I believe it should be more difficult to get married and easy to get a divorce. Right now its easy to get married and hard to get divorced. At least if it is hard to get married by the time two people are ready to make that decision they should have found out one of two things: 1) I should not marry this person for whatever reason. 2) I still want to marry this person.
2007-05-30 07:30:16 · 23 answers · asked by soulsearcherofthetruth 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Divorce in north america and the UK tends to favour women, in terms of custody of children and then indirectly financial support. Consequently, women file for divorce much more frequently then men do. In countries where women tend to lose the kids (some strong patriarchal countries are like this) women rarely file for divorce.
Most people want to be with their children. Furthermore, many courts (at least where I live) seem to take the view that the children should be unaffected financially by the divorce. Since the parents are - collectively - now supporting two homes, not one, this is generally only possible by leaving the non custodial parent destitute.
A more reasonable standard would be that the children should be in similar financial circumcstances with both parents post-divorce, and evenly split custody should be expected. That would still involve some support payments from the higher to lower earner, but much less then today.
I think if both parties in a divorce expected to only have their children half the time, and both expected to be worse off financially and have to move into a smaller home ... we'd see people thinking a little more carefully.
2007-05-30 08:03:48 · answer #1 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be hard to get married and harder still to get a divorce. It should be almost impossible to divorce while there are still kids in the house. Marriage has completely lost it's meaning. Getting married now is just a way of saying that you are a REALLY good BF/GF.
If divorce were hard to get then people would think twice about marrying AND getting a divorce.
2007-05-30 07:46:59 · answer #2 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you make it hard to get married? That would be the big question. A waiting period? A written test? Slapping large fees on it would be struck down as discrimination. What exactly would you put in there to make it hard for the people to get married?
Also, right now, it is not that hard to get a divorce. Some states have more stringent laws than others, however in most states the process is not that hard. What is hard is the emotional impact of it and the deciding the aftermath of it (such as dividing assets and setting alimony and such). However, the actual process of divorce is not that difficult, especially when both parties agree.
2007-05-30 07:35:47 · answer #3 · answered by A.Mercer 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's easy to get divorced - unless the people involved make it hard. You can't stop folks from fighting over anything and everything when getting a divorce - no law can change human nature. My ex-husband and I did not fight, and got divorced very easily. And getting married is already hard enough for most people, as everyone seems to want to spend $20,000 on a wedding; if this isn't hard, I don't know what is.
2007-05-30 07:37:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i'm in the middle of my wedding preparations, and from my perspective, it is NOT easy to get married if you adhere to the traditional wedding stuff (short of going to a justice of the peace). addressing envelopes to gazillions of people i barely even know was not easy, making handmade favors for the reception is not easy, planning the whole flippin' event is not easy - and here in hawaii, it's traditional for the bride to fold 1,000 origami cranes (the groom folds only one), and THAT was sure as heck not easy. if i didn't want to marry my fiancee, i definitely would have figured it out by now - i wouldn't do all this work for just anybody! :o)
anyway, i think it can be easy to get married, but it usually isn't. and no matter how hard or easy it is, people will still make mistakes and marry the wrong person in the heat of the moment. making divorce easy would just give couples an easy way out, and nobody would work at their marriages anymore...and from what i'm told, they require a lot of work, no matter how well the couple gets along.
2007-05-30 07:54:01 · answer #5 · answered by trillian 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lots of people have the same feeling. Having a waiting period of at least a week or two would prevent the Las Vegas wedding and Reno divorce thing, and it would have given Britney one less husband. On the other hand, long and involved divorce cases make lawyers rich and everyone else crazy.
2007-05-30 07:35:00 · answer #6 · answered by justa 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agreed with most of the answers, it should be Difficult to do both. Every body's jumping to get marry, and they just as easily can get out of it. People would put a lot more thought into if it were difficult both ways.
2007-05-30 07:41:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's pretty easy to get divorced. It should be mopre difficult, so people would think twice before getting married. I'd also make it very, VERY difficult to have children...too many idiots cranking out tooo many babies they have no idea how to raise
2007-05-30 07:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by SvetlanaFunGirl 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course, it would be nice to have it the way things were 50 years ago, and have there NOT be no-fault divorce.
2007-05-30 09:10:22 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to get married and way to easy to get divorced.
They should make it a lot harder to get a divorce,this way people would try harder to make it work.Like was back in the good old days.divorce was frowned on or unheard of.
2007-05-30 07:36:44 · answer #10 · answered by jjohn w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋