My son got into a car accident at the age of 23. He had been married for 4 months. It's been 5 years and his wife wants to get a divorce. She says she can't stay married to him anymore because she found someone new. She says she can't continue to stay married to someone who will never be able to have a family with her. How can I stop this? I know in enough time my son will be better! He will be able to everyday things, but until then, we all must be united. If she divorces him.....it would ruin everything.
2007-05-30 11:17:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are being pretty selfish. Fortunately, there is nothing you can do.
2007-05-30 11:22:47 · answer #1 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 5⤊ 2⤋
It has been five years and you think he needs more time to get better. Better is a relative term. You are hoping for everyday things; she wants more than that.
I can understand your pain, but life does go on. She wants to have a marriage and a family. You should give her your blessing and tell her you still want to be a part of her life with her new family. You might get to be a grandparent through her (if that's what you want).
How will a divorce "ruin everything"?
I can't think of any way to stop a divorce under these circumstances, especially if you live in a no-fault state.
2007-05-30 12:49:55 · answer #2 · answered by RDW928 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you can't stop her and you shouldn't really try. If she is still willing to help and support him when he does recover from this, then that is what is important. 5 years is a long time to go without the affection and arms of the man she once loved. Who knows, had this terrible accident not happened and she had fallen out of love with him by now anyway, you wouldn't want him to stay married to her. He doesn't need support from people who don't care, he needs people like you that love him and are willing to stick things out in sickness and in health. That's what a real marriage is anyway.
2007-05-30 11:25:40 · answer #3 · answered by litomilyfwthn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop her. It is her life and her choice. I am very sad for your son and I do hope he gets better but try and understand her side of it. She is in a marriage that has become physically dead and at this point she may no longer be in love with him. It wouldn't be right for her to wait forever for him if she doesn't want to. She probably wants a family and a full life and no one can blame her. It is sad but it won't ruin everything. It will make things tough on him if he does in fact recover but after 5 years what are his chances realistically?
I pray the he does recover but there is nothing you can do to stop her from divorcing him.
God Bless!
2007-05-30 11:27:32 · answer #4 · answered by The OTHER Boelyn Chic 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Sadly, I don't think you can stop her, but he would have to be able to sign the papers unless she got a court order stating that by means of the fact he is unable to make a competent decision, she can have the divorce without his consent. Why would you want someone to stay around who will begin to resent him for keeping her down? She wants other things in life, and she deserves to be able to live her life. She stayed for 5 years, I think she did more than some women would do.
2007-05-30 11:24:15 · answer #5 · answered by It's Just My Opinion 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋
She may not be abl to get the divorce here unless she can produce medical reports that your son will never come out of the coma alive.She took the vows of "in health and in sickness..." so the Judge will probably hold her to them, but that doesnt mean he can stop her infidelity. All he can dois put the divorce on hold for now til medical science can inform him one way or another. Good luck and wish your son allthe best in a speedy and full recovery
2007-05-30 11:27:07 · answer #6 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How long did you expect her to live a lonely and empty life. How do you think she has felt after five years of waiting and praying that he would wake up. Ithink she has lived long enough holding on to her husband. And as for him waking up and being fine have the doctors told you what the chances are of that after five long years. Ithing you need to get some councilling because i don't think your dealing with your son being in a coma very well
2007-05-30 17:51:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has to be terribly hard for your family. She has stuck by him for 5 years. That in itself is amazing. She deserves a family and someone to be with her as much as your son does. At this point, your son doesn't know anything. WHEN he wakes up, he will have your love and support and that of your family.
She is giving up on a life with the unknown and that is her right.
YOU are the MOM and YOU will be the one to pull him through this.
It has to be pain, but think about it from her point of view. She is young and still able to have a family. Your son, I am so sorry to say, may not be able to give that to her.
PRAY and PRAY HARD. God can bring him out of this!!!!!!
2007-05-30 11:57:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The bible says for better or worst, but she has put her life on hold for 5 years. I think that is a substantial amount of time. If your son loves her he would want her to be happy as well.
2007-05-30 11:28:09 · answer #9 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for what has happened to your son, but life goes on and with life so does pain and healing and growth.
You son's wife has grown and changed and for that reason alone she has the right to end her marriage.
She has waited as long as she could. Not everything is forever.
Your story reminds me of the family that contested the husband's right to allow his wife to die even though she was brain dead.
Life is never ruined because it is always in a state of change.
2007-05-30 11:35:53 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Although her reasons may sound selfish....her husband is no longer the person she married...its not mentioned what condition he is in right now, but just by responding to what you have mentioned about being united....by her staying with him would create worse karma than if she were to leave and set him free from the negativity she now hold within her heart...He is truely better off without her.
2007-05-30 11:25:53 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋