I am miscarrying my baby. I am bleeding and cramping right now.
I already went to the hospital, and they confirmed No Heartbeat and also my levels went down. I go see my doctor tomorrow, so I probably have my DNC then. I am so angry!!! I am angry that people are having abortions willingly, and I miscarried unwillingly. This is not fair!!! Why couldn't I have had my baby and those people that have abortions miscarry. I am so angry!!!!!!!!! I want my baby!!!!!!!!!!!!! I Just Want My Baby!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I really want to try again sooner then later!! I feel like I am going out of my mind here. When is the soonest I can try again?????????
2007-05-30 07:32:35 · 35 answers · asked by Greer 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had a miscarraige the beginning of April 2007. I don't know if this is the safest thing in the world, but 8 days after I stopped bleeding from the miscarraige, I conceived a baby that I am now pregnant with. (due Jan 7th) My dr has done several blood tests and my levels are going up. I know how much having a miscarraige hurts...but there is hope! Good luck to you!! I hope you have the same luck we did.
2007-05-30 07:42:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some things just don't have an explanation. I have been in your shoes, and wanted to understand how this happens to people that really want a child. I know its not fair at all. I feel for you sweetie. I had a miscarriage with my first pregnancy and was sooo disappointed I also went to the doctor w/ bleeding and no heart beat was found. Then w/ my second pregnancy I started bleeding again around 15 weeks and was sure I was miscarrying again. I again went to the Er and this time a heart beat was found. I delivered a healthy baby boy after that. I am now on my third pregnancy and have not had any bleeding so far. *fingers crossed* . I have o- blood and this was causing me to bleed due to the Rh factor. My doctor told me that most woman have successful pregnancy after a miscarriage. So keep your head up, and I would try again in a few months. Best wishes to you
2007-05-30 07:47:42 · answer #2 · answered by bns2007 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There isn't much question here but I feel for you. You should ask your doctor tomorrow about when to try again, usually after a few normal periods. Talk with him about why the miscarriage happened and what you can do differently (although most often the answers to those two questions are nothing at all, no reason for miscarriage and no change for mom other than being extra gentle with herself next time). You should know that most miscarriages are caused by there being some developmental problem with the embryo and it could never have been alive. Hang in there and let all the emotions wash over you, there will be anger, and fear, and guilt, and lots of pain. They are all right. Go ahead and feel as you will feel, grieve, and heal. Best wishes for you, all my love
2007-05-30 07:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Momofthreeboys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm really sorry for this and I understand where you're coming from in being angry about it. I felt the same way when I miscarried. But there isn't much you can do about it or those ungrateful people. I believe that you should wait at least a couple of months before you try again. My best advice would be to wait until your periods are normal again. This way you know that your body has recouped. And is ready to carry another baby. I'm really sad for your loss hun!!
2007-05-30 07:40:40 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A miscarriage is your body rejecting the baby. I don't think it would be wise to get pregnant right away. Wait a little while and let your body heal. That's the important thing right now. You will most likely be able to concieve again and carry the baby until full term but right now, your body doesn't feel like it's ready. You need to do what's best for you right now and that it letting your body recover.
I do understand your frustion with women who have an abortion. To me, anyone who kills an unborn baby, or any baby, should not live. I wrote a 40 page paper on abortion back in my senior year of high school.
There is someone on here who doesn't want her baby, maybe you can get in contact with her and see if she will let you adopt her baby. It doesn't hurt to ask really. She won't really have t o worry about keeping her baby and you'll get to have one.
I hope I have helped in some way. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-05-30 08:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Kat 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am really very sorry. It's perfectly natural and o.kay to be angry. And you will be for some time. You will be angry and sad and most of the time both! I had a miscarriage, too. A friend at the same time had an unwanted pregnancy (she kept it) and I wad horribly ANGRY at her. How could she not want the life that I was fighting for and eventually lost.
I have to tell you that when you get pregnant again... and have your baby you will feel better. You won't forget, but the anger and the loss will lessen.
I know it's not what you want to hear right now, but you will be a happy mom one day.
My Dr. said he usually recommends 6 months, but I was healthy and desperately wanted a baby... he gave me the green light at 3 months.
Good Luck and God Bless.
2007-05-30 07:39:45 · answer #6 · answered by 17_peppers 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all honey, I know how you feel. I have been there...10 times. In between my 2 children I had 10 of them, so yes, I know how you feel and I know how horrible it is. You will need to let your body heal and only your doctor can tell you when you would be able to try again. I know you want to try right away and I know it's hard not to, but you will need to take your time and relax. The BEST thing to do is find a way to relax. My husband (well, ex husband) and I tried for 2 years and kept miscarrying before we were even married and then God thought it was the right time (the night we got married) finally and allowed me to carry my youngest. Keep your faith in love and yourself, he knows what he's doing even if it does not seem like it now. Good luck my friend, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
2007-05-30 07:42:07 · answer #7 · answered by ladyfrog1178 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That totally depends on you and when you are ready physically and emotionally too! You need to give yourself some time to grieve this baby and also you very well might be more ready for another pregnancy if you give your body some time to recover. Also, talk to your doc and they will be able to advise you as to when you can start trying again. If they haven't already, ask if you can have the testing to see if they can find a reason for the miscarriage!!! Many docs don't want to test until you've been through three, but alot of them are changing the way they go about things so that women don't have to endure three miscarriages before getting answers. Knowing they DON'T find anything can help with your piece of mind during another pregnancy too.
2007-05-30 07:39:04 · answer #8 · answered by Molly O 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vent away sister! I lost an angel in december. They told me 3-4 months. But as I was reading up I learned they tell you that long for your emotions. I am not a proffesional but I think if you wait and have one full normal period, then the next month you'll be ok to start trying if YOU feel up to trying. Is this your first miscarriage? If not then you might want to get some tests to find out why you're miscarrying.
You're in my prayers hun and I know that right now it seems like there is no light at the end of the tunnel but keep walking... it's there!
2007-05-30 08:02:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing in December...i know how you feel. Just hang in there. I miscarried everything on New Years and then concieved again in March. While they tell you it's best to wait three months to try again, I started trying the next month. Lots of women get pregnant just a few weeks later and have healthy babies. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-05-30 07:39:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋