Should I get a divorce?

Question

We have been married for 6 years and have 2 kids, but now she just wants to fight all the time and im no longer happy,,,but I cant stand the thought of not sleeping in the same house every night with my kids...To sum it up, thats why I am with her at this point.

Answer 1

Please try counseling. By yourself first and if she gives you trouble tell her that something is wrong and you just want to be happy again. Fight to the death to keep it together for your kids. Something is going on with her to want to fight all the time and it may not even be you but until you are healthy you can't fix your relationship.

You owe it to your kids to try.

Answer 2

i think the first step is you two going to dinner or to a park, and you need to sit down with her and tell her how you feel and what you are wanting in your marriage. Tell her what you are willing to do to make that happen, and ask her what she wants in the marriage, and what is she willing to do to make that work.

I always think you need to start by opening up to her first. If that doesn't work, and you both agree you want your marriage to work ... the go to counseling.

I understand staying in a marriage for kids. Going on 11 years now. It's very hard. Sometimes I think...is this really what marriage is all about??"?? And, would I be happier in my own place???

But, what makes my heart heavy and my eyes water is the thought of not being with my babies every night. That hurts.

Sounds like you feel the same way.
So give it a whirl.

And, a healthy environment is what is most important for your kids growing up...and if that means two households, then that is what it means.

But, you should try working at it first...and work at it for at least a year. And really, in my marriage, I've never had the luxury of NOT working at it. It is work...not every day... but there are certainly lots of days that are.

Good Luck!

Answer 3

I think you shouldn't be divorce. You know when you decide to married with him and now you have two kids so I think you and Ur wife have a good felling for each other. And now why she always do like this for you. I think you should be look about yourself first maybe you had to do something wrong with her or can make her angry but you didn't know about that so you just try to find ur activity and u do before. Second, you can ask her why she do like that to you, maybe she doesn't love you like before and what happened with both of you?. Thirth you can make her happy like find some place that you ever go with her and make her happy, I think you do all of this for her and she doesn't accept it, I think don't have only choose so you should divorce but when you divorce with her try to ask her how does she think about Ur kids.
I hope you can find the best ways for you to show this problem.
Good Luck.

Answer 4

I understand you love your kids and you want to stay for that reason but the kids deserve more. Kids can sense when things are not right. They don't need to be around the arguing or the unhappiness. I totally understand what you are going through because I went through it and I have three kids. But I love my kids enough to walk away from a bad situation.
You can try counseling that might help.

Answer 5

I feel so sorry for you.
Often people stay for this reason!

Is there not any reason you two care for eachother? (Other than the kids?)

Have you tried to talk to her?

What about ~Marriage counseling ?

I know women can be royal b*%#@*s and need to be made straight on WHO is the ruler of the roost!
Put it to her in a nice way.
I have been there. I can be a royal b.... But then my hubby sets me straight!
I have had some serious hormonal issues.
This is a possibility w/ her.
Try and talk to her and tell her how YOU FEEL !
Men do not like to talk about their feelings.
Don't wait until it is too late!
TRY WITH ALL YOU HAVE TO MAKE IT WORK.

Good luck to you!
Hope all works out for the best .

Answer 6

I would suggest a long heart to heart talk. You say she just wants to fight all the time, that means that she's not happy and she just wants to make you unhappy, whether she knows it or not. Misery does love company. Because you both love your children, you owe it to them to try and see if the love for each other is still there. Try counseling, I suggest couples therapy and individual therapy to find out why she is lashing out. We know why you aren't happy, find out what's making her want to fight all the time and you may have a chance. Good luck.

Answer 7

There is a reason why she's fighting with you all the time.. have you tried discussing it? Try marriage counciling and if that doesn't work, then I guess divorce is the last option. Your kids don't diserve to go through your guy's fights.

Answer 8

I see you are placing all the blame on her. I guess you need to look deep inside yourself. too. You should be looking at ways to improve the situation. Maybe you are intolerable.
Its real noble of you to want to sleep in the same house with your kids.

Answer 9

There is so much pressure on us to "make it work for the kids",, oh my. A marriage between two adults is different to the bond between parent and child. It is time we are brave enough to say it is ok for parents to love their children without having to stick with the mother/father of that child, Why force yourself. Our role as parents is to teach our children love, respect, compassion and worthiness. How do we teach them self respect, when we force a situation to "work" because of them? Children should never fell the burden of " I am the reason they are together:....what a horrible lesson and burden that puts on the,m. Be a grown up, face reality and show your children we are all capable of happiness, sometimes in different ways.

I'm sick of the...make it work for them....it just messes them up.
Show them by example you are not afraid. They learn what they see - set the right example for them. whatever it is...just make sure it shows them love is deserved by all of us, and we all should have it. not just from our children, but from our partners.

Answer 10

That is a question I often ask myself. I love the attention from other guys. I love my husband more, and that is why I stay. If you ask yourself if you have any ounce of love for this woman, and the answer is yes, you need to stay. However, if you completely despise her and it repulses you to be with her, then you need to leave. Believe me, it will do more harm to your kids if you stay. My mom stayed with my dad because of my brother and me. I am completely screwed up for it. I wish she would have left.