...after you had had a huge fight (with your longtime boyfriend/girlfriend)?
what if this friend stayed "friendly" with you and even helped you in your time of need after the fact? (you even confided in this person about your relationship issues...both before and after their deed...oblivious of what the person had done behind your back)
suppose this person was also your child's Godparent (whom they love dearly)
would this person still be your friend if you found out about their previous flirtations and one night affair about a YEAR later and you and the other person (your bf/gf) were breaking up?
please be honest...
2007-05-30 16:13:06 · 5 answers · asked by person 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
yes..and I learned...dont ever discuss personal things about relationships with best friends..or family...get a counsler if you have to talk..first when really mad..you make them out to be awful..then later when made up your family or friends wont like them...and then you will be mad at them..
and friends..man they will stab you in the back
2007-05-30 16:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by trudi100 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes ...remember Bill Clinton ? some people even go to the extent of having open marriages so why not forgive and get back to business you are bigger than grudges over hurt feelings and vengeance for compensation of you feeling of inadequacy aren't you . If you value the people concerned I'm sure you can find a progressive outlook that works best for all concerned rather than making things worse than needed.
Biological gratifications usually are way lower on the scale of priorities when there is a highly developed sense of compatibility so just see that you aren't lied to in the future the idea of broken trust likened to a broken mirror is just hog wash if you are concerned enough to work at your relationship . give it time and thought before you reconcile with you sig other.
peace out
2007-05-30 23:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by dogpatch USA 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I could forgive them, I would still be friendly. If I could not forgive them, I would not. I think forgiving is the best thing to do, but this is not easy and you can't fake it.
My exwife married one of my best friends. They have kids together. I don't contact them because this would be too complicated. I forgive them and wish them well, but we have no relationship. This is sometimes difficult for me, but I think the best thing to do is just let the situation be.
I hope this helps.
I think the previous answer has a good suggestion about counseling.
2007-05-30 23:20:40 · answer #3 · answered by guitar slim 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want to talk to he/she again because I trust he/she. But everyone desevre a 2nd r 3rd chance.
2007-05-30 23:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happen only once, and it was a YEAR ago as you said.... then I think you can assume both of them think it was a giant mistake. People make mistakes. You accept that they are human and forgive.
2007-05-30 23:21:32 · answer #5 · answered by Zeltar 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋