Is my boyfriend cheating on me?

Question

Hello,

Recently, I found out that my boyfriend has a myspace page that has been active this whole time. He and I have been together for almost a few years now and we have had alot of problems more recently. I have a myspace too, but I have made this no secret to him and his picture is on there and I have written on my profile page "in a relationship." Recently, I have found his behavior to be very odd. I had gone on myspace and found an active page of his, stating that he is "single" and had that page active for a while. At first, when I asked him this straight to his face, he had denied it many times. Then, when I found out he had lied to me and why he could not even add me as a friend on his page.. he said it is because he did not want me to look at his page everyday and suspect he was cheating and he just wanted to check out some notes his cousin from out of state sent him. am I being paranoid? We are so in love and religious. why is this happening to me? I feel so empty :(

Answer 1

yes

Answer 2

Your man is definitely up to no good. I think you have some very good resons to be suspicious of it. The first red flag would be that he stated he doesn't want you going on his page and thinking he is cheating. If there truly is nothing on his page to reflect him being unfaithful then he really shouldn't have a reason to worry. I would be very cautious from here on out if I were you. Something just doesn't seem right there. And if it is myspace who is to say there aren't several other accounts out there for other websites..ie..singles boards, messengers ect that he is on and you don't know about.

Answer 3

Here's a quick solution. Create a new myspace page with a bogus photo on it. Make sure you don't put anything on there that is similar to you.

Then try to message him. Tell him you saw his page and wanted to know more about him. See how he answers. See how far he will go communicating with a complete stranger.

That should do the trick. Technically it's entrapment, but hell ... it doesn't sound like things are going well anyway.

Answer 4

Well, if it was my boyfriend, i would feel suspicious too because you said his myspace said "single". You should really sit him down and say something like "We are too old for these games. If you want to be with me then let me know and if not, let me go" Having a myspace is okay while dating but if you notice him doing odd things and saying he is single that is not good. I wish you all the luck though!

Answer 5

Dump his *** that is mean and disrespectful. I know that it is easier said than done but you need to show him you aint gonna tolerate that kind of disrespect. He is talkin to chicks if he is stated as "single" I can promise you and we all know the "cousin" story. You need to give him an ultimatum..or just live with it, but I am sure it will eat away at you. My bf just recently deleted a layout he had me make for him..which was pictures of us..& he added his ex

So I broke up with him..

then again we were only together for 7 months :( This break up is very recent though so I am still feeling the after effects of it...

But yeah just be honest
..most of the time, that is just a sign that he is bored w/ what you guys have

myspace.com/shellyishere
add me

Answer 6

why is this in teaching?



maybe he is flirting- that doesnt guarantee that he is or would cheat. He is being shady......... myspace is evil. If he only goes once a week to talk to his cousin- its no big deal.

In love is a stretch if you assume he is cheating or dont know. Offer him a picture to add to his page and wait a month to see if he switches the thing off single.

Answer 7

well he needs to be honest with you, ask if there is anything bothering him, or if there is anything on his mind. i don't necessarily think his cheating on you but he maybe engaging in some flirtatious activities just b/c of the secrecy he seems to be displaying. also ask yourself if has he always been this way with personal type things like this in the past.

maybe he just wants to have something that's just his in his life and maybe his myspace account is just that 'his little area' sort of his version of the boys night out.

or get a friend he doesn't know to ask to be his friend and check his myspace out, or make a fake account with a different email addy and pose as some one else and then ask him to be friends to look at his myspace.

Answer 8

well if hes on myspace he should at least update his page if he is truly on there to talk to his cuz and not get girls. he should have pics of you and him and state hes in a relationship. but he has a point though, if you were added as a friend, you probably would be in there reading all his comments, right? but he should have nothing to hide, he should either add you or let you in to see that theres nothing going on.

Answer 9

It sounds like something is going on. Talk to him. Be honest. Tell him that you love him and you wish him the best, even if it's not with you. He should open up and tell you if he is unhappy with your relationship. Don't act crazy, though. Don't cry. I don't know how old you are, but if both of you are mature enough, you should be able to talk this out and resolve it. Remind him that you are both religious and have to be honest with each other and God. Also remind him that if he is unhappy with you and would like to be with someone else, he can be honest with you. Be his friend, not his girlfriend at that time. You may not like his answer, but at least you will get honesty.

Answer 10

It depends on what you mean by "cheating." You are not married, or even engaged. At this point, he shouldn't have to let you know everything he's doing and it's the same for you. BUT, he IS concealing information and maybe lying to you. I would think twice about this relationship. Where there is no trust, there is no real love.

Answer 11

In a healthy relationship, there should be nothing to hide. The fact that he has these details on his page are suspicious and his excuses are lame. It sounds like you've made your concerns known to him. If you feel in your gut that you can't trust him, it may be best for you to leave him before you really get your feelings hurt.