Some girl doesn't believe that i'm black!?

Question

Ok, so i'm of mixed ancestrey and stuff, like most people, but of course, i just consider myself black. so today in english class(i'm in 7th grade), we were giving our speeches. for part of my speech, i had to say "fo sho!" so after my speech, i go back to my desk, and this white preppy cheerleader says to me, "don't do that ever again! are you sure you were born black, cuz you sure don't act like it. psh- you're such an oreo" and then this girl sitting next to me says " yea, you do act pretty white" then people just start talking about how i'm white cuz i don't speak "ghetto" enough and i have "white girls hair". it's gotten me really pissed off! i'm sick of people always degrading me cuz i act like ME! what should i do? it really hurts! have any of you gone through this before? please help me!

Answer 1

ignore the girl, you know who you really are and thats all that really matters.

Answer 2

Oh my goodness, the world is really a circle of life. Yes, Honey, I know how you are feeling. I am mix with black and Filipino and oh did I have a hard time. first of all, I want to congratulate you because you are a unique type of person. I bet you most of those girls are jealous because they don't stand out. People always attack others because they are intimidated by their looks and are probably jealous. don't take it seriously. You are only in the 7th grade. You are still growing. Don't worry, just stay on point. I remember when I was younger I was teased and called the N word all the time. But you know what all the boys were loving me. it was just the girls who were hatin'. And don't you ever dare stop speaking proper English. Proper English is not 'being white' it's just being smart, period. I promise you, your problems feel like so overwhelming right now. just take a deep breath, stay on point, make sure you take care of your body, workout or whatever. I promise you once you blossomed into that beautiful girl that you are you will remember this advice and say hey, she's right. Embrace you uniqueness! God watches the nasty and cruel people. They might not get their bad karmas today or tomorrow, but they will. Keep your head up!!!!

Answer 3

Girl, I hear that all of the time, but I'm dark brown with curly hair. It's more-so because of the way I talk and how I carry myself. I'm 23 so I have grown past all of that and by the time you're my age you will too. The trick is to just ignore it. This is something that is called the sandwich effect because its a compliment topping an insult that's covering another compliment. The compliment is them giving you your props for your whole demeanor, the insult is them categorizing your people as "Ghetto". If I were you I'd definitely not consider them as friends. The only thing I can tell you is keep doing you. Forget everyone else. Girl, they're just hating because you got FLAVA. keep working it, when you get to h.s. everyone will want to be you. Trust, I been there

Answer 4

People of mixed ancestry have it rough. It is sad they tease you so much because I have seen girls like you and they are very beautiful. There are many biracials out there, like famous actress Halle Berry. Her mom is British and dad is African-American. Bessie Coleman, the first African-American female pilot, was part Cherokee. There are some very interesting combos such as the singer Kelis, who is black, Chinese, and Puerto Rican.

See, you are definately not alone. Don't let those girls get "under your skin." Be glad that you stand out a little. It's people like you who bring a splash of color to America, is it not??? Be proud of that. If you let those girls piss you off, they will keep on bugging you. But if you learn to love how beautiful you really are, they will come to see it too. There will always be someone out there who does not like you - that's life. However, you will get a lot more respect in the long run for being yourself and allowing your inner confidence to shine through. :)

Answer 5

I have gone through the same exact thing. im Indian and i respect my culture. I speak hindi fluently and am indian just like others. But a few girls (indians) say that i am white washed, because i also like american stuff. I listen to american music and have mostly non-indian friends. So if these buncha preppy idiots are telling you that they think you're not 'black' enough, then they are basically stereotyping you.

My advice- give em such a good reply that they shut up. Tell them that you are who you are. Also, tell them that they are being stereotypical and racist ("white people hair" and 'dont talk black') and that if anyone head that, they could get in soo much trouble. Make them see their place. and if all else fails, tell some teacher or counselor. But seriously, i would prefer it if you stood up to them for who you are.

good luck!

Answer 6

Just ignore them. I've dealt with the same problem all my life. People say I act and sound white, because I don't use slang. It could have something to do the fact that I grew up in an all white community, til the age of 18. Some things (speech etc..) just rub off on you. But since when does using proper English = white??? It's stereotypical. Just ignore them.

Answer 7

So be proud of what you are. If people look at you and see a white person then be proud of being white. If they see an Oriental looking person then be proud of that. If you look Middle Eastern, be proud of that.

I don't think that anyone was degrading you for not being black enough. If they were degrading you they would have been calling you racial slurs. They might have thought that you were a little pretentious. I think they were just pointing out how they relate to you. In this case, they relate to you as a white person. What's wrong with that? Be proud of who you are.

Answer 8

Girls are mean right up until college. Sometimes you will be the most popular sometimes you will be the target.. Don't listen I'm sure one day when she looks back and remembers what she said to you she will feel pretty stupid and regret it. All the black people I know don't talk ghetto talk, I live in a very multicultural area by the way. Talk however you want and wear your hair however you want. Our skin colour isn't what makes us who we are, unfortunately it can make others judge us the wrong way but the world is full of all kinds of people, you will find the right ones to be friends with. Don't listen to the nonsense!

Answer 9

I can't say that I've gone through this before, as I am not black myself.
But what I do know is that I HAVE gone through junior high and high school, therefore I know the pettiness of young girls. Sweetie, you are you, simple as that. You are not trying to be anyone else other than yourself (to which I give you kudos!), and it's possible that these girls are just jealous of that fact. Maybe you intimidate them in some small way, which much of the time, is why people make fun of others--it makes them feel even the smallest bit superior to you.
Take heart in this bit of encouragement: this too will pass, in time. You will not be in the same classes as these girls forever. Not only that, but you will not be in junior high or high school forever, either.
Another more important piece of encouragement I will give you is this: DO NOT stop being nice to them (or anyone else who will make fun of you) just because they have decided to stoop to low levels. Once they see that you are solid in who you are, they won't have any grounds on which to make fun anymore.
Blessings to you! :)

Answer 10

It's a shame in 2007 that we are still having these issues.

What is the definition of 'acting' white or black? If what comes out of your mouth is natural and non-offensive to any one particular race, be you. Don't every worry about what anyone else has to say about you because EVERYONE HAS SOMETHING TO SAY.

Not all people of color act or speak ghetto. There are some very educated people of color out there. Then again, there are some pretty uneducated white people out there too. Because you're one color or another determines how you are 'supposed' to 'act'? That's all it is... an act. Be yourself and be confident about it. Tell them to jump off a bridge.

Answer 11

Always be proud of who you are. My granddaughters are mixed and they are extremely popular as well as beautiful. They got the best of both worlds. Believe in yourself, stand up for yourself. Of course it hurts when others gang up on you. Be strong and say what you wrote, "you really piss me off and it hurts the way you are talking to me". Ignore them or think of good one liners that will shut them up. My girls are in high school, so they have been through this type of stress you are going through. It boils down to others being jealous. You can always tell them you will have choice colleges to apply to because you are mixed, and they, as pure white girls, are going to have a more difficult time. There is positive things in being mixed! Beauty and brains!