Can any relationship last forever?

Question

After my first 18 years on this planet i have not experienced or seen any relationship that lasts "forever" with out one of them cheating, being unfaithful or just plain getting bored of being with the same person everyday... does anyone believe that out there exists a realistic acheivable relationship that wont end, and one that allows us to live comfortably with that knoweledge?

ok then i understand what you are all saying but some of you say it takes hard work, compromise and willingness from both parties.. and i know this may sound sexist but how many men are out there that are really happy to do that ?

HELLO people i want to get a revolution on the go! i want stories and opinions about this point! does no one understand that if something isnt done now to recognise whether or not there is hope out there concerning fidelity in a relationship and people being together for ever then perhaps the whole things just messed up and people are going to choose to be selibut. because i can assure you that if i am not given a good enough reason to have a relationship and explained that love is out there then i like many others am gonna choose to not have kids in this world with out morals so my children wont be subjected to this mess!

Answer 1

My folks have been married 43 years this June.
My grandparents were married 62 years when they passed away.


Relationships have to evolve and change---just like people do and the world around us. If you're unwilling to change, compromise, relinquish control sometimes......it will fail.

Answer 2

No, the only relatioships that can last forever are the ones that involve no talking from either partner and involves alot of sex.

Other than that, seeing each other once in a while is also a good idea. Perhaps the guy could go off to fight as a soldier in some country far away and the only time he talks about his wife is on the chance somebody mentions that she is screwing around with his buddy.

Also, it would be a good idea to have separate houses to live in so when she does go ape he can quickly make his get away, and well away!!

Edit: snowflake i sympathise...i really do. Let's blame all of the marital problems that exist in this world on men, besides you insecurity you make a very very fair point. Look forward to hearing more of your feminist-lets-screw-men-up-the-**** like they've been screwing us the same way for years. That tune will soon change when you find someone who you cant wait to marry and want to be with ALL the bloody time, even if it means accepting their social faults and bloody annoying nature about them. We'll see then what you can say about us MEN.

Answer 3

Dear Minx,

My parents were married for 61 years. They were happy and in love all of those years. Yes, there were arguments; yes, there were differences in how the children were to be raised; and NO, there were never any instances of my father straying or my mother having a fling. They were devoted to one another. There are the few matches out there who are not only committed to one another, they understand that they have made a commitment to another person and called upon their God to witness this commitment. When their own commitment flags, they call upon God to help them through the tough times. It works. Unfortunately, not every day is spent on top of the mountain. There are some days that are spent in the valleys and they are very hard on both of the people in the marriage (and their kids), but keeping the commitment in mind and keeping their partner's feelings and dreams in mind, the hard parts are handled and the good times come again. My Dad died two months ago, and my Mother is lost. He was her whole life. It's a scary commitment she made, seeing what it's left her now, but I know if I asked, she wouldn't change a bit of it.

What doesn't work is when one, or both, of the people involved in the marriage are selfish and spoiled. They get mad and want to quit. They have not committed to the long haul. What they don't realize is that they will meet these same problems again and again with other people. It's sad to see so many quit for little reasons. Big reasons are different. You cannot have a successful marriage with an adulterer or someone into abuse, alcohol, or drugs.

Oh, yes, I know there are wonderful marriages out there. Yes, as others have said, you have to work at them, but they are very much worth it!!

Answer 4

Nothing, not even life lasts forever. Also none of us were ever given the ability to see beyond today lone less into the future. Life is full of chances/choices.We can do all the studying of our options you want but there is nothing that tells us exactly which are the best nor any guarantee on how long that chance will last, but the more chances we take the higher the odds of finding one that will last a long time. A long lived relationship starts off with a good strong base to which build a good relationship off of. There alot of and always willbe loads of temptations out here to test the strongest of relationships but with honesty and good communications as your base, your love coupled with anothers is srong enough to overcome any challenge. You cannot control how some else acts,so all you can do is be responsible for your own. Good luck

Answer 5

You cloud your question. Can a relationship last forever, yes. That's why the wedding vows include, till death do us part. Can a relationship last without problems, as those you listed, NO. People are human and thus have short comings and faults. They can if they want to work out these problems, learn from their mistakes and move on with their lives. A good analogy is, when the wind bends the tree, the tree grows stronger, by growing deeper roots.
Don't be disillusioned by those around you. look to your self and whom you find to enter a relation with. Good luck.

Answer 6

Some can last forever if you are willing to put TONS of work into it. Most don't though. People grow and change over the years and it is rare that two high school teens grow and change in the same direction over the years. But it is not impossible!

Answer 7

I actually have the same opinion as you do.

we live in a fast changing world which means we have no choice but to change with it and so we eventually drift apart from those we once loved.

There is one thing we should all learn from the start and that is that nothing good ever lasts forever but you just have to enjoy it while it lasts and when its gone dont get down over it, look forward to the next good thing that will happen to you.

hope that was some help.

Answer 8

There is alot of divorce in my family. I have seen relationship after relationship fail. I think the truth is that any marriage can last forever. It's not easy, and not fun alot of the time. You have good YEARS and bad YEARS. The secret is being willing to work through anything, and having a partner who is willing to do the same.

Answer 9

i believe it. i have been with my high school sweetheart since 1985. we have been married 17yrs and are very happy. and yes hes happy too and gives as much as i do in our relationship. we work on both of us being happy. hes never cheated and neither have i. but there is losers out there. and we have to tell our children just cause we found happiness the 1st time dont mean everyone does. sometimes u have to eat a few bad apples before u find a good one in the barrel.

Answer 10

i totally agree with you don't all relationships last forever. take be for example after i thought that i actually found the right guy this time it all turned out that he has been cheating on me ever since we started. And we have been going out for 6 months. But then again there might be a relationship that would be able to last that long. You just have to make sure if the person you're dating is truly the one you've been lokking for.