i have a cousin.. [she is like my fathers , sisters daughter....]
and she is not even 16 like my age and all.. like we are almost 16..... she is studying in a far away school doing 11th standard....
and now she is like drinking.. and smoking. and somtimes watching porn and some stuff and all.. like kissing and all...
so she told me this.. and im like the only 1 she told excluding her friends in her school.. and they also do the same thing.. so i want to get her out of trouble...
pleasehelp me what to do..???
i dont want her to get all drug addicted and all..
2007-05-30 05:31:19 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i already told my mom and sis but they cant tell their parents bcoz then shell know i ratted her out.. and i dont want tht to happen..
2007-05-30 08:41:48 · update #1
Just tell her you're worried about her and the she shouldn't be doing stupid stuff. That's what I would do if my cousin ever started smoking and drinking.
2007-05-30 05:35:58 · answer #1 · answered by Sally J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you personally witnessed her doing these things? Sometimes cousins, and/or friends will lie about doing certain things as you described in order to make themselves feel important. She sounds like she may have issues with her self-esteem and is acting out to get attention. Not knowing the whole situation, is this something that occurred all of a sudden. If so, something or someone changed her attitude and now she is becoming destructive. If you guys have a close relationship, then you should ask her what is going on, and that she can confide in you. I bet there is a third party involved some where. Depending on the situation you may have to get her parents involved. After all you may be saving her life.
2007-05-30 05:43:41 · answer #2 · answered by marcelene14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell her parents or call a counselor at her school. It will probably get her into some trouble -- i.e. grounded, restricted, yelled at, etc. -- but in the longrun, you may be saving her life. Think about it. If she's having unprotected sex, she can get diseases that kill. Drugs kill. Even enough alcohol will kill. Think seriously about it. Make sure her parents know they can go to the drugstore and get a drug testing kit, because you know she'll deny it. Good luck!
2007-05-30 05:41:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound dangerous.
We have all had our share of drinks and cigarettes and experimented with some drugs at 16 too.
Porn is harmless - why would you even mention this?
I suggest you play it cool and be her buddy.
She is your 1st cousin and she trusts you.
Don't you dare TATTLETALE.
There is no need for you to PANIC.
When you speak with her just say something like,
"I'll always be here for you."
The most important of all is to show her you have her back!
2007-05-30 07:03:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry but the best thing to do is tell your parents of threaten to tell someone unless she stops.
Its not a good idea to start drinking at a young age and it is especially bad to start doing drugs.
Personnally i would tell an adult so they can sort it before she gets to addicted.
2007-05-30 05:38:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple-JUST SAY NO! Your better than that crap. You might wanna get some jail movies that show what it's like to live with BUBBA...ha-ha. As far as the porn-I hope she gets a grip now-some people never get over that one! Yuck. Maybe she is just experimenting with stuff. You don't have to follow-Just be a leader and show her the right way!
2007-05-30 05:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is on a really dangerous and bad road. Getting her out of this bad environment is the best way and it will probably take an adult to do it. You may not want it known that you are the one telling on her but you should let someone know, even if it is an anonymous note, to help her out. There are drugs, diseases and things that can ruin her life now. Best wishes.
2007-05-30 05:35:43 · answer #7 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
hey chillin, i would just simply let her know that she is way to young to start creating bad habits for herself that she absolutely will regret later tell her she should try to be different from everybody els, it will make her stand out above the rest. she should be trying to attract possitive attention for herself by respecting herself and she will meet a better class of friends, friends who will care more about her and encourage her to look ahead to the future .friends that will last and stick by her throughout her life. drugs will only give her a bad reputation,send you to jail, or worse, shorten her life span . remind her that shes got her whole life ahead of her so she might as well enjoy it ,rather than destroy it before she has a chance to show people what she 's really all about.
2007-05-30 07:00:34 · answer #8 · answered by boogie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand where your coming from. I would think just tell your parents but i know you probably don't want to be the tattle tale. You could always type up an unsigned email to your or her parents telling what you know and that your worried. You could even talk to her directly and tell her your concerns. Good Luck.
2007-05-30 05:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Fox 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, start out by showing the dangers of all these things. also, go to her room when she visits and take away her cigarettes. then, talk about how a random person got herpes or some other std to make sure she doesnt start getting with gys who will dump her the next day and leave her pregnant.
2007-05-30 05:36:16 · answer #10 · answered by Xan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋