how old should u be to have sex?

Question

how old? i mean i m 13, so i m not a lil kid so answer me!! and no i dont wanna talk to my parents about this so dont write an answer saying "talk to ur parents" also can u answer this; is 14 too early?

Answer 1

honestly girl there is no age it is a matter of if your ready to have sex but just remeber this plz use protection b/c if you aren't ready to be a mom its not fair to the baby

Answer 2

Yes, 14 is way too early. Basically, these are the things I think you need to consider before having sex:
1. Would I be able to take care of a baby if I were to get pregnant? Emotionally, financially and physically. You would have to be all those things independently. Because whoever got you pregnant would probably ditch you. And you can bet your parents would be seriously pi**ed.
2. What would I do if I got a STD?
3. Is this the person that I will be with forever? (You are only 13 so no one you would be with now would be the person you'd be with forever)! Ideally, you should be married before having sex. This doesn't happen very often, but you should at least be with someone you love deeply. Again, at 13, you really arn't emotionially mature enough yet to come to that conclusion.
4. Am I ready to give up my childhood? No, your not a child at this point, you are technically a teenager. But if you were to get pregnant, you would be facing giving up all the things you want to do. Like hang out with friends, go to dances, play sports and so on.
5. What would my parents think? I know and remember well that when you are 13 you think that your parents are total losers and nothing they say matters at all. But all in all, it does matter. If you know that this is something your parents would disapprove of, don't do it. Remember, they are a lot older than you and they have been through a lot of experiences. Maturity is the word here. And don't think they would never find out because your parents eventually find out everything!!
6. Why are you doing this? Why are you getting ready to have sex? Why is this even on your mind? Is it because all your friends are doing it, or the boy your with wants you to do it?
7. You have to be ready to face all consequences. And believe me, at some point there will be some. Pregnancy, STDS, gossip, hurt and your dignity.

So, those are the things you need to consider. If there is even the slightest doubt, worry or concern that crosses your mind or you feel in your heart, then you are not ready. I know at 13 it doesn't seem like sex should be such a big deal, but it is. Take it from adults who have been there, done that and know what could happen. And there is no right age! Like people who say 17 or 18. No, some people are not even ready then. I was 19. And even at 19 I was extremely careful. It took me awhile to decide that this was what i wanted to do. And I am happy that I waited so long! God bless you.

Answer 3

Well, it probably is too young, but you'll do what you want. My suggestion is to talk to a older sibling if you have one, maybe a cousin, or do you have a friend who has an older sibling? I know I'd never talk to my parents about such a thing. To say a certain age, won't mean a thing to you. You didn't say who it is? An older kid like 16 or another 13 yr old. Remember lots of STDs are permanent. While a pregnancy isn't (if you have an abortion, which isn't always easy, safe and very emotional). I think you should talk to this person you may have sex with, see how that person feels. If he/she doesn't want to talk about it, then it isn't worth your time or your body.
You won't understand the importance of this act at this age, just a year or 2 later it may be a more enjoyable thing, right now it will just be awkward

Answer 4

YES, 14 IS TOO EARLY. WAIT. do not have sex. live you life as a teen, not as an adult. you have you whole life ahead of you to have sex...you don't want to do anything you'll reget later. you should have sex whenever you feel completely comfortable to do so (but when you're a lot older like 18 or so) and when you have found someone you really trust and love, because, after all, your first time is supposed to be magical and something you'll always remember. Many girls make the mistake of having sex too soon, when they are not mentally mature enough, (no matter how "ready" they feel) and in addition to regret, end up with an STD or pregnant. it's fine to think about sex and stuff, but try concentrating more on 13-year-old things like shopping and school. remember, once you lose it, there's no going back. good luck!

Answer 5

Are you ready to accept the consequences of your actions? Can you handle being a parent? And I don't mean just playing with a baby... I mean 24 hour a day total commitment... no more playing with your friends, no sleep. Can you afford to have a baby and raise it properly (food, clothing, housing, medical care)? Can you handle getting an STD that will be with you for the rest of your life? 13, even 14 is very young. Take time to enjoy being young... once you have sex, you can never go back to just holding hands.

Answer 6

I started at 13, then realized what a mistake I had made and did not do it again until I was 16 (not that 16 is any better) but at 16 you think you know it all. If i could go back I would wait, wait until I was out of school, or close to being out (senior) I know now a days that doesn't exsit you have 11 yr olds having kids, but I was your age and I messed up and yes you don't learn from other peoples mistakes I know that but maybe hearing it will make you think twice. When you do decide to go ahead and "do it" PLEASE protect yourself, there are so many things out there you can catch, and always the chance you can get pg. I do not regret my kids I love them all, but had I waited, I would have been able to go to prom, celebrate my 21st at the clubs and so on, i missed out, all my friends were out partying and i was home raising children. so PLEASE becareful

Answer 7

YOU ARE TOO a little kid!!! You may have your period. You may have little boobies and a body and everything. But you are still emotionally a little kid. Fourteen is FAR too early. Please don't waist your time on boys when you could be getting really good grades and working towards a really amazing future. Wait until you are at least GRADUATED from high school, whether that is 17 or 18, to start having sex. It would be best to wait until you are in a committed ADULT relationship.
Trust me. At thirteen, you are NOT grown.

Answer 8

Personally I think your too young. WAY to young as a matter of fact. Sex is a huge huge commitment. With sex can come the risk of stds such as herpes, gonorrhea, and even AIDS. Also as much as it is a joy for me their is also the risk of pregnancy. In your case you are too young to have and care for a baby. Sex is a big step In a relationship and should be taken very seriously. I know you said you didn't want to hear it but at 13 your still very much a child and your mom, aunt or a trusted responsible adult is the best person to ask.

Answer 9

Honestly yes. Sex is a big deal, no matter what a boy says. Realistically, you need to understand that you can get pregnant, you could get and STD, and how would you handle a break up? Birth control and condoms aren't 100% effective. You're not a little kid, that's true, but let me tell you, I got pregnant at 16, and I had to work twice as hard as my friends for anything. Just think about it. Sex is special and there is nothing wrong with waiting!

Answer 10

Um you night want wait till at least you're about to get out of or out of high school just in case somethin goes wrong (ie pregnancy). But there really isn't an age it's actually when you find thar some one special who you are willing to let inflict pain on you b/c yes there is pain before pleasure.

Answer 11

im thirteen. you should wait till marriage, but if you're willing to accept the emotional and physical consequences of having sex (pregnancy, feeling guilt, hurt, etc.), then maybe, just MAYBE you're ready. if you get pregnant at 14, your whole life is ruined. your boyfriend is most likely to leave you if he's the usual kind of guy. your boyfriend is probably not ready to deal with a baby either, so he'll leave you. you can get in trouble withthe law too depending on where you live. you have to be a certain age to have sex. it is called the age of consent. if you want to look for your age of consent, search that on some search engine and you'll surely find it. if you're considering to have sex, be sure to use protection and be careful. dont let any guy trick you into doing something that is against your will. if he wants it and you dont, he's disrespecting you. what won't make him disrespect you later when you're pregnant? he'll just probably make you get an abortion or better yet leave you.