All the questions are about women who have children and their boyfriend doesn't want to get married now. Why are all these kids getting pregnant and THEN wanting to get married? What have I missed? Better yet, what have these kids missed?
2007-05-30 07:43:34 · 21 answers · asked by lady 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It takes two to make children, a woman doesn't get pregnant on her own.
With that said, it's natural to have a child properly brought into the owrld in an stablished and legally recognized family. Nobody wants to bring illegitimate children into the world.
Good luck
2007-05-30 08:00:18 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately we live in an "immediate gratification" soceity. We want everything now and we want to be completely happy all of the time.
Very few people now a days delays pleasure...no one thinks. I thought that AIDS would have given our society a "moment of pause"...to sit back and think about priorities...it hasn't done anything...if anything it has gotten worse as children are growing up under the AIDS threat and have simply paid no attention to the issue or its threat.
I believe that we are headed for hard times before it gets better...unfortunately it will have to take a catastrophy before any real changes will take effect on our values.
I find it absolutely amazing that even the educated population will spend great amounts of time selecting the right person for a particular job then spend very little in the selection of a mate...
C-
2007-05-30 14:56:33 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have children and then get married I think you miss an important part of getting the marriage started on the right foot.
You need a little time before the children come to iron out the kinks.
2007-05-30 14:50:45 · answer #3 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I ultimately believe it is 90% the parents fault as to what happens to there children. Parents need to crack the whip and know 100% of the time what there kids are doing, who they are with and when they will be home. I can't stand it when kids ask for freedom, to me they don't deserve it until they are 18 years old. As for these young kids wanting to get married, they need a wake up call. I question this every day when I see this young kids walking around the city pushing strollers.
2007-05-30 14:48:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow good question.. I look at kids in the mall or park whatever you may have...I am like omg how old are they??? I look on their hands and no they are not married...
I feel so bad for these kids.. The men or boys would I say got off easy.. They got the sex they got the baby why marry her....??? Teenagers now a days just put out to fast and don't protect themselves.. Not one of them everything of marriage...I have talk to a few even a few older ones and they say what is the point of getting married...????
I don't understand it myself...I think it has alot to do with how they were raised....They the values that were instilled in them...It makes me sad...
2007-05-30 15:08:41 · answer #5 · answered by Mamabear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These are the people who just hop into bed and are not thinking!!!!!!!! Stupid as can be. They think getting pregnant and having babies, calls for marriage. This is the I'll trap a man if I have his baby, and that shouldn't fly with any guy. I don't feel people should get marry because of kids. There should be some kind of love in there.
2007-05-30 14:52:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't help you understand it, because I don't understand it myself. I think these people are deluding themselves, thinking that they have to live together before getting married, but then nature happens, she's pregnant, and doesn't want to have a wedding because she's fat and ugly. Then, the baby comes, life happens (as those of us with children know) and the dad is thinking "what the hell?" Then they never get married, and you have all these children growing up without a father's influence.
One of the biggest indicators of poverty is the lack of a father in the home. Sad, isn't it?
2007-05-30 14:47:45 · answer #7 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a lot of young kids think sex is love and that's the problem .As a grown up we learn that a baby brings hard work and commitment from both parents but it's sad that they give up on the first hurdle in a relationship and parenting.and married today is like a dirty word a piece of paper which they believe doesn't mean anything .it's so sad and i hope things will change and kids will start to respect themselves again.i know not all kids are the same but it is becoming such a popular thing to have a baby .
2007-05-30 14:57:18 · answer #8 · answered by diane o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it is not that they get pregnant and then they want to get married.. it's more like oooppps I am pregnant lets get married.. (because that is what they think they are suppose to do to make things ok again.) So when their bf find out that they are pregnant, they know they can't take all that responsibility so they just run away... poor kids..they don't know any better=(
2007-05-30 14:49:44 · answer #9 · answered by Princesa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kids have missed out on being properly raised. Were living the last days on earth and this is the part where everything turns upside down. You can read all about it in the Bible, in the last book. Also, you can come back to this answer in a few hours and see numerous "thumbs down" for my answer, which serves as even more evidence!
2007-05-30 14:48:11 · answer #10 · answered by cindy h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋