Does anyone else hate their mother in law ?

Question

I mean it is sooo bad I wouldn't even attend her funeral at this point.

Answer 1

LOL! Of course! My mother in law is the devil. Really, I think she is. We are actually in marriage counseling trying to work things out over her issues. Our counselor had to explain to my husband that his mother IS NOT NORMAL. How sad is that? He really thought she was and that I should just put up with it. LOL. I put up with her for 10 years and then I got over kissing her behind because the issue wasn't mine, it was hers. I never gave her any reason to hate me. I never responded to her hateful tirades or disrespect towards me. Basically my plan was and still is, to take the high road. I let her look bad by not responding to her hatefulness and control issues. It makes her madder when the family sides with me (even though I don't ask them to or gossip about the situation because that would be taking the "low road") and I just sit there and smile. She makes herself look bad and I'm guessing your mother in law does the same. Some people just can't let their kids go and no matter what you do you'll never be good enough. I have so much more peace now that I stopped letting her have so much control over my emotions. What she says and does just don't matter. She's so pathetically inconsequential in my world that her hate is a waste. Of course this just makes her madder but all the more giggles for me. Evilness repays itself with evilness. Just know that you aren't alone and that eventually you just have to set boundaries and smile politely when you tell her (in your best mommy voice) that her behaviour is rude or unacceptable and walk off before she can draw you into an argument. Chastising the childishly evil mother in law is the most fun a mistreated daughter or son in law can do. ;)

Answer 2

First, I would have screamed at her. But yes, I might be tempted to put exactly what you wrote in the baby book. Or ignore the whole thing, put it behind you, and make the second haircut the "real" thing. I know these "firsts" seem so important now; they were to me too, but looking back, it's the little moments all taken together and the flow of things over that first year that means more now. This may seem hard to imagine now, but you may be able to laugh about this someday - especially if you write that in the baby book. The mother-in-law from hell.... I don't mean in any way to minimize your feelings at the moment, but you will get over it. Try not to let it eat away at you.

Answer 3

whatever the drama is going on between you two. My best advice is to STOP. It not only gives you stress but fighting & hating is a WASTE OF TIME. You should never hate anyone. If she's that terrible then IGNORE HER & be the better, more mature person about it. Approach it with a better attitude, don't care or hope things will change. Your better off focusing on yourself & on your husband b/c that's all that matters. Just know that "hate" is wrong. Don't make disliking someone a big issue for yourself. It's not worth it.

Answer 4

OH GIRL I feel ya on this one and I could say the same thing about the funeral myself.

In answer to your question, YES, others cannot stand their mother-in-laws. You're not alone on this ship. You just have to shake it off and pretend that she doesn't bother you one bit. Ignore her, roll your eyes till they feel like they're going to fall off, get a squeeze ball---something. BUT just don't let her get the best of you or the benefit of the doubt---she will bask in knowing that you hate her.

Answer 5

Hate is just the other side of love. When you have expectations of someone and they don't live up to them, you become dissappointed in them. You either expect, or want her to be someone she is not. I'm sure you expect her not to interfere in your marriage, child raising, etc., and maybe she is doing just that, in which case it is your job to voice your dismay to your husband and it is his job to set some bounderies with his mother. She is your husband's mother and you obviously have to have her in your life, so you need to find ways to deal with that. When you allow someone else to make you angry, you are giving them your power. Instead try to see her as just a person, with a history that you do not know nor understand. Try a little empathy and you might see her in a different light.

Answer 6

YES! My mother in law is so horrible, I can not stand her, she is the worst person in the world, she lies, cheats, steals, you name it! I am so tired of her, I wish that I could tell you all of the horrible things that she has done, but I will not get into it here, I can tell you this though, I will see her in Court next week then it is ON!

Answer 7

Alot of us despise our mils so much that we would probably come over and help put yours in the ground too. Even the very word conjures up visions of a nightmare from hell

Answer 8

I'm a lucky woman. I love my mother-in-law. But I also love her son, so if there were any difficulties, I'd try to fix them.

Answer 9

My one mother-in-law was wonderful and is still alive. I love her to pieces.

My other mother-in-law was scary and I avoided her whenever possible. She died.

I can well understand hating someone who acts evil.

Answer 10

Oh dear, I thought my first MIL was bad, but she is nothing compared to the one I have now... thats why I've not talked to her since Feb, and have no desire to talk to her again... she treats my husband like he is nothing, until she wants something from him, then hes a slave... I hate his entire family.