How can I boost my confidence?

Question

I always feel so well nervous. I try to hid myself as much as I can because I hate my body figure although my mom says I'm completely normal. But I'm different from my class who all are the tall thin type and I'm the short (but not a mini) and thin to normal. I'm smart and all but in gym claass my instructor always gets mad at me for not having confidence. Which lowers any confidence i have.

My friend says I look somewhere between goth and geek. So I feel kind of wierd about that. I don't really have a lot of friends, only one best friend. I feel like no one else likes me but no one's rude to me right in my face.

I hate my hair but I plan to have it changed soon but right now I'm soo nervous.

Anyways my confidence right now is at a -5 (yes MINUS 5) so I really need help and someway to boost my confidence.

Answer 1

Get yourself into activities. Join a rec sports team, such as soccer. Or even join a book club, or go to poetry readings.
Just get yourself out there around new people, and you'll see that people like you.
Don't be so hard on yourself.

Answer 2

There Are Many Things That Could Help You 1. - Treat Women As They Are No Different From Men 2. - Tell Yourself This Is Not A Test, Just An Average Chat 3. - Tell A Joke, Break The Ice and Try And Forget Why Your So Nervous 4. - Never Act, Just Think First 5. - Remember Theres Plenty More Fish In The Sea

Answer 3

First and foremost you need to be kind to yourself and take gentle steps to believing more in you. No matter what anyone else thinks, what is most important is what you feel from within so all the "you are normal" or some gym coach getting angry at you will not help you as these opinions are coming from third parties, and not from you.

Your mind can be your worst enemy and your best friend, and somehow you need to find a balance so you can allow yourself to make mistakes ~ as we all do ~ and not become consumed by the negative thoughts and fall into a dark hole.

You have a friend and that is a precious gift and perhaps, with their help, you can begin to explore different sides of your nature to discover who you are and remember, as humans we are continually changing so have fun with this adventure and enjoy the surprises as they come along.

I suggest you leave your hair for now unless your instinct indicates an absolute, if you are in the slightest doubt, leave as is while you work on other areas of yourself.

I know it is important for you to be accepted by friends, family, community and society but unless you can truly love and accept yourself, none of that matters and you will remain a sad soul.

I wish you the very best.

Answer 4

A way to feel confident in yourself is accept yourself for who you are. Don't compare yourself to other people. I find if you do that it just makes you look worse upon yourself. What helps is if you look at the qualities you like about yourself, such as, you said you think your intelligent well then be proud of yourself for that. Nobody can help you boost your confidence only you can. And the friend thing, who cares if you only have one best friend. I would rather have one best friend than a million people who talk to me and back stab me. And when you become more confident in yourself you will find people around you attract to you more because people like hanging out with confident people that know who they are and what they want in life. They don't want to hang out with someone that is always pissed cause they don't look a certain way. So just keep in mind that you are unique and cannot judge your body and your personality on how other people act or look you can only judge yourself on the person you want to be and who you are. Good luck. It is a hard process and there will be ups and downs always and people that look down upon you but just brush that off your shoulder and someday you will find your happy medium.
Good luck to you!
~lynnieloo

Answer 5

I have the same issue. This is what I do. Whenever I'm around people, I pretend I'm confident and pretty and witty and sociable. And you know what...I start to feel confident and pretty and witty and sociable. People treat me better and I feel ALOT better. Don't overdue it, but its definetly worth a try. By the way, everyone has insecurities in high school. It's not as bad once you get a little older. So there's hope! I wish you lots of luck. It will get better. Also, don't change your clothes and hair just to fit in. Look however you want, just be confident with who you are.

Answer 6

Hmm... don't be nervous to change your hair! It'll grow back. Or if you're too nervous for a cut, go for a color change. Having one best friends isn't a problem. Some people would kill for one best friend. There's no reason to feel inadequate around different shaped girls. Come on, I'm 6' and I went through school hating being so tall. Chances are the tall girls in your class aren't feeling totally confident either.

Answer 7

Books from the public library on:

-Positive Affirmations
-Boosting Self-Confidence
-Increasing Self-Esteem
-Anxiety Relief
-Meditation
(and any others you may find interesting in that self-help section)

It has now been proved that walking outdoors in nature daily helps people to feel better about themselves. Do as much of that as you can. Yoga is also known to be good for body and mind.

The scent of lavender is known for its relaxation quality. Get a candle, some incense, body spray, soaps, shampoos, etc. (not all, of course).

Caffeine, though it seems to give you a boost, is very hard on the nerves. Try to avoid coffee, regular tea, cola, Mountain Dew, chocolate, energy drinks/bars, etc.

I know that when teachers or others tell people that they do not have enough self-confidence--it only makes it worse. That's what happened to me during my school years.

Good luck, I hope you find what you're looking for :)

Answer 8

If you like your goth-geek look right now keep it but choose one most likely goth. If you want to different then just change your style it doesn't matter what other people look like or think of you. And change your hair style, dye it, cut it, let it grow long. If the stylist says it will look better one way then go with that. If youwant to be more prep sart shopping at american eagle or holliester. If you want to go for the hip-hop style shop for rocawear, ecko red. You can go into stores like ross and they sell them cheaper there. Dont worry what people say to you and always keep your head up high if you lived around me i would surely help you out neday. :) if nething IM me or mail me [e-mail]

Answer 9

The best confidence booster i know of is exercise...it really works...it works for me...try the martial arts or even yoga...but u really need to start believing in yourself more...self confidence comes from within...concentrate more on your positive qualities and less on the negative

Answer 10

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