My friend Michael just came out to his parents. His mom was fine with but was little disappointed that Michael probably won't give her any grandchildren. However, Michael's dad flipped. Which kind of shock Michael since he's mom had been the type of parent who was open about her sexuality around their teenaged children. Because Mr. Kowalski (Michael's dad) was married to her, Michael thought he wouldn't completely freak out. He seems to hate him now. Michael says that the only thing that is keeping his dad from kicking him out is his mom.
2007-05-30 13:58:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
how can a father hate his son because he is gay...period!???
it's sad. very sad. and, I must say, pretty pathetic. tell you friend he needs to stay strong and not back down. His dad needs to come to terms with it. It's who he is, and that's not going to change.
2007-05-30 14:02:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yeah, I'm an atheist learning Mandarin, so I attend a Mandarin church and learned something very interesting. When Jesus ran into his disciples, they stopped what they were doing (usually fishing) and followed him. They had families, businesses, team mates really, that were kind of relying on them, then all of a sudden, one very attractive man shows up and they're strongly united. There is only ONE type of interaction where people stop what they're doing to meet some one they are drawn too and it's not religion, let me tell you that. Haha. But you already know. . . It's romantic interaction. And it's funny to think that we as humans have changed and become more intelligent or sophisticated than our ancestors b/c human nature really hasn't seemed to change in thousands of years. As a person whom has developed his attractive qualities, I can actually relate to Jesus on that level of causing a person to stop what they're doing and come with me. Usually women, but I've played/experimented with 2 men. I guess I'm still indoctrinated into being "straight". Can you add me as a contact? I'm not able to on my phone.
2016-04-01 05:57:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably freaked out that his son will never have a wife or children. It does not make sense that he married a bisexual women but cannot accept a gay son. He is really messed up and should just come to terms with it.
2007-05-31 11:13:08 · answer #3 · answered by A Journey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just have trouble accepting it at first. I'm gay and even I sometimes have feelings of disbelief when someone tells me they're gay. But I eventually get over myself and get on with life. One of my cousins was (she passed away several years ago) gay and I had no idea at first! These feelings will pass over time...Michael's dad can't hate him forever! (Actually I'm sure Michael's dad doesn't hate him...he's just going through the denial/disbelief stage. He'll eventually come to terms with it.)
2007-05-30 15:15:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. Sexi Man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, it's the curse of the double standard (in the "Hetero World")...
Two guys kissing is considered creepy, while two girls kissing is HOT!!!!! (think Lesbian Porn)
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A gay son makes the father feel inadequate as a positive (heterosexual) male role model. He (the father) was raised in a generation where you were SUPPOSED to hate "the gays"...
A bisexual wife still enjoys the old "in, out" once in a while - and besides, there's always the possibility of a threesome once in a blue moon. As long as she can "act" straight, then he can overlook that "other side" of her...
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(It may sound like I am agreeing with the father here (I'm not) - I am simply putting things into HIS perspective).
In time, the father will at least be able to accept his son (we all hope) - though it sounds like he will never fully approve his "lifestyle".
I do hope that everything turns out for the best - or at the very least, that things become calm and civil...
2007-05-30 14:26:45 · answer #5 · answered by kr_toronto 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a sad story you should comfort your friend and keep an eye on him to make sure he is okay, his dad is terrible for flipping out,
2015-01-06 11:24:01 · answer #6 · answered by Luna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a bisexual man I would be devistated if my son did that. There is something wrong when your body does not want to reproduce.
2007-05-31 14:23:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deep down he is having problems with his own sexuality. Watch American Beauty with Kevin Spacey. The guy that killed him had an encounter with a guy in Vietnam
2007-05-30 14:04:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
double standards sadly
its ok to have bi wife for the fun but a gay son forget it
it sucks but thats how some people are
2007-05-30 14:12:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
:[ we live in a sad world my mom is ok with me being bi ....but my dad feels that it reflect him and he calls me names or makes fun of me thinking he can change me. I wish my dad would kick me out of the house I would live with my sister or something....
2007-05-30 14:05:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋