moved from a big city to a nice town with my wife and kids but carnt find any work its been 12 months now am going mad with out work thinking of moving back to city for work but kids love it here just dont no what to do for the best
2007-05-30 00:34:43 · 7 answers · asked by brian s 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
love you kids ---how old are they ---if they are old sit them down and tell them you need to support the family and seek their opinion first coz you love them but if they are still you-----
man you and the head of the family and thus lift youself up and make a decision otherwise you will be a failure.
Dont blame your kids or anyone ---they dont see the future but you do .
2007-05-30 00:41:17 · answer #1 · answered by Raineli 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's hard to answer without knowing why you moved to the "nice town" in the first place, because you need to weigh the pros and cons of staying or moving back. Why would you move someplace that you don't have a job lined up?
12 months without income has got to be a huge strain on your finances. Go work anywhere, just get some money coming in while you continue to look for better work.
Kids never want to move. If it's best for your family and you can easily get good employment in the big city, then that may be the best decision for your family. Also, after only 12 months in the new town, I think that your kids should still have friends in the city they came from, and they will adjust just fine if you move back.
You didn't say how your wife feels about moving back, and if there's any opinion that is important, it's hers. (alongside yours, of course.)
2007-05-30 00:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you considered all your options eg. own business such as lawn mowing, using what skills you have etc? Would it be feasible to get a new trade? Or work for your old emloyer using the benefits of technology (maybe not, but it has happened for a couple of people who work for the place I used to work for). I think you need to talk to your wife about how you feel and what you should do, if you have not already. She should have the same desire to do the right things by the kids and know what is best for them, and for you too. Maybe she has some good ideas. Good luck. I personally think there are benefits for children being raised out of the city, but it is not essential, and it is important that they have a happy family first. It is probably obvious, but having each other and your health is most important, even if it means you have to move back to the city.
2007-05-30 00:52:11 · answer #3 · answered by Max 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have to ask why you would move without a job however you did so now you have to deal with it. There is no quality of life if you can't support yourself and your family. If the jobs for you are in the city then you are moving back to the city and the next time you decide to move, make sure you have the job first.
2007-05-30 01:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by dawnb 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brian kids adapt fast , after all they will be leaving new friends behind but in all honesty in 12 months they will settle into City life again and home is were the heart is in time you may be able to move back , the alternative is tighten the purse strings and look in neighboring towns , its not easy to sit back and struggle when you know life could be easier in the city . but simple life is comfortable to . it's your choice but the kids will survive either way you choose. I would not leave the family to work out of town though , but thats just me.
2007-05-30 00:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to move to where the jobs are. What have you been doing for the past 12 months. I dont' think I would have waited 12 months.
2007-05-30 00:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you have a job there when you decided to move there? its hard to give advice on this because you didnt specify if you have certain skills, etc. maybe start your own business?
good luck
2007-05-30 00:39:49 · answer #7 · answered by chantel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋