Is this an example of an inequitable relationship?

Question

A woman works 5 days a week and brings home a paycheck. Her spouse does all house chores, the food shopping, all cooking and cleaning. Is this an inequitable relationship because the woman's spouse doesn't bring home a paycheck?

Answer 1

uh...no. It used to be the norm that only one person (used to ALWAYS be the man) brought home a paycheck and the other took care of the house. That was how society worked. But this really is a decision for the couple in question to make together. If they don't have enough money to live on, it's a problem, but otherwise, if they agreed on this arangement, and it's working for them, great.

Answer 2

Of course not, if he is a house husband he doesn't need to bring home a paycheck.

An equitable relationship is whatever the two parties agree too.

Answer 3

I don't think so, if that's what they've agreed on. I wouldn't mind being the only breadwinner if my partner did all the housework. Especially if she gives him some of his own spending money so that he has some independence. I think it's only inequitable if the working stiff feels taken advantage of or if the homebody resents doing all the housework and neither feels they want that. If they're both happy, there's nothing wrong with it!

Answer 4

It is different in every household. Some enjoy it where both are working, and also sharing in the household chores. Some enjoy it where one is working and the other is taking care of the home. Either way they are complimenting each other, and as long as they are happy, that is all that matters.

Answer 5

The extent to which perceived inequity is related to perceived marital intimacy was examined. Sixty-six couples married five years or less were randomly selected from marriage license records in a western rural community. Equity/inequity was assessed using the Walster global measure of equity. Levels of overall intimacy, conflict resolution, affection, cohesion, sexuality, identity, compatibility, autonomy, and expressiveness were measured using the Waring Intimacy Questionnaire (WIQ). Inequity was associated with lower levels of overall intimacy, compatibility, identity, and expressiveness among the wives. Among the husbands, inequity was not associated with any types of intimacy. When comparing husbands in inequitable relationships to wives in inequitable relationships, the wives reported lower scores for only one kind of intimacy identity. Explanations and implications for marriage therapy are discussed.
http://findarticles.com/p/articles/mi_qa3658/is_199810/ai_n8820990
Of course, equity can mean money value of an item.
Are you wanting to put your relationship into a dollar value?

Answer 6

sure, why not? Would it be different if the roles were reversed? What matters is if those involved in the relationship are satisfied with the arrangement or feel it needs adjustment. One of the nicest marriages I have observed had this arrangement; why be locked into tradition? Every couple is different and so will be their relationship.

Answer 7

Not if he is actually doing the work at the house. Although in these times a good percentege of households are two income families.

Answer 8

A list of chores or paystub do tell if the relationship is equitable. It is up to them. Are they happy? Do they fullfill the others needs? Do they make decisions together? Stuff like that matters.....

Answer 9

Different things work for different households. I have been the breadwinner in my household while my husband stayed home with the kids. Whatever works in your marriage is what should be done. There are no rules. Everything isn't for everybody.

Answer 10

Not at all...why would it be? Someone has to bring home the bacon whilst the other keeps order in the house and then cooks that bacon...it's a fair partnership, in my book at least.