Together for almost 16 years. Highschool sweethearts. We have three kids together whom we share custody of. She left me for a coworker and it was devestating. I'm moving on good now and realize that we where more roomates in the end then lovers. I wanted to save our marriage but I believe she was having to strong of feelings for him "greener grass syndrome" and bailed out. Its been almost 8 months now and I think of her often and was wondering if you think she sometimes thinks of me? She is still with her lover and seems happy.
2007-05-30 03:54:51 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guarantee you, when the grass starts turning colors with this other guy, she will regret what she has done... The grass is never greener... (in rare cases maybe)... But, I would try to move on with your life... Good Luck
2007-05-30 04:00:49 · answer #1 · answered by Oula 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that she still thinks of you from time to time. You cannot spend 16 years together and not think of them at some point during the day. You have three children together so of course when she looks at her children she will see you in them. Sometimes you can love someone, which I am sure she loves you...but she just might not be in love with you. When you get together so young, it's pretty common to realize a decade or so later that you love them but you aren't in love with them anymore. Good luck, and I hope you find the right answer to your question.
2007-05-30 11:05:11 · answer #2 · answered by Kari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure she may think of you, but not in a romantic way now. She's moved on with her life and so should you. It's been 8 months and life is too short to be wondering if you think your ex still thinks about you. You have 3 (which I'm sure are beautiful) kids together and be thankful for that.
2007-05-30 11:03:20 · answer #3 · answered by MSW2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because someone leaves doesn't mean that they don't think of you sometimes. You don't spend 16 years with someone and give birth to 3 of their children and not hold a special place in your heart for them.
But it isn't necessarily greener pastures either, people grow apart. After being together that long you should be best friends, if that isn't happening then nothing will.
2007-05-30 11:02:56 · answer #4 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Jason,
Of course, she thinks of you. You don't have as much history as you two did and not think of that person. Are you wondering if she regrets? I would imagine that her regrets are limited to the fact that she hurt you when she left. Most women do not like hurting the men they have loved.
Do you wonder if she ever thinks she should come back to you? Yes, certainly, there are moments - like during a fight with her new love - that she thinks of going back to you. However, she hasn't and probably won't. It took a lot for her to finally get out of your relationship. She did it, and she's relatively happy.
Now, it's time for you to make your own happiness. Don't feel guilty and don't waste time on remorse. Move on.
Good luck!
2007-05-30 11:17:53 · answer #5 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you cross her mind often. You have children together and you'll always be a part of her life. 16 years is a long time and it would be impossible to completely erase all the good memories... It may not be daily, but I'm sure little things happen all the time that make her think of you and smile.
2007-05-30 10:59:56 · answer #6 · answered by Maneerae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I believe she thinks of you probably often. If you have three kids together she will always have a special place in her heart for you and that lasts a lifetime. When she looks at your children she will see features that remind her of you, but if she wanted to BE with you she would at least try. She may think of you one way but think of the new guy in a romantic way.
2007-05-30 11:03:30 · answer #7 · answered by Maria 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 years is a very long time. But there is still enough time to move on. Talk to a good therapist, to work out some feelings, no point in talking to her coz she has a new man.
Your're still young and you'll find someone that cares about you more deeply than you ever thought.
2007-05-30 10:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by reene2g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not to sound cold, but probably less and less as time passes. My ex and I were married 15 years after being HS sweeties for 3 years.
He asked me on our 15th anniversary if I thought about what day it was (we were in the midst of getting our divorce) and I said sure. (What I actually thought was, hope my divorce papers come today as it would be a nice coincidence, but I didn't tell him that).
I think of him less and less as our children have grown and moved out and I don't have to contact him about visitation, medical bills, etc.
She probably does the same. Whether or not she is in a good relationship now or not, she's probably moved on and does not obsess about you the way you seem to want her to.
2007-05-30 11:03:58 · answer #9 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
same happened to me, only it was 14 years and one child. The one she left me for was not a co-worker, but my former so-called best friend. It's a rough ride. Especially for the kids. The former so-called best friend has twins 12 yrs old that can't stand my ex. She is the reason their parents aren't together (it was a double divorce). Its' a load of fun! One constant Lifetime movie! Good luck .......... I'm in the same boat!
2007-05-30 11:04:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋