well , my little sister , who is only 15 , has been dating this guy for about 8 months now . she recently told me she was pregnant . . not too long after that , she had a misscariage . now her boyfriend and her have been arguing , because he wanted her to keep the baby and says it's her fault for losing it . she says she's okay , but everytime i go over to my parents house to see her , she looks so depressed and i can tell she cries all the time . i've tried talking to her about it , she says she loves him . . yesterday i went over to see her , and she had a really big bruise on her arm .. she wouldn't tell me what happened . i think he's been hitting her . i told my fiance and he's very angry and wants to go "talk" to him . . but i'm not sure if that will help . . any advice would be good . thanks
2007-05-30 03:31:13 · 8 answers · asked by Chante Alexis 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
What do your parents say? Are they aware? If not tell them! You can't save her, unless she wants to be saved. You can only offer her support and let her know that you are there and love her. Tell her that there is no way the miscarriage was her fault...I know...I have had 2. (but between me and you, let your bf talk to him...maybe that will do it)
2007-05-30 03:40:19 · answer #1 · answered by rdheadstpchld 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be grateful if I could go to my parents and tell them about the message you posted.
I also think that your little sister might need counseling from a professional.
While your fiance probably means well I would tell him to stay out it and not talk to him because that may make things worse.
I am in agreement with you that I don't think it would help if your fiance talks to your little sister's boyfriend.
It sounds like your little sister might be abused and get her help as soon as possible, PLEASE!
One last thing I am so sorry your sister lost her baby.
I hope the situation will get better!
2007-05-30 10:44:59 · answer #2 · answered by ask away 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the beginning of abuse.....she is too young to be going through this....but it is happening everyday to young woman....it is good she has you for a sister and for moral support....I think your sister needs to get out of that relationship before it gets outta hand.....I'm telling you from my OWN experience....she don't want to stay.....and there will be a time when he tells her he is sorry and to please forgive him.....and he will change....You cant make him change that would be his own will to change.....Your sister is only 15....there are other guys who will treat her well.....but again she may listen to you or she may not....in most cases when you try to talk to the person involved they (victim) will find excuses of why they should stay......I hope it all works out for you both and you are a good sister to be so concerned
2007-05-30 10:38:30 · answer #3 · answered by T B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep your sister away from this boyfriend and tell her to report him for abuse . that is terible . it only gets worse and for gods sake talk to your parents . are they blind or just too wrapped up in their selves to even care what is going on with your sister . make sure you do something anything to keep your sister safe . talk to your parents and make sure they emphasize how bad that this can be . good luck .
2007-05-30 10:36:36 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is some thing very dangerous her boyfriend hitting her. im really sad she had a misscarriage but i think she should wait having a baby until she is married it wont be as bad
2007-05-30 10:40:56 · answer #5 · answered by Scott H. 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervene she is being abused. Not only physical but emotionally and mentally. She is way too young for a boyfriend.
2007-05-30 10:37:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have him arrested for assalt!!!!!!
2007-05-30 10:59:19 · answer #7 · answered by jonesk_92656 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont know whAt to do with him but you better tell her to beAt his ***
2007-05-30 10:46:17 · answer #8 · answered by phylanthia r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋