Are you comfortable with silences..?

Question

or do you try & fill it up with inane chatter ?

Answer 1

Silence is the best form of communication! Among others, Aldous Huxley says so in his essays, titled "Music at Night"! Indian sages are known for their silent communicative skills -- Ramana Maharshi of Thiruvannamalai, for example: Brunton, the seeker and writer, some 70 years ago, said so, in his travelogues (spiritual pilgrimage travels in India). But, it takes practice, and will power of a high order to practise silence as a form of communication! The first few steps may be through lessons in listening!

Answer 2

Hi Summer,
I felt very comfortable with Silences, But only then, when I didn't have any chatters. Because I want to make myself very busy. Silences make me think myself and when I m thinking about myself, then I get so excited and some times I felt very alone in this world. In my life I have lot of experience by thinking in silences. Therefore it is the biggest reason to feel comfortable in it.

Answer 3

That depends on the time... place... situations... circumstances ..
Silence plays very important role to keep the mind cool and for self realisation and meditation. But one has to speak and there are time one has the duty to speak. So ... it must be a grand mix of talk and silence and it is the wisdom of the individual to decide when to talk and when to be silent. Both must be to comfort and bring happiness to others. One should not be hurt by our silence or talk. As regards to chattering it should not bore others and some good chatterers are there who keep entertaing all during picnics and outings. But everyday can't be Sunday. Limits is must.

Answer 4

I am very comfortable with silence, for the most part. I'm a very introspective person anyway and seen as off in my own world sometimes. If someone makes me uncomfortable (like the first time I met my in-laws) then I will admit-inane chatter ensues.

Answer 5

People who chatter, should remain silent. The are like chatter boxes, and should keep their mouths busy eating chatter cheese.

Oh, sweet silence at the end of a day? Who said that silence is silent. When you are alone just listen to it.

Answer 6

Usually, inane chatter.
But the comfortable silence can be pretty cool sometimes too. I remember catching myself staring at a girl in class at high school one year, and she stared right back, Mona Lisa smile, for a good 3 or 4 minutes.. very soulful moments, words would have ruined it.

Peace

Answer 7

Good question.... quite insightful.

Yes, majority of people feel uncomfortable with silence.... I get a feeling that they believe that silence means evil or crooked thoughts are going on in the mind... in any case since mind is always working and in the absence of speech there is no clue as to what may be going on there, the fear of unknown takes over.... and therefore perhaps they fill up the silence with meaningless chatter.

As for myself, I get immersed in my own thoughts and do not even notice that there is a long silence despite being in company... I now just wonder whether my such behaviour may be making others uncomfortable! Perhaps I should also learn to fill up silence with bla... bla.... bla....

Answer 8

In my opinion, discomfort with silence usually arises from
a belief that silence implies inaction. In other words,
if nothing is said then nothing is done. People might
be more comfortable with silence if they considered
why silence might be appropriate in some situations,
and if they are unable to determine the cause then they
might directly ask what is the reason for the silence rather
than randomly chatting.

Answer 9

I Love, and so often use the word "Inane" THANK YOU.

Silence...silent Isolation, alone time, is a workable situation when chosen. When imposed it ceases to be a freedom, and more becomes a form of imprisonment.

As my Dear, sweet Aldara points out, Redundant is as ill productive, as stagnation, and Rhetoric often is that.

The cliche, so over used "I just want Space" or my space (no reference to the web site) might only mean we want to retreat on occasion, to our own personal "sanctuary" and in truth shouldn't concern ourselves with others asking "WHY".

If they GET IT at all, then they wouldn't question.

Steven Wolf

Answer 10

Yes and no. Silences only bother me if I am with just one person or we are talking on the phone and having an argument and I say something and they don't say a thing. Thats gets me really angry and so then I just start talking to fill up the space. But in a group if we are just sitting around for a bit and not saying anything thats fine with me.