cheats on you obviously he wasn't meant to be your husband. Haven't you heard of the saying "Whats done in the dark will come to the light"? If he cheats on you, trust me you will find out. No matter if it's a year later. Try some counseling.
2007-05-30 17:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ashima 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you need to either leave him or learn to trust him . use to do the same thing but it turned out that it is me that has the issues and not him. i always up to a few weeks ago thought that he is always looking or wanting to be with other women cause i was his type when we met but now i have gain almost 80 lbs in a year ( i have a 9 month old and 7 months pregnant ... 40 lbs with each pregnancy) however i had to realize that he goes to work , works his butt off and comes home to spend time with his family and tells me how beautiful i am (even though i dont think its true) and he does it all cause he loves us! trust him till he gives you a reason not to, you owe him that
2007-05-30 18:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by MADDYSMOMMY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Definitely NOT a good idea. If you're at the point where you distrust him that much, then there's something wrong with your relationship. You might want to seek counseling or maybe some time apart. Rethink your choices. Usually this sort of activity always backfires on you, so be warned!
2007-05-30 17:57:13 · answer #10 · answered by anndoodle 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋