is what i am doing wrong?

Question

my parents (who dont live with me) are giving me a super hard time about my life-style choices...

yeah i am in school, but i feel its a waste of time...so i am just a big social butterfly...which seems to pay off even more than any schooling could...

i know a bunch of people, and seem to be able to get people to do what i need to do...and that mostly involves men.

iguess i'm the type that kinda uses men to get money, gifts, vacations, an apartment, cars...u know all the things i cant really afford...my parents dont even know the half of it, cause they think i have a good paying part time job...but thats not the case....more like i have full-time hard working guys that are so easily swindled (giving of) their money...

to me..its just what i think i was menat to do, cause i really dont have the study skills or desire to get a 40 hour a week job.

am i that wrong, and my parents are right? or hey, is it just a woman's world out there to get and live how she wants?

hey choopie...yes old and ugly one day will come...but come on...between now and then there is plenty time for this squirrel to hide some nuts for those times...if i dont just marry someone who has what it takes 1st.

Answer 1

my parents (who dont live with me) are giving me a super hard time about my life-style choices...

yeah i am in school, but i feel its a waste of time...

If you aren't trying in school and you aren't wanting to learn and succeed, then you are right, it is a big waste of time.



so i am just a big social butterfly...which seems to pay off even more than any schooling could...

This is not true... "any" is too general of a word in this statement, but I know what you are saying.



i know a bunch of people, and seem to be able to get people to do what i need to do...and that mostly involves men.

you aren't having any moral or ethical issues with this? like.. it wouldn't upset you if you had a brother and he was being played like most of the men you know?



iguess i'm the type that kinda uses men to get money, gifts, vacations, an apartment, cars...u know all the things i cant really afford...my parents dont even know the half of it, cause they think i have a good paying part time job...but thats not the case....more like i have full-time hard working guys that are so easily swindled (giving of) their money...

I'm actually really impressed by the fact that you can do all of this.. you clearly have a talent for persuasion and I think you should ask yourself these questions:

1. Will I be able to survive for the rest of my life doing these same things (swindling, being a playa, etc.)?

If not, you will likely want to get married quick before you lose your thunder or learn how to be independent (not dependent upon others' money).

2. Do I want to get married?

If yes

to someone I love or to someone for money?

if love

am I somebody that I would desire to marry if I were a man? am I somebody that is truly desirable for marriage?



to me..its just what i think i was menat to do, cause i really dont have the study skills or desire to get a 40 hour a week job.

am i that wrong, and my parents are right? or hey, is it just a woman's world out there to get and live how she wants?

I have so many successful female and male friends, who are succeding without swindling others. Friends who are trying to impact the world for the better rather than leech off of it... so I have a lot less respect for you than I do my friends, but only you are to decide if what you are doing is right or wrong.

Answer 2

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Answer 3

Ok Alfie.......The very minute your reputation get ruined, you will be left with nothing. All if takes is a few little words. What you are doing is not a very wise choice in lifestyles. I will tell you from experience (my mother), things can only last for so long. I am going to guess you are in your early 20's, so there is time for you. Go to school, get a 40hr a week job. That is life, we all have to do it, who really likes it? I don't, I can tell you that the 20 other people I work with don't, but none of us would change working and having gone to school for anything. You say you are a social butterfly, school is a great place to meet new people. Most of us met wives and husbands there and lifetime friends. In today's economy, if you have not gone to school and received your certificate of degree, then you are at a huge loss. To get a decent job, you need to have schooling. Go to school, get a job, make a life for yourself. Don't let someone else take all the credit. Do you know how long it took women to be able to do things on their own and for themselves. Take advantage of being able to take care of yourself. There is nothing more rewarding them coming home at the end of the day in your own car to you own house that you paid for. Puts a smile on my face everyday. Frankly put, you need to grow up and be an adult.

Answer 4

You will live and learn hun. Its quite obvious you did not come here to find out if what you are doing is right or wrong or any sort of advice.

Quite honestly, I agree with someone else who said you are 12 and just a liar...entertainment and a little fun passes those boring summer days when you are out of school, but do a little research first. No woman in this condition would make a point to say they did not live with their parents. Only a child would.

Have fun while young, but dont look up to women like this, and keep yourself respect.

Answer 5

You need to learn how to take care of yourself. Using people for financial gain, guess what you are basically being a prostitute. Do any of these men respect you, I mean realy respect you. How can you appreciate anyting you have if you don't work for it and earn it yourself. What happens if you get hit by a bus tomorrow, and your face or body is dismembered, or jacked up, then what would you do. Think about the long term here. While it may be fun, and easy to do know, do you realy want to be this kind of person forever. Your parents are right, grow up, finish your education, that way even if you have men taking care of you, you always KNOW that YOU could do it on your own, you don't need men.

Answer 6

that is all fine while you are young and hot. I do not think it is right, but here is how women like you survive: you get someone rich to marry you, pay for some breast implants and you are their trophy wife. Then you get old and fugly and your husand no longer wants to boink you so you get a divorce and live off of alimony for the rest of your life. The key to your survival is finding a way to survive after you are no longer hot. because guys will stop paying for stuff if you are not hot, and then if you have no education or work experience you will be screwed

Answer 7

According to the stats in your profile 14 weeks ago you posted a question about recently losing your virginity. Now pray tell...you aren't sleeping with these men but they're paying for everything? Men who try to buy a woman's love expect one thing in return and it doesn't correlate with virginity. You're lying, get off the school computer and get an education.

Answer 8

I think you need to listen to an Eagle's song called, "Lying Eyes"..say you do marry a man with lots of money and you think you have everything set up for you..you may find that you are unhappy one day and regret your choices now. If you marry for money and pretend you are in love, you may be using a decent man who thought he found someone who loved him. I doubt the gifts that they are giving you are really necessities to survive.. so it's not really about survival. Don't be greedy.

Answer 9

Just exactly what are you playing at little girl? Yes I called you a little girl. You don't give a damn what anyone else thinks and or feels and if you have to step over a few bodies to get what you want you're going to; what's worse is you don't care who they are. Just too bad the feminists around here don't have their crap together like you, cause they want some of what you have. Me in my day I had it like you, only difference was I wasn't a feminist and I'm still not one.

Answer 10

if this is indeed true, go get yours. You ar ethe one who has to deal with the consequences of your actions. Everyone here will tell you how wrong it is and the problems you will have in the future. I say, do what you do, if you do it right, you will be prepared for the future. Just remember that when you get lonely on the days you want someone you actually love. But those days come and go anyway. Have fun and get yours. If a guy is silly enough to let you take them, then do it.

Good luck wit it.