My friend just told me at lunch that:?

Question

her husband constantly harps at her that he wants to be with her and another girl in the bed at the same time. My friend doesn't know what to think about her husband wanting to do this. Does it mean he isn't into her anymore? or she is too dull for him or what? Will he start liking the 2nd girl better than the wife if they do it once? Also, the husband doesnt know where to find a 2nd girl to put in there with him and her, its just always been a fantasy, so where would he even find someone to do that with him and her?? I have never thought about this situation, so I did not know what to tell her! Should my friend be mad at her husband for wanting this? Should my friend want to do this?? HELP??

ITS NOT ME THAT HE IS INTERESTED IN----HE HARDLY EVEN SPEAKS TO ME, OR WANTS HER TO HANG OUT WITH ME MUCH. SO, THE ANSWERS ABOUT ME ARE NOT CORRECT. THERE IS NO WAY.

Answer 1

If she doesn't want to do it, that should be the end of it. She should tell her husband why she doesn't want to and he should respect that. Lots of men have fantasies about 2 women. But what if he starts to be more attracted to the other woman....then what? My ex suggested it one time to me, and that's what I told him. What if he decided he liked her better than his wife? Besides, the Bible says you are to stay faithful to your partner....that to me is not being faithful. Maybe she should ask him what he would think about a threesome but with another man? Fair's fair.

Answer 2

Well I've done this for my husband but it was MY idea and I offered it to him as a bday present. I found a woman on the website www.aff.com - Adult Friend Finder. It's a sex only site. No relationships, just meeting people for whatever kind if sex you are into. However, I would NEVER do this if my husband had asked first. I think it's hurtful and disrespectful for a man to ask his wife or woman to add another woman. That's saying that she's not enough for him and I would definitely break up with any man who asked me that. And the fact that he's "harping" on her to do it and then expects HER to find the woman, it's like wow. No way.

Answer 3

Your friend should do it if she truely believes that her husband loves her. Dudes have fantasies and (especially married ones) want to act them out once in their lives. Him asking the question does not mean he wants to be with another women and leave your friend 'cause if he did he would just go and sleep with another girl. He is being open about his feelings and expressing what he wants, that is a GOOD thing. I say tell her to go for it and if she does it will probably take them to another level in their relationship. Just make sure she knows that he only wants to do it 'cause it's a fantasy, not because he doesn't love her. Word. Oh, and make sure it's no one they know or will ever see again. That leaves out the "will he end up liking her more than me" problem.

Answer 4

Steer clear of this one. She's going to do it. If she hasn't said unequivocally "no".."nothing doing" then she's going to follow though. Watch...it'll be the beginning of the end. If you even so much as get involved when the whole relationship goes to hell in a handbasket she'll be looking for someone to blame and guess who'll be right there to take the hit?
Yep...you. Don't think this isn't a possibility. And for God's sake...don't be the third party in the bedroom. For all you know that may be what's she's driving at. No? perhaps not but always expect the unexpected.

Answer 5

I hate to break it to you Chica, but you are so wrong to think he does not want you... I have been in this situation, and the end result was exactly the reaction you are denying... To clarify, I mean him wanting you, been in those shoes before, and never understood until there divorce... These are things you find out when the damage has already been done...
What I mean is, I never knew why he didn't like us hanging out. Now I know... And as far as a threesome, I have never done it and I would not recommend it either...
Very bad... This is for crying out loud ~SACRED~ Pa`lease people..... Wake up!

Answer 6

Does ur spouse already comprehend that u have a company dating along with her & her agency? if so i don't think of she could desire to any precise to get angrey . Afterall its a company lunch that could desire to in all probability carry extra money into ur dating. it is not an all of the sudden invitation so ur ex can see u!!! i could take a seat and tell her those varieties of issues and if she gets mad u'll could desire to handle it yet i could bypass on the lunch. DEFINETLEY, do not deceive UR spouse reason if all of us else sees u & ur at the same time & it gets returned to ur spouse she'll never have faith it became right into a company lunch cuz she ask your self why u saved it from her in the 1st place.

Answer 7

saw a question like this on t.v. from sue the sex doctor who's on the oxygen channel and she says threesomes should be left as a fantasy because they tend to ruin relatioships and cause problems but if they still decide to go through with it i guess maybe they could put an add in the paper look online. i'm sure there are sites that could help them out if that's what she decides.

Answer 8

I have a friend who had a threesome with her husband and another girl. She said her husband was more into the other girl during sex and she would never do it again. I think a good thing to remember is three's a crowd.

Answer 9

Find out from your friend how she feels personally, would she do it? Personally I would see that as infidelity in a marriage because sex is supposed to be between a man and a woman. I wouldn't be mad at him for asking, but have her explain to him how she feels (ex: no she has no interest) and ask him not to bug her. At least he is sharing his feelings with her and not going out and cheating. In my mind, he still wants her around or he would just have gone and had an affair. Again, find out her feelings and go from there! You are a good friend for doing all this for her!!

Answer 10

r u sure she was not asking you in a round about way
well most men have fantasy's about this and she should not be mad at him. but it will cause problems in the relationship. What i would is play along with him and say i will and hope he never finds a girl to go along with it. just make sure if she don't want to do it that she don't look for it.