My friend is giving me problems. Should I tell her this..... (read please)?

Question

She talks behind my back, insults me & my family & hangs out with bad people. I wrote this poem about us, but should I email it to her? I don't seem to have the guts. Would it be mean? What do you think of it?



What do you think of my poem?
It's not great. It just kindof came to me. I'm having trouble with a friend, and so this is somewhat like it goes:

"Friends forever,"
That's what they say
But they always fight
Or one moves away.

"Friends forever,"
But they don't think the same,
"Friends forever!"
That's what they claim.

Overcoming differences,
That's what friends do,
But too much difference...
Just might get to you.

At friendship sticks,
Like fresh morning dew,
But when it dries up,
They see the real you.

The moon comes out,
She must make a choice.
To sit back and take it,
Or speak her own voice.
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I've made my choice.

Answer 1

Nice poem. Speak up and don't take it anymore. get new friends.

Answer 2

Wow, I'm very impressed. That is a fabulous poem. Don't take any more from her. She doesn't deserve to have you as a friend.

I've been reading a really great book that talks about friends and relationships and how to be effective and successful. In this book it compares relationships to bank accounts. It says that when a friend does or says something nice about the other friend, that person has just made a deposit in their relationship bank account (RBA). By making a deposit, this person has made the relationship larger and stronger. But if this person says something hurtful or stabs her friend in the back, then this person has made a withdrawal from their RBA. By making a withdrawal, she has made your relationship weaker and made you less tolerable of her actions.

It sounds like your friend has been making WAY too many withdrawals and hasn't made enough deposits to compensate. You should do what you feel is right, and I think you should send her that great poem and hang out with some of your other friends that will be real friends.

Answer 3

I like how the poem has a rhyme scheme and it still makes sense. It also has slant rhymes (dew and you in the 4th stanza). You should give her the poem and I can relate to this. Last year, one of my friends was talking behind my back & convincing everyone I was a bad friend, abusing me (physically), saying mean things to my face, and etc. She still says stuff about me and I will never forget her. She also lives across the street from me and she has even said mean stuff about me on myspace and other websites. Anyways, if things get too out of control just avoid talking to her. Your "friend" might admit that she is doing this and she might not. If she doesn't admit to doing this, be her friend for a week and if she doesn't stop then you shouldn't be her friend.

Answer 4

She may know it's you if you send that poem. You should find a way to talk to her about what she's doing that bothers you. Find out if you did anything wrong (in her eyes) and try to fix it. Just tell her how you don't appreciate when people do the things that she's doing to you, just don't let her know your talking about her right away, at the end you do that. Make your feelings clear to her and say you just want everything to work out between you guys. Don't attack her or yell at her or give her any reason to be angry. Listen to what she has to say. Than maybe you guys can work something out.

No I don't think you should send the poem. If your going to do something, make it to her face.

Answer 5

You definatly need to do it to let her know how you feel and that it breaks your heart when she says that kinda stuff but if you know shes doing it on purpose just make sure and dont listen to other people. See what they say they could be saying that because they see that you wanna be kool with her all the way and they don't like that because they want that too.
If you just let her know she will understand and say to herself I didnt know thats how you felt IM SORRY FORGIVE ME thats what a real true good friend will do. And you gotta also know that she changing and sometimes change is not always good but if she cant change for you then she was never meant to be your friend just be blunt with her as well and put your foot down just dont make it into a fight. Thats as much as I could give you.

Answer 6

Wow that is an excellent poem, I would send it via email like you suggested. And it sounds like she isnt a friend if she is doing all that stuff to you. I admit that I couldnt do that because I take criticism bad and I want everyone to be my friend, but sometimes you have to have a spine and do whats right, and I hope you go through with it.

Answer 7

Hey i'm going through the same thing with a friend, I want to call it quits, but am not sure how or if I really should.

My suggestion to you, is do it now before it gets worse.

There's nothing more negative about a bad friendship. Friends are there to make you happy, not feel like crap!

Answer 8

Hey I LUV the poem! Its such an inspiration! I think that you should just tell your friend that you didn't like who she has become and why you don't like how she become. Telling your friends the inside of what you feel about them can really make your friendship become more safer and better! And if you do tell her how you feel your friendship will keep growing if you tell her--that way you and your friend will have a better conversation.

Answer 9

I think you should e-mail it to her. What kind of friend does that? I was in a similar situation with one of my friends back in the day and I would not put up with it. If she was your friend she would not talk behnd your back or put anyone important to you down. Dont just sit there and take it. Tell her how you feel.

Answer 10

yes it would be mean. You have to really be sure you don't want this girl as a friend. She sounds to me like a girl I wouldn't want to be friends with. So I would give it to her(and add some swear words to get my point across lol)