i've met someone elce and told my wife that i no longer love her and have fallen for someone elce. instead of throwing me out she says she will fight for me and we are having the best sex ever. feel trapped
2007-05-30 09:45:44 · 38 answers · asked by wings 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, you have fallen for her little trap. You have sex with her and now you feel trapped and will guilty if you do not continue to have sex with her. That way, she can continue the relationship (of sorts) and in her state of denial hope that you will change your mind and realise that you love her!. My advice would be to stop all physical contact with your wife if you do not wish to continue the marriage. Be straight with your wife - if you do not love her do not sleep with her. Don't forget that she could find out who your new girlfriend is and tell her you have been still sleeping with her - you will lose both of them then!
2007-05-30 09:54:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bexs 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You feel trapped because you put yourself there. You should of been a real MAN and asked for a divorce then go looking for someone else. You are not in love with this other person, you were in it for the sex you weren't giving at home. Now your wife is letting you know that you are a weak person, because sex is keeping you there.
2007-05-30 09:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ms. Angel.. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone else why are you still having sex with your wife? You need to leave both of them and see what you really want. Don't play your wife. If the other woman knows that your married why is she messing around with you? That's very sleazy. That shows that she has no boundaries and won't care about anyone but herself. I feel sorry for your wife. I guess your vows meant for better or worse or at least until something better comes along. Shame on you!
2007-05-30 09:52:20 · answer #3 · answered by Mark and Allie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She still loves you. Why aren't you happy with your wife. Is that someone you fell for that good of a person to pull you away from the person you vowed to give your love to no matter what. The someone else must be worth it. Its going to be hard to end the marriage especially since she still wants you. You should really think about it before you end it. Sometimes we as men, tend to look the other way at times and something may grab your attention just for that moment but its not meant to be. "The cake only looks good because you're hungry" Think about one.... Wish you luck...
2007-05-30 09:51:21 · answer #4 · answered by drew46759 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you so quick to leave your wife? You've built a life together... do you have kids?
I can understand having an attraction to someone else... but you promised to love, honor, and cherish your wife. Running off to be with someone else is sort of a character flaw. Why so insecure? Would you have ended it with your wife if you didn't have someone to run to?
Think it through before you mess up everyone's life... and REALLY think it over if you have kids.
Good luck to you... not shooting for a "Best Answer" here... just keeping it real.
2007-05-30 09:50:34 · answer #5 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to go to conseling with her. If you truly do not want her stop leading her on, cut the sex out. No matter how good it is... It is not fair. If you "love" the other person like you say you do then HELLO! Why are you still ahving sex with your wife!!! Also... Is it worth throwing away your marraige for this other person? Are you truly in love with her? Obviously you still have some passion for your wife yet. & again i think yall need couples counseling.
2007-05-30 09:51:37 · answer #6 · answered by Ang3l-Uh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, idiot, quit having sex with her.
if you really wanted out, then you would be pulling up your pants and packing your stuff.
sounds to me like you just wanted to be noticed and to pick up the lag that often happens in marriages.
either sh!t or get off the pot, dude. Do not string this other girl along, and do not string your wife along.
if the only time wifey is willing to get freaky is when you say you are leaving, then maybe you two need some serious help.
one way or the other. you can't have both.
2007-05-30 09:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how long you have been in your relationship and if you really love your wife. Do you want her to fight for you do you still love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her? If not then end it do not put her in so much anguish than what you already have. You made your bed now you must lay in it. Good luck to you!
2007-05-30 09:50:10 · answer #8 · answered by irishone28_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you waiting for her to throw you out? LEAVE. You're disrespecting yourself and your wife. You're also disrespecting the memory of your marriage.
My sister cheated on her her husbands. My brother was married for 22 years and two affairs before leaving his wife for another woman (who rejected him as soon as he was single...don't forget, women do that!).
I have never been married because it feel like every woman I have been with can't distract me from the "other" women in the world. I've cheated on every girl I have been with except for one. I refuse to get married until I know for sure I won't stray.
Don't wait for your wife to throw you out. RESPECT the woman you married (and if you have kids, the mother of your children). Have the balls to end the relationship and THEN go find someone else.
Also, FYI, its spelled "else."
2007-05-30 09:52:21 · answer #9 · answered by contrafilms 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, you must be some kind of *** if you have told your wife you found someone else and then have sex with her! You are leading her on. You should not feel trapped, you should feel guilty. Be a man!
2007-05-30 09:50:01 · answer #10 · answered by ~Debbie~ 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋