well not you...but i want to bang my head on the wall because i just treated my brother the way my dad use to treat me...and every now and then i find i tend to act like my father, i always consider my dad to act really "ignorant". So i don't talk much to him, its just the way it is. I dont hate my dad, i just prefer if i give myself some space. So yea,do you hate it when your parents traits come out in you every now and again?
banging my head would hurt...so i need my boobooo ")
2007-05-30 14:20:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anthony L 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hey i only asked this question in this section, because usually i get more people responding...the other sections the people are dull lol!
2007-05-30 14:40:59 · update #1
We inherit good.
We inherit not-so-good.
We learn good.
We learn not-so-good.
We all have choices of which to follow.
Since you seem cognoscente of the traits that you do not want to repeat, that is a great head start! Find things you like about your parents and make those as "habits" and the items you don't like - try to affix a counter-trait and practice to make it a common reaction.
For an example: if it is commonplace that your Dad makes snide remarks about a show you watch on TV, turn around your reaction. Make remarks about the positive aspects about the show, redirecting his remarks to something different, but positive; ignoring his points that irritate you.
When you begin to see your actions are "reactive" rathar than "pro-active", then negative things can occur. Try to take a deep breath and think 'big picture' of what scenario you are dealing with, and handle it logically and with fairness.
My Dad set a poor examples for my brothers of what an ideal Dad is. My older brother just hides in a shell, but my younger brother has made a fantastic effort to be so different from my Dad that he is wonderful ! with his kids. My Dad never played with us kids, did sports, vacationed ----my brother has done all three, spending one-on-one time with each of his kids to get to really know them and be active in their lives. That is how you deal with traits you may inherit (or learn).
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2007-05-30 14:36:23 · answer #1 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are one of the rare guys who owns up to being inappropriate and wanting to stop bad behavior.
You have hope of becoming a wonderful adult because you want to face up to your actions because you understand how wrong actions can have hurtful outcomes for others.
Abusing yourself is not the answer. Try to live your life without regrets. Tomorrow is a new day without any mistakes in it. Start treating your brother the way you would have liked to be treated by your dad. You know, a few kind words and praise here and there. A moment or so to listen to his interests. Encouragement when he feels a little low.
You're made out of some good stuff. You feel bad over something you said or did because you would like to be a better person. But you're gonna need your brains in tact to be that better person, so don't bang your head on a wall.
2007-05-30 14:36:15 · answer #2 · answered by reeksofhoney 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Isn't it great that you realize this? Turn this situation into a positive and try not to act this way in the future. Realizing the problem is half the battle. You have the power within you to stop the chain now. I have faith in you that you can do it. And also try to remember your dad's positive qualities. He won't be around forever, make peace now. It's easier said than done, but resentment hurts no one but you. Been there, done that. Good luck.
2007-05-30 14:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-23 19:57:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you notice a trait in yourself you dislike than you can change it. Just because you have a trait that your parents have that does not make you them or in your case ignorant. Try to notice when the trait comes out and slow yourself down when you are in those situations. Its alright if you act a way you can always apologize and make amends after.
2007-05-30 14:26:03 · answer #5 · answered by Emma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know what? Just go to your brother and say "you know what. I feel like I really just treated you wrong and I am sorry I was such a jerk to you. I was upset and there really is no excuse for it and I just want to tell you that I am sorry and I love you and I will try to not act like that again". Just admit you were wrong do it now give him a hug and really mean it. Good Luck!
2007-05-30 14:26:16 · answer #6 · answered by KELJO 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
its a part of growing up... you tend to be like your parents because that's all you know of, when really you want to be nothing like them. This is where you step in and change the bad traits that you have inherited.
2007-05-30 14:23:53 · answer #7 · answered by Lovely Lady 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I had made a pact to myself that when my future daughter turns 14 I won't go totally crazy (when my mom was 14 her mom kicked her out, and my mom did the same with me when I was 14!! no more!)
2007-05-30 14:23:23 · answer #8 · answered by Angelacia baybeeeeee 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take a deep breath man. apologize to your bro and then realize acting like ur parents is a part of life
2007-05-30 14:23:09 · answer #9 · answered by Jack K 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
lol you're really funny. See, that's one of the good traits you inherited from your parents ;)
2007-05-30 14:24:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋