What is my Husband thinking?

Question

I resently got a phone call from an old friend. She said she was chatting on myspace and seen pictures of my children. My husband went threw the trouble to set up a seperate/secret e-mail address and logs onto myspace. I confronted him, he said he only goes onto that cite to talk to his old guy buddies. He said he didn't say anything to me about chatting with friends because he knows I over react. What should I take this as?I was upset because I feel he was hidding something from me. Also, I didn't care for my children's pics on myspace!

Answer 1

OY CHOY YOI !!!!

I would be really upset that my kids pics were plastered all over myspace for freaks to look at. Is it private? I would want to read his comments. If it's not private search for him and check it out, if it is, then ask him to let you look around. If he says no, MAJOR RED FLAG!!
I would guess though, if you have a good relationship, he just knows you wouldn't like the idea but he wanted to see what all the myspace fuss was about so he hid it. Not the right thing to do, but if he wasn't "doing anything wrong" I don't think it's a big deal...other than the pics of the kids.
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Answer 2

The myspace thing is starting to get out of control, isn't it? Did he tell you why he can't just e-mail his friends or IM them? Is the myspace thing REALLY necessary?

Now, let's talk about you for a sec...DO you overreact? Have there been past reasons for you to not trust him...or do you just not like his friends?

If it's that big a deal to you, I think he should get off myspace and not go back. If it's a matter of trust, then hopefully the two of you can reach a compromise on this. Just talk it out and come to a conclusion you both can accept.

Good luck.

Answer 3

I think like greeneyes on this about having the childrens pictures on there. If he was trying to pick up on someone he sure wouldn't have his kids pics on there. Just tell him you are uncomfortable about their picture on there if not set on private though.
My husb and I had a many fights over my computer. I was in a control issue situation, rages, etc. My computer was the only space that was totally mine to play games, read news, talk and just relax. He asked for my passwords and I refused stating no, I don't give them to anyone...and I do mean no one.
It wasn't I was hiding anything but a sign of the only freedom from arguments I could be. Everyone needs a space at times with trust. You need to either have the trust or find out why you don't. Thank goodness we have settled our problem and all is well. (my computer is in our living room also)

Answer 4

SHE was chatting on MySpace and saw pictures of YOUR children? Who was she chatting with?

Being a guy - a typical guy - if I ran across an old friend online somehow, I don't think I'd be asking for pictures of his kids.

One of the other answers hit it right on the nose - you now know, so he should have no problem giving you complete access to the account, right?

Would you really have gotten upset with him if you found out that he was talking to John or Steve or Bill from his childhood?

And what are these grown men with children doing on MySpace anyway??????

Answer 5

It sounds like he was right about you overreacting.

If he went on there and put pictures of his kids, he's probably telling the truth about just using it to talk to friends. Posting pictures of your children is not generally the best way to pick up women. Now, if he had posted sexy pictures of himself, you might have reason to worry.

Calm down, and if you're worried about your children's pictures being on there, ask that he make his MySpace page private so that only his friends can see it (MySpace has a feature that allows you to adjust your privacy settings so that only people you know can see your page).

I'm a married woman, and I have a MySpace page (my husband knows about it). If your friends have MySpace pages and they want you to check something out on their page, the only way you can do so is by creating your own page. That's why I got a page to begin with - that might have been your husband's reason, too.

Answer 6

I think it would depend upon what types of pictures are on the my space page. Then I'd ask why doesn't he just call his buddies like every other guy...he's a little old for my space.

Then again, as soon as you found out, you over-reacted and posted a question on here...maybe he does have a point and needs the log to vent a little to keep the sanity.

Answer 7

Be honest. CALMLY and PRIVATELY tell him how you feel about his myspace page. I don't like the idea of my kids being on myspace much less their pictures. There are too many sick people in the world (they talk about it on the news everyday). Discuss you feelings with him and see if you two can come to an agreement about his page.

Answer 8

Ask him to take the pictures off of his profile. Otherwise the question you have to ask yourself is "Do I trust my husband" Trust and honesty are important in a relationship. He may not have told you because he knew you may overreact, but that does not make him right for not telling you. Yet if you trust him then there should be no reason to overreact or feel the need to check up on him. Maybe there are other issues but no matter what, whatever issues there are need to be discussed and resolved. Or your marriage may fall apart and end.

Answer 9

What you should do is create a secret email address and sign up to myspace as a sexy girl and add him to your friends list to see if he is going to flirt or message you. Check up on his myspace comments.
OR
You can ask him for his password.

Answer 10

I would have made him open myspace right then and there to see if anyone had emailed him and who. Better yet I would have went to my girlfriends house and used her computer under an alis name to see how far he would go. I would have played him for weeks to see if he would meet someone somewhere. If he was hidding something.... now that you confronted him he had time to cover things up and now you will never know sweetie and you will always wonder. best wishes sweetie.