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Question

I have been best friends with a guy for 10 years now. We have never dated, but he knows I have feelings for him. We talk on the phone for hours, hang out all the time and if anyone gives me any problems he makes sure they don't ever again. We want to move in together. Are we both just blind and don't want to face the facts that there is more there than we see on both are parts or is this just one of those really good friendships

Answer 1

if i were you i would talk about it with him. you know whats going to happen when you move in together right? either you guys will start hooking up and thats the way it will stay cause why would he have to commit to some one he already lives with and he can hook up with any time he wants, and stiil be single. or he could probably pretend to be clueless about the way you feel for him and start dating people and hurt you along the way because you will be there to see it. talk to him, tell him like it is. maybe he really is clueless about how you feel, you know guys are kind of wierd like that. us women have that intuition and we can tell when some one digs us, i really dont think men do...seriously. they arn't mind readers my husband is proof :) let him know, talk to him. it sounds like you guys can make a great relationship work. thats how my husband and i began!! good luck!!!!

Answer 2

If he hasn't made a move on you in the last ten years even though he knows you have feelings for him, most likely you are just a friend to him. You may need to realize that just because you feel something, doesn't mean something is there. He may see you more as a sister then a love interest.
You should discuss with him what his feelings are before you move in, so there are no surprises.

Answer 3

Only you and he can decipher your true feelings. You need to listen to your instinct and your heart, talk openly about your feelings and see what unfolds.

You say you have feelings for him, has he indicated those emotions are reciprocated? You obviously do not want to see your friendship lost but at the same time, if the connection has gone to another level, perhaps that needs to be explored but only if you are both open-minded and attach no expectation to the outcome.

Importantly, you need to be honest with yourself and each other or nothing positive can be achieved.

Answer 4

Maybe you need to kiss to see if there are any sparks. I was friends with my husband before dating. It was kinda weird, but it worked out. I'm not sure about moving in though. Things could get crazy. I think, if I had lived with my hubby before marriage, we wouldn't have married each other. We are SO opposite. We have been married 8 years now, and we work things out. I guess in our case, opposites attract.

Answer 5

Sounds like you need to get married and make it legal. See "My Best Friend's Wedding" - Julia Roberts, Camryn Diaz, Dermot Mulroney and Rufus Everett, and think how you would feel if you were to become Julia Roberts' character.

Answer 6

If you want to stay friends- don't push it. Why do you want to mess up a perfectly good situation...
I think you are just looking for trouble.

Answer 7

ok its been 10 yrs i think its time you guys just finally come out and say it and stop kidding yourselfs

Answer 8

this girl was friends with me before.... i completely used her and i dont regret it one bit.

Answer 9

Where there's smoke, there's fire. JUMP OUT OF THE FRYING PAN AND INTO THE FIRE !

burn baby, burn !

Answer 10

Ask him, not us.