ok im about to have an abortion, im goin to the clinic tomorrow and im going to be taking the pill (i dont know what pill but not the morning after since im like a month along) the doctor will probably fill me in tomorrow but i was wondering if anyone could give me some info. i know it will abort or miscarry around 24 hours after i take the first pill so i was wondering how long does the miscarriage/abort process take, how painful is it, and will i be able to be up and walking around and stuff? i know its wrong and im sure alot of you have a bad opinion of it but i really just want that info. thank you.
2007-05-30 10:34:21 · 15 answers · asked by doug_butabi_238 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Before you get bashed for your choice by some people on here, I just wanted to wish you luck with the procedure. Regardless of need or reason, I hope it all turns out OK for you.
The process should be explained by the doctor just prior. If they are giving you a pill, then you don't have much to worry about, it should just pass like a clot or little clots and you may have heavy bleeding.
Don't be afraid to seek counseling or don't refuse it if it's offered to you by the clinic/doctor's office. There is a lot more to this than taking a pill, and it's best to have someone to talk to if you need it....or even if you don't.
Good luck.
2007-05-30 10:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by lotsaroos 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Hi, I had an abortion at about 3 months, so too late for the chemicals and did the surgery. I wouldn't have chosen the chemicals though. It's definitely a longer more drawn out and painful process. Anyway, I've been there too and won't question your judgement. Don't let any pro-lifer bring you down. It's going to be hard after the abortion because they'll try to kick you when your down and if you decide you need counselling, get it from someone who supports your decision and won't throw some bogus crap at you like 'post abortion syndrome' or make you feel guilty. Therapists can be dangerous and do abuse their position especially when it's something like an abortion issue, that's why it's absolutely necessary that you don't go to a pro-life crisis pregnancy clinic ever. Pro-life crisis clinics take advantage of women when they are in need. As I'm sure you know, sometimes it's the most responsible consequence to have an abortion. Anyone who talks down to you or protests your clinic is just a clueless hate monger although some of them are on the path to hell paved with good intentions.
If you go to the Planned Parenthood website and search for 'chemical abortion' or 'medical abortion', you should be able to find all the information you need. I know it's hard to find reliable abortion info on the net, but Planned Parenthood has got it.
Good luck!
2007-05-30 10:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Why are you doing it that way? Why not just have a standard abortion proceedure where you are in and out in about an hour and it's over and done with? This way sounds lengthy and painful. Why draw it out? And why go about this with such unpredicible results. I'd reconsider if I were in your situation. From what I've heard miscarriages are long and very physically painful (regarless if it's induced or natural) and abortions are only mildly uncomfortable and very quick. I only bled for a couple of days after my proceedures. Otherwise - it was no big deal. I'm a big baby when it comes to pain - so even if that pill thing you described had been an option I would have said: "No way! I'll take the pain-free option thank you very much!"
Edited to say: KUDOS to the poster "Scuba" who's answer is next after mine. She's 100% correct! Do NOT let any pro-lifer's try to scare you into thinking this is going to ruin your life. That almost happened to me back in 1989 when I had my first abortion. I am sooooooo glad I didn't listen to those prolifers - because it's been almost 20 years - and I do NOT regret what I did. When I do think about it my thoughts and feelings are "Thank you Congress for passing Row v. Wade and letting me have that option because God know my life would be terrible now if I had HAD to go through with that pregnancy!" Oh my gawd - when I think off all the opportunities I would have missed out on if I hadn't had that abortion.... it's disturbing! My life would have been completely ruined and the kid would have suffered and had serious emotional and mental problems. Pro-lifers are so desperate to stop you they will threaten all sorts of ridulous things like: "You'll get breast cancer!" Don't listen - it's all lies. If you're not ready to be a mother or not ready to be pregnant - you have to do what's right for you first before you can do ANYTHING in your life that is right for anyone else.
2007-05-30 10:42:32 · answer #3 · answered by f w 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
My best friends just went threw the "pill" abortion. The Dr gave her two pills. One to take and one to shove up in her cookie. The abortion started almost immediately. She said it was just like a VERY heavy period. She had to go change her pad (can't wear tampons) every half an hour or so. We just stayed up all night and watched movies. By morning it was over. She went to work the next day.
She said it didn't hurt much at all.. The Dr have her pain medication. She was able to walk and get around.. but it felt better when she was laying down,,
Hope this helps!!
2007-05-30 11:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by Felicia 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I am not judging you at all, and the only reason I'm saying this is because you stated that you know it's wrong. I had a friend who had an abortion and she later really regretted it. If you don't personally feel it's wrong, then you have the right to follow through with it, but if you have any question at all, I'd do some more research before doing it to make sure you won't regret it later.
As for what it's like, my friend said the pain was similar to having a very bad period and cramps, but she could still walk around.
2007-05-30 10:39:40 · answer #5 · answered by Shanna 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Before you make this decision I want you to make sure this is what you want. I do not know your age or the background of the situation but I feel you need to reconsider. I have had friends who have had abortions in the past and are going through mental problems due to the miscarry. They keep telling themselves that they are failures and their "son/daughter" could have made a difference in this life. Do not make a decision based off your boyfriends wants/needs. Sure your parents may be mad with you, but you will gain more respect if you take responsibility for your actions. Now, if you were raped, molested, etc. that is a whole different story.
As far as taking the pill...I have had a few friends that have taken the pill and they did not feel anything other than regret. If this is something that you are willing to face, I need not stand in your way.
2007-05-30 10:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by blackberry028 2 · 2⤊ 5⤋
ohhhhh. Don't do the pill. It's horrible. Horrible. Telling you the truth. You are way better off doing it the other way. I'm just being honest.. if you don't listen to me... you will know why I said DON'T DO THE PILL!!!!!
2007-05-30 10:39:18 · answer #7 · answered by Crystal B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not here to judge you cause I had an abortion when I was only 16 my mom didn't want me to have this baby. To this day I regret it listening to her. But now I am 21 and have 2 wonderful kids. I don't know what your situation is but if I were you I would think it through. May god bless you and be by your side with whatever choice you make.
2007-05-30 10:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by cisnerosjazmin 3 · 1⤊ 4⤋
I have done both the pill abortion and the surgical abortion. The pill abortion was less expensive - however it was very, very, very inconvienient. I had to take 3 days off from work because I wasn't sure how long it was going to take. Someone else here described (I think the poster's name was "Felicia"?) it as staying up all night watching movies with her friend until it was over. Yeah, that's pretty much what it was like for me, but mine took a few days. It was very annoying to have to put my life on hold for 3 days.
The 2nd time I went for the surgical procedure and it was very quick. I was so shocked. I litterally could have done it on my lunch hour and went back to work right after. They told me: 'Make sure you have someone to pick you up, take it easy, etc..." Planned Parenthood made it sound like it was a big deal when it was totally nothing! I was totally fine 10 minutes after I was in recovery. The procedure took about 10-15 minutes, then I was in a comfortable chair in recovery for about 10 minutes when all of a sudden I felt really, really good. Back to my old, normal self after 13 miserable weeks of being pregnant. It was almost like my body had a life-sucking tumor removed and was suddenly rejuvinated. The only bad thing is, they made me stay in the recovery area for another 20 minutes to be on the safe side. I guess the reason they wanted me to stay is because they didn't knock me out, but they did give me a sedative to relax me in addtition to a local anesethtic. Had I known the surgical procedure was going to be a piece of cake I would have declined the seditive they offered me. In recovery, there was nothing to do, nothing to read, I was totally full of energy, so trying to stay still for 20 minutes was very boring. I feel bad because I must have been the most annoying patient ever. I kept saying: "I'm fine and I'm bored, can I leave now? Can I leave now?" 5 minutes later "Can I leave now? I'm bored". The nurse kept trying to recline my easy chair and get me to take a nap. LOL! She finally let me go 20 minutes later but told me to take it easy and if possible to get some rest. Yeah right!!! I got my body back and I was 100% fine. Take it easy? - I felt ready to conquer life! This is what it must feel like if you are on death row and suddenly the Govenor calls and says that you're are innocent and must be set free immediately. Talk about 2nd chances! I walked out of that clinic feeling like a prisonor who had just been pardoned of his life punishment. A 2 ton weight lifted off me. How can I take it easy when all I wanted to do was celebrate?
After the surgical procedure all I had was just some medium to light bleeding afterwards - not even anywhere close to as bad as your normal period. Some very, very, very mild cramps - cramps that were not even worth taking an asprin for. It would have been a waste of asprin! One glass of red wine at lunch an hour later put a stop to those mild cramps straightaway. The very next day - light bleeding otherwise I was 'me' again. P.S. I know I wasn't supposed to drink afterwards, please no one start ranting on me. I know my body and what it can handle and if I can handle 1 glass of wine after having a wisdom tooth removed then this was no problem. As a matter of fact, speaking of wisdom teeth, having a wisdom tooth removed was far more worse than an abortion. I'll tell you why: you can't really feel you uterus, but you can feel inside your mouth and that's a lot more sensitive. Also, with a wisdom tooth, there are stitches involved and a gaping hole in the back of your mouth - the wisdom tooth was definately much worse than an abortion.
However, I am glad that I took the afternoon off even tho I physically was fine to go back to work - instead, my friend (my "ride home") and I went out to lunch and had a nice afternoon shopping afterwards.
If you can afford it - I agree with some of the other posters here who recommend the surgical option: It's just soooooooooooo much more convienent. The pill is cheaper, but it's such a pain in the neck to have to go running into the bathroom several times an hour for 3 days to see what's going on. You can't really go out anywhere - because what if the flood gates open and your out at the drug store, etc...
Pill= too slow
Sugical=much better
2007-05-30 11:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by BJD 2 · 2⤊ 3⤋
You are doing the right thing for YOU and that is all that matters.
The pill will result it a larger than normal period. you might be tired, but it is like a normal heavy period.
2007-05-30 10:45:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋