Need some help putting my mind to ease....?

Question

My husband and I are both in the military...Navy to be exact...I am 30 weeks pregnant, and even though I know his ship isn't going anywhere for a long time, I'm so scared for some reason he won't be able to be with me for the delivery. Even though his command has said that they will let him go if I go into labor while he's at work.

Also, I'm getting so scared worrying about complications during labor, I know they don't happen much but I'm starting to get scared...Last night I started crying because of it all...I just don't know how to ease my mind. It was so bad I couldn't go to sleep until my husband promised me that he would be there holding my hand throughout the whole thing.

How can I put my mind to ease? I am just so scared, and I know I really don't have a reason to be, but I just can't get myself to think that.

Answer 1

Don't be worried!!!! ...When I was pregnant with my first child my husband was enlisted in the Navy. He went to Goodfellow/Louis F. Garland Fire Academy when I was 4 months pregnant. He had been out to sea for 30 days prior. He missed our first anniversary. The further along I got in my pregnancy, the more sick I got. I had toxemia, PIH, and just about everything else that could go wrong with your heart while you're pregnant. I kept telling him how sick I was and he just wouldn't listen. I ended up going to the hospital to have the baby after my regular check up at 37 1/2 weeks. At that point, he wasn't going to be there for the birth if everything went as it was planned. But we had scheduled him a flight home on a friday night to go back to Texas early that Sunday morning. I was scheduled to be induced on May 26th, but the hospital wasn't fully staffed (it was brand new) so they couldn't do it. There I sat for a few days waiting. On the 3rd day they induced me - heavy Pitocin drip and prostiglandin. There I sat, for 2 days being induced and nothing worked. He flew in that Friday night and came to see me at the hospital. He could hardly recognize me... I went from 125lbs when I got pregnant, to 210lbs because of the pregnancy and the extreme sickness. But I guess God had a bigger, better plan... because Mia was born via C-Section Saturday morning with her daddy there to hold her.

You will be fine!! I know it can be scary, but the Navy Dr.'s are REALLY good! I had my 2nd little girl at Naval Hospital Pensacola... Dr. Branch and Dr. Sexton were THE most amazing Dr's I have ever had. Navy gives the best care wether you are enlisted or a spouse. You have no worries! You're in the best hands!!!!

Answer 2

My daughter had a baby in late November and her husband is also Navy. He was not scheduled to ship out anywhere and even when they did need someone from his division to ship out they passed him up due to the baby coming. You are fairly safe in that area so try not to worry a lot about that.
As far as complications go, as long as you have had a normal pregnancy so far and your Dr's are happy with everything then you should be to. They will be able to tell if there is something not right or if they expect any problems and will plan for it. You are going through a normal phase right now with all of this, the worry, making yourself crazy, but please try to take a deep breath and reassure yourself that all is good in your world. Everything you feel, your baby feels. So when you get anxious and uptight, your baby gets that way too. Think of those sweet little toes, that adorable face, that sweet little human who is so depend ant upon you, and the blessing you are bringing into your family! If you try to focus on all of the wonderful and good you can get away from the anxieties. It's all part of being a mommy! A more glorious or prestigious title cannot be found!!
Congratulations, Mommy!!!!

Answer 3

Are you also worried about getting into a car acciedent or being hit by a meteorite?

Seriously, there is always a chance something could happen, but the odds are very much against it; and if it's unforseen, there's nothing you can do about it.

I doubt they're going to send a ship out without a lot of notice, so I seriously doubt you have to worry about that; and they promise to let him go if he's on base, so no need to worry there either.

As for complications - think back on how many people you know, and then think how many had any serious complications. If you're like me, you probably can think of lots of babies and don't know very many people who had complications; so there's your odds- pretty low!!!

You'll be fine. Just remember to look both ways before crossing the street. That's probably more dangerous than what you're worried about.

Answer 4

Pregnant women worry more than normal women. It is normal to be concerned because it is the unknown territory. Enjoy the adventure and things will be fine. If your OB care has been normal with normal check ups and ultrasounds and no problems then you should not expect to have any problems. Take care of yourself and rest up now. A new baby will be needing you to be rested and available for their every need. If you have bleeding, loss of water (often women pee on themselves) that could be amniotic fluid, swelling of your legs and ankles, headaches, other unusual symptoms, call your doctor. You should try not to worry because your baby worries with you and the stresses need to be kept as low as possible. Your husband sounds supportive. The two of you are about to enter into a wonderful family together. Enjoy the few weeks the two of you have before there are 3 of you. I did the same thing when I was pregnant. I am a ultrasound technologist and I knew things could happen but it is rare. Good Luck.

Answer 5

When the bad thoughts creep in , if you're a believer, start praying. That will get you mind of the negative stuff. If you are a non-believer try meditating. Don't worry everything will be fine. You're not the first to have a baby . Just relax , it's not a disease. You'll be OK.
I can add one more thing : having that baby given to you after wards is the happiest moment in a parent life.
Good luck and relax.

Answer 6

My biggest fear in life was child birth. I think this fear actually contributed to my 56 hrs in labor (and I finally had him naturally) Put your fears at ease... In my case, I was great after the delivery. Felt like I could do anything now (haha) I had no support and did it on my own. You have to be tough to be in the military (God bless ya!)

PRAY Everything will be fine, even if your man (with every good intention) is called to duty.

The more you fear something, IT WILL COME TRUE. Be calm and have faith for your baby's sake.

Answer 7

I have never been pregnant but I have been through a couple of pregnancies one with my wife another with a friend so I have a little insight. I know that hormones you didn't even know you have will come into play and mood swings will cause changes in your mood, psyche, temperament etc. that you never believed could occur. And sometimes (rarely) you will be perfectly normal. Just remember that it must end sometime as no one has remained pregnant forever.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

not to worry i think all women go threw this i know i sure did everything will be fine try looking forward to holding the baby in your arms and a life time of love

Answer 10

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