I just got married 3.5 months but was unaware i was pregnant at the time(i was bleeding).My hubby is 25 yrs old and i am 21 yrs old still in college.Before marriage we took a 4 month break because he was not sure.During the break i had a fling with an ex.bf we have a history (flings/dating)going back to senior yr of HS. Month later hubby and i got married.I found out 2 months into our marriage that i was 4 months pregnant with my ex.bfs child.I told my hubby everything he said he forgave me but 2 weeks later he up and left.Yesterday he called me after no contact and started a fight because he wants the name of the ex.f and for me to move out so house can be sold ect.He thinks i am a lying cheat whore and is threatening to leave messages telling everyone if i dont comply?
2007-05-30 03:17:24 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
P.S I am not a whore i have only had sex w/ 3 people including my hubby.I am not a bad person really i just messed up.
2007-05-30 03:19:37 · update #1
Well, how would you feel if an ex g/f of his showed up pregnant and he wanted you to accept it and allow him to be involved with his child? He feels betrayed and I don't blame him for not wanting to raise someone elses child.
2007-05-30 03:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by swtlilblonde31 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that he was "okay" with it when you broke the news to him, then it had a while to sink in, or he sought legal advise. In most states, if you give birth, then it is assumed to be the husband's child and he is legally responsible for it.
If I were him, I wouldn't want to support another man's child.
The "you should have" or "you shouldn't have" are a waste of time. What you need to do is look forward.
He has the right to file for divorce but not to harass you or to threaten you for non-compliance to his demands.
In most cases, large maritial assets such as a house are sold and the proceeds divided equally.
I would not divulge the name of baby's father; that can only lead to trouble. Do call the baby's father and let him know that he's going to be a father. Somewhere down the road, I'm sure there will be a paternity suit (AKA Anna Nicole Smith). The father should be held financially responsible for the support of the child.
You can fight the divorce but I don't think you will win, and I don't think you should really want to stay married to him as he is showing his true colors by his threatening behavior. Although he feels betrayed, he has not "right" to threaten you.
Seek an attorney immediately. If he moved out, he has technically "abandoned" the marital home and the attorney might be able to work on that for you to your best interest.
Learn from your mistakes and focus on taking care of the child.
2007-05-30 03:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by Carol D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cheated on your husband with another man and now are whining that he is leaving you because he doesn't want to raise some other guys kid? Is this a joke?
You really screwed up because not only is what you did grounds for divorce, he can now PROVE you cheated and there fore most likely get out of paying and alimony! The only thing you will be entitled to is half of any marital property. If you still owe a lot on the mortgage on your house, that will most likely be next to NOTHING!
You better contact domestic relations to get the real baby daddy to pay child support because it sounds like that is all you are going to get (or deserve)
2007-05-30 03:32:26 · answer #3 · answered by Steve J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 4 month break right before marriage was ridiculous and having unprotected sex with anyone now-a -days was even more ridiculous. Spilled milk now I know but boy are you in a hot spot. I take it you have decided to keep the baby. It looks like the marriage is over so you just have to go through with the divorce. Contact the baby daddy and ask him what his intentions are and let him know whats up and your expectations from him.
2007-05-30 03:23:26 · answer #4 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the house or lease is jointly in your names, he cannot force you to move out. If he tells lies about you, you can sue him for slander or libel only if you can prove that it kept you from earning an income. If he starts telling everyone the truth, there is nothing illegal in that. If he threatens you or your ex-bf, that is illegal and you need to get a restraining order against him.
More than likely he will cool off when he gets over the initial shock of you marrying him while pregnant by someone else. I doubt that he will want you back though.
2007-05-30 03:26:57 · answer #5 · answered by Schwinn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK firstly if you both bought the house as a family home you can apply to the courts for occupational rights until child leaves home, also he may ask you to pay him a rent, which is reasonable if he can show that there is no way he can share the house house with you.
dig your heels in girl you have rights in that house don't let him walk all over you !
2007-05-30 03:27:36 · answer #6 · answered by lost Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im sorry for what happen to you but YOU know he got the right to get angry and this is just him being angry at you and the situations you guys are in. BUT if you really feel threaten and feel that this should be between the 2 of you i guess its time to call a lawyer.
2007-05-30 03:22:22 · answer #7 · answered by RD119 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police. Also, get a lawyer. If you are being threatened and you are pregnant, perhaps the local women's shelter will help. Call them to see.
Most states have "no fault" divorces, so he can't use your pregnancy against you in court. However, in my state, KY, you can't divorce while you are pregnant. You really need to get some legal counsel in your area to make sure you and your baby are protected. Good luck! :)
2007-05-30 03:22:03 · answer #8 · answered by searching_please 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Let him leave. Get a restraining order. Legally if you have lived in the house for some time he has to get a court order in order to "evict" you. Is the house in his name or in both of your names? Let him tell everybody, who cares. As long as you know the truth thats the only thing that matters.
2007-05-30 03:57:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are a liar and a cheat. Now you have to be accountable for that.
You deserve what you got. Marriage is for monogamous, committed people, and you are NOT. Noone wants to be a newlywed when the bride is carrying some else's child. I praise him for being smart enough to end this marriage that started in false pretenses. He is very smart and is YOUR loss.
You made the bed, now lay on it.
Good luck (you are gonna need it)
2007-05-30 03:29:50 · answer #10 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yep. He sure can, and i would too. I would do the same thing if you done something like that. A break does not mean go sleeping with someone else. You have shown the very reason relationships are like they are with people. He definitely has the correct name for you.
2007-05-30 03:22:35 · answer #11 · answered by engineer46526 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋