We were friends,we also kissed one night at his house,we had a fight and have not spoken for 3 months I am still in love with him and really miss him...and it gets worse we also had a business relationship at one time and he is one of my husbands friends...but for some reason ever sense we had a fight he has nothing to do with my husband????
2007-05-30 07:24:07 · 23 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm a little surprised at how harsh everyone here is. But I do think they have a point... if you're in a committed relationship and have feelings for someone else (enough to actually do something), then there's something missing or wrong with your marriage. You need to figure that out. Go to counseling - for you and then maybe both of you. Figure out if you're not in love with your husband anymore or if you're just idealizing a crush. If the 'friend' is putting distance between anything having to do with you... it would appear that he has made his decision.
2007-06-02 01:47:16 · answer #1 · answered by Nepenthes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey you are married...the whole kissing thing should have never happened. Period!!! You need to figure out the difference between love and lust. The next time you look into your husband's eyes just think of how hurt he would be if he knew what you have done and how you feel. How would you feel if he were to do something like this to you. What would you expect him to do? Tell you? End it? You really need to quit being selfish and think about the people you are going to hurt in the long run. You are already fighting with this other person and ya'll aren't even together. Hmmmmmm imagine that! The grass is not always greener on the other side. I sorry you are going through this but you need to figure some things out and quick.
2007-05-30 14:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by DPB_8 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must love playing with fire. Not only do you kiss your husband's friend and have a fight with him but now after not speaking for three months, you are 'in love' with him. What's your husband think of all this?
He has nothing to do with your husband because you are Trouble. He knows Trouble when he sees it. Why would he want to fraternize with your husband now, knowing that you are hovering in the background, giving him the 'winky-winky, hey come here handsome' looks?
Either that or else he's waiting until your husband really doesn't consider him to be a friend at all and then he can really let loose and cheat big time with his ex-friend's (your husband) wife!
Either way, it's bad news. If you can't stay faithful to your husband, admit that you can't to your husband and take your lumps in the form of a nice neat and orderly divorce. Do that before you start screwing around on him - he'll thank you eventually, after he gets over the hurt and resentment.
2007-05-30 14:35:11 · answer #3 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is what I kept hearing on this Board when I first started on "Answers",
"The Grass isn't always greener on the other side!"
I know! Please either work things out with your Husband OR break-up because having a BF while married to someone else, only works against you!
You and the Guy-friend should NOT "go there!" You both are asking for troubles and things only get worse in both if you persist with the BF.
OI'm serious! I just learned the hard way because I wouldn't listen to my gut instincts!
My own doing, but........... please STOP what you're doing and take a good look!
Make a choice NOW or you will regret!
2007-05-30 14:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by julesrules 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should get on with your husband. whats wrong with you... you have no respect for your husband???!!!! Why did you marry him if you was gonna make him look like an a$$hole in front of his peers. If you ever loved him and you love this new guy that probably is laughing at your husband... tell your husband and stop playing games. Let him go because he could probably find happiness with someone who really does appreciate him.
2007-05-30 14:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by bronxbella1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure its love and not an infatuation to the other person? Maybe you are just missing the friendship that you once shared with this person. Also what was the fight about? So what you kissed him once, did it go any further than that? Think about it really carefully and see if its love (which I doubt...don't mean to sound mean about it) or just an infatuation. After all you don't want to ruin your marriage over an infatuation do you?
2007-05-30 14:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's because you're looking but married? I don't give women like you the time of day. You're ruining yours and everyone elses life. Good luck with that. Imagine the place you're putting your husband's friend in. What could be worse than to have your wife flirting and kissing your friend? That is embarrassing and SO dishonorable, cheap, whorish and dirty.
2007-05-30 14:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by madbaldscotsman 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He just wants to have sex with you. If you just want to do the same, without pursuing any further of a relationship, then go for it. If you can't ignore your feelings for him during your playtime (as it seems you already can't), then I would abstain from him;
you aren't capable of handling the temptation without breaking apart your marriage.
alternate answer: Ask your husband if you two can start swinging. Work the guy you like into the rotation, and you will be able to have sex with him with your husband's permission.
Nothing would be sweeter.
2007-05-31 00:04:08 · answer #8 · answered by bobdanob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do your husband a favor and divorce him and let him have everything because you don't deserve him or any of your shared posessions. People like you make me sick. Your are so concerned with yourself you could care less about the people you hurt. Do you have kids??? To come on here and ask for sympathy and help because your lover is ignoring you while you are destroying the lives of those who love you is pathetic. Get over yourself and do something decent with your pathetic life.
2007-05-30 14:36:32 · answer #9 · answered by hazelnut 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, it is good to find someone who has the same problems as myself, and I am glad you are a female. It is obvious to me that he cared. If you had not of hurt him, he would not act that way. Make contact with him someway and just tell him how you feel. Honesty is the best bet dear. Wish I was him !! I hurt so bad myself. P
2007-05-30 14:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by hog rock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋