What's the best weekly schedule for spliting time with children in a divorce.?

Question

Sounds like my wife and I are getting a divorce. We are currently separated and are sharing time with our 11/2 yr old daughter. Currently, my wife has her Sat night, Sun, Mon, Tues, Wed day. I have her Wed evening, Thurs, Fri, Sat afternoon. But we both want weekends eventually as well. I know her school and activities will eventually dictate her schedule. Both of us want full custody and custodial ship. How should we split the time? I think she will stay on my insurance and we both are going to live in the same general area for her school when she is off age. What schedule works for you? I

Answer 1

Try this:
Week 1: Mom picks up Sunday afternoon, keeps until Wednesday afternoon. Dad picks up Wednesday afternoon keeps till Saturday evening.
Week 2: Mom picks up Saturday evening, keeps until Sunday afternoon. Dad picks up Sunday afternoon, keeps until Wednesday afternoon. Mom picks up Wednesday afternoon keeps till Saturday evening.
Week 3: Dad picks up Saturday evening, keep until Sunday afternoon. Mom picks up Sunday afternoon, keeps until Wednesday afternoon. Dad picks up Wednesday afternoon, keeps til Saturday evening.
then
See week 2
See week 3
etc etc etc.

No matter what the schedule is: Mothers Day and Mom's birthday day with Mom. Fathers Day and Father's birthday day with Dad. Holidays are within the weekly schedule whereever they may fall.

Also think about who claims her as a dependent on taxes each year.
Mom should offset your insurance with something as there probably is no child support involved with shared custody.

Answer 2

I have 1/2 time with my daughter. it works out well 2 nights with me, 3 with her, 3 with me, 2 with her, then repeat......... )There is always a swap on Sunday evening)-- Now, I will agree that it is not the best on the child. Best is two loving parents in a home together, but my wife cheated on me and wanted that loser so bad she was willing to give me 1/2 time to be able to get him. I deserve the time with my daughter and she's better off spending as much time at my house as she can.

Sarah up there acts like she knows it all. Maybe in your state she "has to stay on his insurance by law", but in my state it is whichever has the best insurance for the best rate. Unfortunately my daughter is on the "loser's" insurance!

Answer 3

It is really what works best for your situation. With my son, his dad gets him every other weekend and that is it, unless he has something planned for them during the week or has a day off. My fiance's children get picked up from school everyday by their mother on Monday's and Wednesdays she drops them off to us at 5p.m. on Tues. and Thurs. they come home at 7:30 p.m., they stay at our house overnight everynight and I take them to school every morning. Weekends are every other. This works for us, because she lives in a small home and does not have a bedroom for them, also she works at 6 a.m., where as I go to work at 8 a.m, so I can take them to school. Good Luck!

Answer 4

i would do one week there one week with you one week there back and forth like that and when school starts it could still be the same..You dont want the child at one residence for 6 months and then at the other becuase then you wont be as active with each other. I would do the every other week thing. and holidays split half a day with each except mothers day she should go to her moms and fathers day to you.. Good luck if you need a friend to talk to give me a hollar on email ill be glad to talk to yuo.

Answer 5

You bet she'll stay on your insurance - she has to by law. You should split the time in a way that is going to be most convenient for the child and not the two of you. You'll also have to stay in constant contact with mom and try to give her as similar an upbringing as you can while living apart.

Answer 6

Honestly, I'd let the court help decide. You're right, with the school activities that she's in, that will dictate most of her time. Take that into consideration along with with the the courts think.

Answer 7

The best thing that worked for my ex and I was for him to take the kids to dinner one or two nights a week and have the kids over night every other weekend.

Answer 8

When I first split up with my husband, I had that same schedule... but we modified it to exchange every Friday... So I have them one week (Friday thru Friday) and he gets them one week... I love it and so does he... It's easier on the kids as well because they don't feel the juggling in the middle of the week... Hope this helps.

Answer 9

You should ask for joint custody that way you could possibly each have the child for 6 months each. then you can work out other details as needed.

Answer 10

Are you kidding me? Step back and read your question. How selfish does this sound? If you really cared about your daughter you would work out your issues and stay together!!!