What should I do with my life??

Question

I have so much stuff I need to get off my mind it's not funny anymore.

1. i've moved out of home 4 times only for them all to fail through somebody else's means (landlords, neighbours, employers)

2. any job i find i really suck at and only survive for limited amounts of time, i'm currently jobless and have been to more job interviews than anyone i know.

3. i seem to be the butt of everyones joke all the time.

4. people seem to dislike me, when ALL i've ever done is been nice to them and get derogatory comments back in return. they make me feel like an outcast.

5. my parents are separated, my dad just doesn't bother contacting us and my mum has very little faith in me.

6. everyone thinks i'm lazy and do flip all every day, but i try really hard most days to get a job

7. i have no girlfriend, i appear to get rejected by every girl i talk too...i wouldn't deem myself as being unattractive in anyway.

8. i'm actually horribly depressed from all 23 years of this now.

kurian....i don't have anything...that's kind of the point.

Answer 1

Find a therapist, you sound clinicly depressed.

Answer 2

Lets start taking things one at a time.
1. Start taking Control over your own life. No one can make you feel like a failure, till you yourself start thinking so.
2. I have a friend who sails in the same boat as you, on the job front. You need to re think ,"WHY do I need this job? ". few reasons will definetly come up, preventing u from remaining jobless. Don't look at giving more interviews, rather learn what u could have done to get the earlier jobs.
3. Ignore the jokes, slowly u will find they will dissappear.
4. So is the case with the people, they dont deserve you. Stand up for urself.
5. Ur parents have their own life, it is you who will have to help ur mom develop some faith in you.
6. Dont try hard to get a job. Catch hold of whatever is available and start doing it.
Forget all other things, and concentrate on yuor top priorities first.
Slowly everything will be back on track.
Always think Positive.

Answer 3

If all that you have mentioned above is correct, than yes some thing is wrong some where.When things are so much out of control and nothing seems to work, it is time for self evaluation. Remember you can not change views of others but you can and you have to change your attitude, aptitude, thinking, and general behavior.

At first find out what you have, item wise like

Health,
Physical appearance
Dressing sense,
Voice,
Mannerism
Sympathy and apathy
Knowledge

What you have to avoid

Negative thinking
Concern for "what people think and say " about you.
Coming in the ways of others.
Passing opinion on others
Listening to gossip

Short future action

If possible get some professional skill in a fields of interest to you.
Try for a job that requires (extensive) traveling
Try to be away , as much as possible , from your past contacts.
Always remember" I can not change others but I can change myself)
Try to take week end off to a place where you do not know any body
Change into new cloths hair style.
Every week end evaluate how much disturbance had you faced. See to it that those ideas or impulses that create disturbance are marginalized.

In a short span of time a "new" personality will emerge and that will be you..

Answer 4

Ah. That fleeting question that all of ask at one point or another, "What should I do with my life?" Some of us are really lucky and KNOW from birth what we're going to do. Others, wander meaninglessly from job to job.

I'm one of those wanderer's. I stick with a job for a few years, get bored, find another. My latest job? Stay at home Mom. Very boring. doesn't pay well, at all. My husband thinks all I do is sit on the computer all day (Ok, he may be right about that).

1. Get evaluated from a dr. You could have depression.
2. Set some goals. You need daily goals; weekly goals; monthly; yearly; and long term.
3. What do you LIKE to do? What are you passionate about? Write these things down and research careers around them. i.e., do you like animals? You might look into dog training, or vet tech, or stable hand. Computers are your thing? try fixing them; programming; web page design.
4. Ask you mom: "what did I like to do as a child that I was really good at?" Maybe she remember's things that you don't.
5. Realize that you HAVE NO CONTROL over your parents; men, typically, do not contact their children-it's just a man thing. Men don't like to talk on the phone, write letters; this does not mean he doesn't care. It just means he's a typical male.
6. Go to church. There is ONE THING that you can be enthusiastic about; find HIM, and everything else with have meaning. And, you may find a female-a nice one. (This should have been #1, but I didn't want to overwhelm you)
7. People don't dislike you. They pick on you only to make themselves feel better. When we find someone who's worse off then we are, we pick on them so WE can feel better about our situation. Try thinking of what you have to be thankful for: You have a roof over your head; you have food to eat; you have a computer with internet (how many people in the world do not have ANY of these things?)

When you realize how little other people in the world have, your life doesn't seem to suck as badly.
I'm lucky enough to live in a place where horses are outside my back door; my pony will walk into my kitchen if I leave my door open. This is every little girls dream.

Answer 5

Aaw, you really have my sympathy. Life is a ***** sometimes.

Try to get yourself out of this negative rut by thinking only positive thoughts. You say that you wouldn't deem yourself unattractive: that's a starting point. You're probably even more attractive than you realise.

You clearly have good language abilities. Your question is far above the average of what I read on Yahoo!

Don't listen to mean negative people. Even if you have only one friend, it's better to stick to positive company.

If you feel you need help, don't hesitate to find professional assistance.

And the best advice I can think of: look for companionship in a local church. Beware though, Christians are just human and may also let you down. But God will never...

Answer 6

dont you worry maybe this things happens to you because you are very close to yourself,you have build a big wall around you and you dont let anyone to get through it.so be more vivid and more open,you should talk with your mom about your troubles and for other problems whic troubles your mom to.have you ever ask yourself that your mother have problems to?so why you dont sit and discuss together and find a way to resolve it.you are feeling depreesd cause you think that everything bad that happens is connected with you,maybe you are not living now the time of your life,but this bad period will pass and the good things will come soon,if you really want to,because if you dont do an effort for yourself who is going to make it for you.so try to be tougf and optimistic about your life.life is the most precious thing, we live it once so get up and be faithful and everything good will sourround you,bye

Answer 7

Go to the army and get straightened out. Then you'll have some discipline, plus money to go to college. And on the bright side, you have been on a lot of interviews so nervousness can't be the problem there.

Answer 8

You have to talk with a professional. You are being tested by yourself to find the most precious, Yourself!!
Finding jewlery needs hard work.
The more you dig, the more bigger it can get, but you must talk with a professional doctor on this subject.
You will feel better! Believe yourself!!

Answer 9

Besides this question on YA, have you spoken to anybody about these things? The breakup of parents and family are very stressful losses. Your depression should be dealt with. Please see a Dr.

Answer 10

only thing u need is to do ur karma without expecting anything in reward.Have complete faith in GOD and follow Gandhigiri caring nothing for what others say.