after having relations with a girl 12years ago, her parents had me arrested and pleaded guilty to a felony. That has ruined my whole life from that point.
Trying to find out who else has had this happen to them and what they have done to over come the many issues that we are faced on a daily trial.
2007-05-30 08:09:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I was 21 and stayed at there house sometimes. Her parent told me to sleep on her bed and she would sleep on the couch. She ended up coming onto me and things happened. There was no force at all. She missed her period and freaked out told her parent and they confronted me and I also freaked out.
It was 12 years ago and still making my life hell.
2007-05-30 08:21:19 · update #1
She was 16 at the time i was 21.
2007-05-30 08:23:06 · update #2
Somehow either the parents were vindictive OR you really had it coming.
Not knowing the details of your case, it's difficult to determine who's at fault. However, in hindsight, you realize that all it takes is ONE BAD DECISION.
I never had to overcome adversity but many people find help by attending the church of their choice. Those people will offer comfort. Talk to a clergyman and ask his advice and council.
2007-05-30 08:16:02 · answer #1 · answered by Suze 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im going to assume that the relationship was consensual. Maybe she was 16-17 you were 18 -20? This happens all the time. A boy and a girl dating through high school and than he turns 18 before her and the parents have the right to press charges. That happened to a friend of mine, and he went on to marry a nice girl and have lived happily since.If this is also your situation, i wish you the best of luck. If, on the other hand you are a disgusting pedophile than you will have to live with harsher consequences.
2007-05-30 08:24:10 · answer #2 · answered by firedup 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a little confused....but this is normal. I dont know why you are in jail for having sex with this girl but since you pleaded guility I asume you deserve what you got. However people make mistakes and **** happens. Grow from it and put it behind you. If you are having trouble putting it behind you, see someone with experience in these kind of issues to help you deal with them. With that said, life is to short to worry about this kind of ****. Like I said people make mistakes get up and move on.
2007-05-30 08:21:00 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is the result of a series of decisions. I have no idea why you chose to have sex with a 12yo, but you have to live with your choices. Looking back I had thousands of legit shots with underage girls, literally. I was living in Asia and the girls saw me as a rich foriegner. I was the one who had to be mature and responsible and I was. I stuck to girls I was certain were well above the legal age. Sorry for what has happened. Eventually things will change for you.
2007-05-30 08:15:31 · answer #4 · answered by morgan j 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Let me make it easy for you to understand:
If, someday, you get married and have a daughter. Before you know it, she is already 16 years old. One day, you realize that her boyfriend (or worse, some random dude that you don't know) is having sex with her...
How will you react? Will you go easy on the guy?
2007-05-30 08:18:50 · answer #5 · answered by DeadManWalking 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are yoiu telling me that you had sex with a person over 16 but under 18? How old were YOU at the time?
How old was she at the time? You were 21, how old was she?
2007-05-30 08:13:32 · answer #6 · answered by Dog Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry, but no sympathy here. You did something you knew was wrong to begin with. Take responsibility for it, learn from it, and move on. A lot of people have difficult lessons to learn.
2007-05-30 08:17:35 · answer #7 · answered by clarity 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you plead guilty after 12 years
2007-05-30 08:14:25 · answer #8 · answered by skcs11 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was statutory rape. You didn't have the right to have sex with her. She wasn't old enough to legally consent. What the hell do you expect her parents to do? She was their child and they trusted you and you broke their trust.
Suck it up and learn from it. No more sex with underage girls.
2007-05-30 08:26:05 · answer #9 · answered by Bush Invented the Google 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dug your own grave, I have no pity. Deal with the consequences and hopefully you will think twice before sleeping with a minor again.
2007-05-30 08:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Whiskey Tango Foxtrot 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋