Shouldn't people be joining something together as a symbol of unity rather than cutting or splitting something?
2007-05-30 01:56:25 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I believe that Western marriages end in divorce because of the way they go into the marriage.
1) They sleep together before the marriage
2) They sign pre-nups (A dead ringer for upcoming divorces)
3) They don't work together
4) They argue
5) They fight over money
6) 50% of the time, the guy blows money like a drunk sailor
7) 50% of the time, it's the woman.
8) When the going gets tough, they fight and then give up.
My wife and I have been married for 6 months and we haven't had a single fight, yet. We work together on our finances, and we don't spend money without checking with the other.
We are on a budget, so we know how our funds are,
and we have both agreed that the only way this marriage ends, is when one of us get buried in the ground.
2007-05-30 02:43:45 · answer #1 · answered by josephwiess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are symbols of unity in the western marriage ceremony and cutting the cake has nothing to do with the divorce rate. people often get married for the wrong reasons...in our instant gratification life style having family, big home, kids is often thought of before thinking about the actual marriage to someone. people are meeting people over the internet everything seems fine for a while you think wow lets get married then you find out they are not the person they were over the internet (not personal experience but have seen it happen) people still get married because they are pregnant a very bad reason to get married, some people marry because they are lonely..some out of sense of duty IE its something they must do because its what their parents want for them. There are just so many reasons why but none of them have to do with the cake.
2007-05-30 02:15:28 · answer #2 · answered by t 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most christian marriage ceremonies include two lighting a candle to become one - the idea of joining. Cutting the cake together is sharing in good fortune.
Many marriages end up in divorce mostly from unrealistic expecatations of each other - they believe it's too much work, etc. The best thing for marriage is counseling prior to the wedding so that the couple's goals and beliefs are equally understood.
2007-05-30 02:07:07 · answer #3 · answered by lma0814 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I see where you are going with this..As a Westerner, when I really think about it, it could pass for bad luck or a bad omen---BUT that doesn't fall into our bad luck/bad omen category. I blame the internet for the high divorce rates of today....People find old sweet hearts and re-kindle what was loss from the past....Out West, we actually have more computers than any other country btw.
2007-05-30 02:03:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, my first wedding ceremony featured pouring a sweet and a dry wine together and my bride and I drinking from the cup, to symbolize our joining together in times of joy and in times of sorrow.
Didn't work; divorced.
I think we should be more conscious and intentional in choosing our symbols and rituals, but to suggest that a symbol causes a real-world consequence like this is just superstition.
2007-05-30 02:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the cake is the cute & delicious bit about western marriages. Find something else to blame & leave the cake alone :)
2007-05-30 02:50:57 · answer #6 · answered by Praxis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cake is good, thank you very much. You cannot think of everything in such a symbolic way. I mean, if you want to eat vegetables you have to CUT them, you wanna eat meat, you have to KILL the animal, you want to wear clothes, the cotton has to be PICKED, or the silk has to be MADE. You want to walk to the shops, you have to WALK and on the way STEP on many little germs and insects INVISIBLE to the NAKED eye.
So, there.
2007-05-30 02:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When its CAKE NOT a celebration? Birthday? wedding? Graduation? its a form of celebration in most things its the sharing of a meal (desert) if your doing a baby shower there is a cake, I can't think of a single celebration that don't enclude Cake... SO LET THEM EAT CAKE! ~giggles~
2007-05-30 02:18:40 · answer #8 · answered by lemonstwst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, no the problem with western marriages is that they expect things to always be happy. One sign of trouble and they run. They dont realize that yeah youre gonna hate your spouse sometimes, and sometimes youre gonna think theyre god, but you have to just ride the wave and stick by them. I dont think cake has anything to do with it, more like people expecting everything to be out of a fairytale story.
2007-05-30 02:01:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
God says man and woman are joined together as one. The beautiful old wedding vow is "What God has joined together, let no man put asunder."
The catch is - did God join the two together?
2007-05-30 02:01:08 · answer #10 · answered by Jeancommunicates 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋