Do you think I may need psychiatric care?

Question

I feel like I'm losing my mind. My life was pretty good. I was able to stay home and care for my kids. We were able to pay the bills, etc. But an old college loan surfaced that I had been looking for and is now a huge debt. Because of that, I now have to find a job. Because I've never done well at a job, I can't find anyone to hire me. I am miserable. I feel like my past is catching up with me and even though I want to move forward and take care of things, I'm stuck. I've even applied to WalMart, Target, and a grocery store and they don't want me. How do you get ahead with a bad past? I'm not even clear what I did wrong at past jobs, mostly they told me it was my personal issues. (I'm still not sure what personal issues). Is there a way to get past failures in my past or do you just throw in the towel? I don't see a positive side to this? I have no medical coverage either, so seeking help is out of the question, unfortunatly. Do you think I'm sick or just a big mess up?

Answer 1

Everybody has problems and everybody makes mistakes. The important thing is to face the problems and learn from your mistakes. As long as you do that., you are at least being true to yourself and can hold your head up. As for the past job losses and the reasons givin for the dismissels, you probably DO really know deep down what your failings were so some soul searching might be in order in order to determine what you could have done or not done differently.
If you really care for and cherish your children, you won't even consider "throwing in the towl" because just think about it, as the primary role model you'd esentially be telling them to just give up when things get rough. That's a terrible legacy to leave for a child to deal with....
A quote that's helped me through some tough times is ;
" What you believe determines what you feel, your feelings influence your attitudes, your attitudes guide your actions, and your actions lead to your destiny"
All that being said, I know you still have urgent and immediate problems to deal with so my advice to anyone who feels overwhelmed is to just allow yourself to move forward taking baby steps.... You might try dealing with the school loan department and if you're honest with them, they might work out a payment amount and schedule that's actually doable for ya....you can pay them a minimum amount ($5 bucks a month maybe?) and if a full time job seems like too much, consider a part-time job doing something low key and not too difficult. It might not pay what you think you need in money, but at least you can know that you're doing SOMETHING....
You seem sincere and I really hope that you get some good answers and advice.
Good luck & God bless
One last thing...I think it was Albert Einstien who said " Insanity can be defined in one who continually repeats the exact same experiment, but expects different results"

Answer 2

First off I am truly sorry for what you are now going through, but the sad truth is that your past does catch up with you. There is a balance in this world, and when you live out your life in one extreme there will be a time when the whole thing shifts back on you and it can be very hard. I'm speaking to you from personal experience. I lived the first 10 years of my adult life (16-26) really partying and unconcerned about the reprocussions and then when I decided it was time to settle down and make a real life everything came crashing down on me. You ever been on a boat that was traveling fast and you suddenly stop? The back wash will hit the boat and it's very rough for a couple of seconds, well that's what this is like. You are trying to do the right thing, but all the stupid stuff is raining down on top of you, right? Well let me say that YOU WILL MAKE IT PAST THIS, but it probably won't be easy. You don't need psychiatric help, but you do need to accept responsibility for getting yourself into this mess, forgive yourself for the stupid choices you have made, realize that you will have to bear the weight of the consequences and get up everday thanking God you are alive and just get through the day giving it your best. It will take time, but the momentum will change and one day you will wake up and you will start being overcome with good things.....I promise.

Answer 3

I think the way that these "psychiatric" problems rear their ugly heads just when people are facing financial pressure indicates that often the real problem is the financial pressure. So do what you can to reduce the pressure by spending less. Then try to find a job or a source of income with the mindset that there is a place for you in the workplace and you just have to find it. Identify your more common skills and look for a job that depends on those skills and little else. And look for temporary work. If jobs seem to go off-kilter after a while then it's an advantage to work in a job that you know will be over in just a few weeks.

Answer 4

I don't think you're sick or a mess up. Don't be sure that Target and the others didn't want you - sometimes it's just takes a while for applications to be read, or maybe they need a different availability than what you indicated on the app. Your previous employers are not allowed to say bad things about you - it's called libel, and it's illegal. Are potential employers actually telling you that you've got personal issues? That sounds strange..

Keep trying. I suggest putting a resume in with an employment agency (a temp service). It's easier to be placed that way, because you become THEIR employee, and they sub-contract you to companies who need someone for x amount of time (for example, to fill in while an employee is on maternity leave). Sometimes these are temp-to-hire positions, too. The temp agencies usually offer medical benefits as well.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Seeking help is not out of the question. Many cities have community mental health that are free or only a small fee based on your income. If you have a university near by with a medical school, resident psychiatrists will often see you for free. You owe it to your family, kids especially to help yourself. A debt is not the end of the world, it can be worked out. As far as a job, perhaps you need something where you can work more independently. If you do get something, be sure to get regular feedback from your employer regarding your personality and work performance. good luck.

Answer 6

Most communities offer some king of free mental health care, you just need to call your local courthouse to find out where. If you have a college education why are you applying at Wal-mart, and Target? Most companies want you to call them back after interviews, because there are so many people looking for jobs, you kinda have to beg for the job. I would ask friends and family to be honest with you and fill you in on how your personality is. Good luck!

Answer 7

OK WHOA....slow down...too much...one thing at a time..ok student loan...call them up..if it's a federal loan I KNOW they can give you a period or grace.....ask for hardship and then fill out the form they give you and that will buy you some time...at least they won't hound you with that...next..you are definitely stressed out and overwhelmed...maybe you can't handle any stress and this is how you present at a job..like the world is going to blow up...Do you have a husband..when you say "stay at home"...where does your income come from?....do you get food stamps (if you don't see if you are eligible) because they are easier to get nowadays....plus you definitely need a counselor...I'm from Massachusetts and when we have questions about community resources we just dial 211 for information...you may have to put more leg work into it....start with your local Medicaid office or if you go to the Department of Transitional Assistance for food stamps a case manager can help you out there...from there though definitely try the DTA...you should get on Medicaid for Health insurance....and in the meantime..find a free health clinic...we have a couple here in town run by UMASS doctors in the basements of 2 Churches...check around for something like this in your area for counseling or even a clinical social worker...you should maybe be on an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety....at least for awhile til the crisis passes....another thing check out is Local Work Forces that focus on job match -ups and even help you to better perform....there's always Salvation Army, Catholic Charities (do not have to be religious nor Catholic)...to see if they have Case Managers that could help you on your path in life...just remember go slow and breathe...things work out..One bill doesn't mess up your life..I just think this is the one last thing that was added to perhaps your already chaotic life...but you must stay together for your children..they are only kids for a short time and they are your lifeline....don't let them see you fall apart...it's not easy being a parent sometimes but this is when you need to be a good actress...don't let them worry they need to be just kids and enjoy life...so even if you have to fake it DO IT!!,..can you imagine if you were the kid and felt you knew something was wrong with your parent/s!!!??? So lot's of lack of self esteem issues going on.here ..you need to realize you deserve a chance at happiness like everyone else...watch the movie IN THE PURSUIT OF HAPPYNESS with Wil Smith!!!...oh and get rid the of BAD PAST junk...that's why it's called THE PAST!...start off fresh..never let them see ya sweat! I may have a bad day too but I smile and they never know what's going on inside..I save that for when I am alone!..I hope I gave you enough razzing to get up off your butt and get going! Everything is do-able

Answer 8

The issues you indexed are the aspects the place somebody could desire to get psychiatric care. yet very virtually any complicated part of our emotional or psychological lives could benefit. The older i'm getting the extra i contemplate whether truthfully everyone must be enrolled in weekly psych counselling/medical care from the day they're able to talk. Do you ever watch the tutor called In medical care on HBO ? this is fiction, yet lots of the sufferers in those episodes at the instant are not at prompt literal existential crises.

Answer 9

No, you are not losing your mind; you are just stress and that's normal. I had a co-worker who had the same problem and the company we used to work did not hire her because of her debts but that didn't stop her from looking for a job. what she did is she stayed positive about what's going on. She went to an interview and discussed what's going on with her life and she got the job. Not all employers are anal about people's personal problems. If you are willing to discuss and present that you are willing to tell them what you want to do it solve it, they are more than willing to help. I am positive you have something out there. Don't give up. There's a lot of people out there who have worse problem than your and they are not giving up. Life is tough and no one says it easy. We just have to be positive about it. Counselors cannot help you; You need to help yourself.

Answer 10

It sounds like you are extremely overwhelmed with everything going on right now. Maybe you should seek help. If you don't have medical insurance there's places that work off a sliding scale or churches sometimes help...I don't know where you live but maybe a county hospital can give you a referral...Good luck.