Why are shy people looked down apon?

Question

I am on the quiet side at school, and people get so frustrated with me, why does everyone have to be loud mouthed individuals? What's wrong with someone who is not a big mouth?

Answer 1

thats true, i used to feel the same way. you will have to learn how to speak up and not be shy.

Answer 2

I don't think anyone consciously looks down upon you. If you are in a loud environment or are accustomed to being around a lot of noise (which many people are) then it can be frustrating to suddenly have to actually pay attention to someone or listen because they're speaking quieter than others.

If you're speaking with a loudmouth and you're not one, they might feel intimidated, or simply not be able to hear you, but I doubt they look down upon you

If they do, who cares. Don't thirst for the approval of a loudmouth; it's not worth it.

They might be louder around you, assuming that you can't hear properly (I know it sounds silly.)

Your shyness might be perceived as a lack of confidence, or perhaps as the sneakiness of a person who seeks to deceive.

There can be many reasons why a loudmouth and a quietmouth don't get along. Be proud of who you are and don't assume they are looking down on you, or that their opinion of you matters.

I grew up a quietmouth and now I have learned when and how to be loud. I think people who are loud all the time are undisciplined, animalistic and not very dignified. I think there is a time for listening and a time for talking. We were born with two ears and one mouth so we should be listening twice as much as we're talking. Some of us look down at loudmouths.

Answer 3

Because they have no idea what they are talking about :/ Yes, some metallheads do fit the "stereotype" but not nearly even half of us are like that. If someone does something and they happen to be wearing a Slayer shirt or something then that is what all the focus goes on... but the question is why? And i seriously have no idea why :s most of the people who say this sh!t about metal (and rock) have never even listened to any, or very little anyway. All i can say is they are very close minded people who have to wake up and realise metalheads are as diverse as any other group of people, every single one is different! It's impossible to say "well metalheads are this or that" because the answer will always be the same... some are and some aren't. I have always found metallers a very happy and sound bunch of people... someone asked me if "all the iron maiden crap" i was wearing was for show once because i was "far too polite for it to be real" all because i said thankyou to a bus driver :/ to me, that says we have more manners then alot of other people!!

Answer 4

I totally agree with you. I am on the quiet side as well and I don't make friends easily for the very same reason. Unfortunately people's attention span has dramatically shortened over the last years. Everything has to be speedy: fast food restaurants, ATM machines, on line dating etc. Nowadays people don't want to invest time to get to know others the way we used to do it many years ago. Modern busy lifestyles is what causes us to get frustrated when things like friendships don't happen effortless and super fast. This expectation makes it virtually impossible for shy people to make friends because others don't slow down enough to allow shy people to get to talk to them.

Answer 5

Each person has to (or is, hopefully) who and what they are. Some are more outgoing and others less so. Neither is better than the other. The trick here is in accepting oneself for who one is and allowing others to be themselves, too. Who would want to live in a world where everyone acted the same? Boring, right? Be yourself and like yourself and let the chips fall where they may.

Answer 6

There is absolutely nothing wrong with the quieter people who roam this earth, we provide a great balance for our louder, more extroverted counterparts.

Being quiet and shy is not a bad quality, just part of your nature and if people cannot accept this, that indicates their discomfort and has nothing to do with you.

Answer 7

Who gives a shyte what people think about you, they only try to make people like you and me feel bad just to make them selves feel good. Remaine the person you are and you'll see how many people will love you when you get to college. And remember "you don't have to be loud in order to be heard" live by this quote.

Answer 8

I don't think it's so much the fact that you're looked 'down' upon;
I think it's more of a case you're looked over.
It's not usually on purpose, it just happens when you're living in a loud community.
Everyone gets used to just hearing and saying their opinions, so the more reserved people have to wait.

Answer 9

i am also on the quiet side and when i do talk to people they always say that i looked like i was a stuck up type of person but really i learn more by watching people than what i do talking to them

Answer 10

nothing wrong N being shy hon, Heck its better than being called a Big Mouth, lol
When you want to talk, Youll open up
When your around the right people & the right time, youll open up,
why say something & turns out bad anyway? sometimes you can say wrong things, & belive me, Lotts does, Just be yourself & dont worry, Hugz

Answer 11

nothing is wrong with being quiet. most people are so uncomfortable with silence that they feel the need to talk incessantly to fill the void. it takes more self-control to be able to selectively participate in conversations instead of constant blabbing. you probably have something much more interesting and worthwhile to say when you do decide to talk :)