Some time ago, a mutual friend tole me that my friend was sexually abused as a child, and that's why he's gay now. I have never mentioned that this other person said that to me, is is better to keep quiet or is it worng of me to keep that secret? What do you think?
2007-05-30 13:47:53 · 8 answers · asked by Hot Coco Puff 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, Tigger, I don't think that what was told to me is ture, and for the record neither of us are stull friends with that person. My friend has been gay since we met, he didn't tell me at first, but we were very young, and we are still best friends after 16 years, so we must be doing something right! I just would never want to say "guess what so-and-so said about you", obviously that person sucks cos they are no longer anyone's friend. You're right, it's not a secret, it's gossip, and there is no reason to spread it. I love my firend and would never want to hurt him. Thanks to you all for enightening me. Love to you all!
2007-05-31 03:02:57 · update #1
First, it is not a secret..it is gossip.
If it is true, your mutual friend breached the confidentiality of your other friend and so he or she is no friend at all.
Sound like someone indirectly attacking your friend for being gay...another reason not to be a friend to the first person anymore.
And definitely do not ask your friend if what you heard is true because you may open old wounds if it is true and lose him as a friend.
And suppose it is not true...then you have hurt someone with slander and hurtful lies.
Something to think about, isn't it?
2007-05-30 14:24:06 · answer #1 · answered by gone fishing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he hasen't told you, then he either does not want you to know, or it did not happen. Just because this person told you that does not mean its true. I could say that my friend is superman, but that doesn't mean he is. So he's gay. who gives a s**t. just because he was abused doesn't mean he will be gay. you can't be "turned gay" by something that happens. don't bring it up. he will tell you if he wants to.
2007-05-30 13:54:26 · answer #2 · answered by Iris 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hi, it is totally up to him to talk about it, do not push the issue or you may end up hurting a friend you care about, if he has anything to say he will when he is ready
2007-05-30 16:19:09 · answer #3 · answered by pete m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's your friend, you could just ask him. I don't believe being sexually abused has any thing to do with his being gay.
2007-05-30 13:54:30 · answer #4 · answered by pammysue 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do you think that abuse in childhood leads to being gay
2007-05-30 19:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by ~*tigger*~ ** 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY suggestion, dont ask your friend. As a friend you should respect his decision for not telling you, if he does feel like telling you one day, he willl.
2007-05-30 13:53:44 · answer #6 · answered by Anthony L 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
if he never mentioned to you... don't ask :)
2007-05-30 13:54:14 · answer #7 · answered by cheesecake 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
just do it.
2007-05-30 14:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋