My soon to be ex husband had an affair with a coworker while I was 5 months pregnant. He of course denies it and says they hooked up after he left...but everyone knows diffrent. He got her pregnant 2 months before I had my son...and know is engaged to her. He filed for divorce right after I had my baby. This woman knew I was pregnant,was his wife and didnt care! Not to mention she caused problems in our marriage years before and he swore not to ever talk with her again!
2007-05-30 10:12:15 · 21 answers · asked by Adi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It won't last. If he is the type of man that can do that to you, he'll do it to her - it's just a matter of time. Remember these old sayings "if they cheated on someone else to be with you, they'll cheat on you to be with someone else" (that saying is more for HER than you) and "once a cheater, always a cheater" (this one applies to YOU in case he comes crawling back, and chances are he will - just remember, he'll never change). Four years ago I was going through chemo, sick as a dog with my hair falling out and terrified I was going to die, and my fiancee dumped me for another woman. We had just gotten engaged 5 months before, but we had been together for 3 1/2 years. He proposed AFTER we found out I was sick, swore he'd be there for me, etc., etc., etc. Long story short - I got better physically within a year, mentally, it took me almost 3 years to get over what he did - couldn't date, couldn't trust men, thought I'd never find love again, and my self esteem was shattered. I'm better now, and guess what, 1 month ago I got a knock on the door, opened it up, and there he was! After not one single word in four years, he had the nerve to say that he just wanted to stop by and say "hello" and could he come in. I slammed the door in his face. It took four years, but I finally had my closure. Now I'm dating a great guy (strangely enough another ex-fiancee, but this one had been a friendly, mutual break up), and I'm happy. You will be too someday Honey. Just concentrate on raising your beautiful child. Best of luck to you, you'll be in my thoughts and prayers!!
2007-05-30 10:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by AGT 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Wow, how awful. I am so sorry. As far as their relationship is concerned, I think they are destined to fail. Neither of them posses the morals, strength and respect required to make a relationship thrive.
Your ex-husband sounds like he could use some counseling to find out why he insists upon sabotaging the good in his life.
His fiancee sounds like she could use a good slap in the face; figuratively or literally.
Put them out of your mind the best you can. Don't worry if they're "happy" or if their relationship is solid. At least now, you're not effected by their mutually poor decisions. Its important not to disparage your ex in front of your son as much as you may want to demonstrate that you are the superior parent. Do the right thing in your mind, which is to be the better person in every way, as it seems you always have. Good luck.
2007-05-30 10:22:44 · answer #2 · answered by KaySki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if it makes you feel better you can blame her all you want. But your husband is the one who was not loyal and screwed you over. He didnt care that you were pregnant and he didnt care to use protection with her either. And you will all be tied together for the next 18yrs. So get over being angry and grow up for your child.
2007-05-30 10:16:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The grass is never greener on the other side...That's a fact!!!
Promise yourself one thing...when he comes crawling back...kick him to the curb.
It sounds like he has no idea what marriage is.To be honest with you...feel sorry for their already broken marriage. Wish them the best of luck & be glad he's not there to ruin your life anymore. Don't be vindictive...Just move on.
BTW: To answer your initial question....NO, their marriage won't last. Their marriage started out on infidelity. Don't be suprised if you get a call from her asking for advice on him...lol.
2007-05-30 10:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by lilzoo411@yahoo.com 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i hate that fool sounds like my ex gurl. trusted he wasnt messin with her wen u knew otherwise but u loved him so much u didnt want to believe it i feel u and im so sorry for wat he did to u but as for them ha they wont last the question is which one is gonna cheat first. just make sure that when he comes back to u when they start havin problems, and he will, make sure u dont le him back in no matter what he says, remember u were the back up in that case he shoulda realized what he had after cheating once after the first time if he did it again then he had no regret or remorse. trust me they'll break up i know they will its just a matterof time. stay up and be strong gurl
2007-05-30 10:20:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
love, forget about your soon to be **** of a man, he is not responsible and you must be happy he is going out of your life soon, it must be hard at first to cop with the child and you, but u have to challenge you self, please do what ever you can for your child and prove to that idiot of a man that he only messing with his ****** life.
Love you can do it so don't worry, i hope that woman will pay the same price but with a bonus. Good luck, and take care of you baby, give him/her the best of everything a child can think of and i'm sure that u will be blessed.
2007-05-30 10:19:59 · answer #6 · answered by asuoonline 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO. It probably won't. He'll probably cheat on her too. But he's the one you should be angry at, not her. You stayed with him even tho he was unfaithful (it sounds like) so why shouldn't she put up with his bad behavior too? You're not the only woman out there who fell into his trap & u won't be the last. RIght now focus on yourself & your baby. He's no good. Let some other woman deal with his mess. Good luck.
2007-05-30 10:16:40 · answer #7 · answered by RedDevyl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the dating until now this one lasted very nearly 5 years. I have been given laid the week we known because it quits by skill of her terrific buddy. It replaced into stable between all 3 human beings as we had had threesomes mutually until now.
2016-10-09 03:51:48 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will it last, No because he will likely cheat on her as he did you. Women who are the other woman doesn't realize that if he cheated on his wife he will also do the same to her. She deserves everything she gets, although it isn't entirely her fault but she didn't have to have anything to do with him.
2007-05-30 10:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by Krinta 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Doomed
2007-05-30 10:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by bocasbeachbum 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋