can guys be happy with what they have? my husband and i have a daughter,10 months old, but he always wants to leave me.he even filed for divorce once.he always seems to come back to me.any ideas on why he would do this?
2007-05-30 13:51:47 · 16 answers · asked by icyheart1411 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like a classic case of thinking the grass is greener on the other side. He does this, then comes back to you, because he feels you are his security blanket. He knows you will always be there when his running around is over, so it gives him the sense that he can try and find someone else, and if she turns him down, he always has you to go to.
You should tell him you are no longer his "safety net," and you aren't going to live your life being second to whomever he feels should be first.
You show this guy a sense of confidence in yourself, and that you don't need him and can find someone else who will treat you the way you and your daughter deserve to be treated, and he will change his tune quickly.
And if he doesn't, then good riddens. Life is too short darlin. Live your life with these two words: "Never settle."
Then, ask yourself this: If I saw a guy treating my daughter this way, what would my advice to her be? And then follow it.
2007-05-30 13:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh! so sad,
I gather your man is not a responsible man, know how to enjoy sex but never want to take care of family.
Well, to me, he treat people like cars, once used, he wants to change, that is very bad.
His heart is no more with you, if a person wants to leave, you can't do much, he is a free man to go. He can just disappear ya.
The problem with people is they like new stuffs like new house, new cars, new jobs, new environment, new atmosphere, new songs and even new wife or gf. I believe to him, you are merely a kind of non living thing that can talk, can be thrown and trash anytime.
Forget it, let me have a beer first, then i get him a few punches to teach him about life and responsibility the hard way.
2007-05-30 14:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by butterfly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We do not like to grow up nor settled down. He wants to be married without the responsibilities. A woman place is in the home; a man's place is in the street.
The best thing for you to do is be the best wife you can be. I know know man that leaves a good woman regardless of how bad she really is.
2007-05-30 13:59:05 · answer #3 · answered by I Wanna Know 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK i went through a similar thing like that and i know how you feel maybe its because he thinks you are not living up to his standards or he thinks you are too good for him but i hope that is not the case and i know its hard to leave a man when you have child for him and when you a deeply in love i really know that but let me tell you one thing if he apologizes to you and you and him really want this marriage to work i think you should see a family coucillor but if he continues to mistreat and don't have any respect for you maybe you should end the marriage and try to find a more comfortable life for your child sake try to make a better life for her don't worry what other people say i repeat if you and him really wants it to work try but if you cant take anymore don't i wish you all the best .
2007-05-30 14:15:16 · answer #4 · answered by renisa 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Too many variables. Does he have wandering eyes? Did he REALLY love you when you married, or was it just great sex without much real intimacy? Does he feel trapped at work and abused, only to hear a screaming baby at home? Do you annoy him or try to change him from who you know you married? Do you have bad body odor? Have you not taken great care of yourself? Got fat? Or is the man just very immature? YOu need couples counseling immediately, toghether , and don';t think this is exaggerating.
2007-05-30 14:01:50 · answer #5 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's a guy. We have two brains, and a lot of times we don't think with the right one. He's comfortable with his home life but wants the freedom of a single man. Time to decide if this is how you want to live. Good luck.
2007-05-30 14:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, i'm totally happy with what i have. and no, no ideas on why he wld. but a more important question is why you put up with it? you should do some soul searching a figure out whats best for you and your daughter. Good Luck
2007-05-30 14:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by zerohour 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on your questions, you've had a lot of turmoil lately.
Try to relax and get back to a normal exisrtance for a while and see.
2007-05-30 14:15:44 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be ready to accept the possibility he could be cheating on you. Monitor his behavior, and if there are frequent and lengthy phone calls, or random trips out to the "Supermarket" or "Blockbuster" that are longer than expected, chances are he's cheating on you.
2007-05-30 13:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, not a guy, but i am answering anyway...
yes, guys can be happy with what they have. this loser that you are hooked up with is apparently not happy with anything except the party life style, and being able to come and go as he pleases.
as long as you continue to take him back, you are going to be his door mat.
stick up for yourself, and stop taking the loser back. once he leaves, lock the door. heck, change the lock.
focus on your kid. he or she deserves your attention.
this immature loser deserves nothing but a lesson in growing up.
2007-05-30 13:58:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋